To the Girl With The Broken Heart

I'm not going to tell you that tomorrow you're going to feel better. I'm not going to tell you he sucks and that there isn't a reason to cry over him. I'm going to tell you the opposite, that it's okay to cry, to be upset and be ridiculous because you're only human and if that's what you're feeling then let it out.

There are a few things though that you may not want to recognize right now but one day soon they're going to make sense.

You will eventually get over him. Maybe not today, or this week or this month but the pain will slowly start to ease away.  There are going to be times that are easier than others, you may not even think about him for a few hours or a few days but then there are going to be other days. 

There will be days where you wake up thinking about him, wanting to reach for your phone to text him good morning like you used to, where you'll see things or think about things and it'd be something you'd usually talk about but you realize you don't talk anymore.

A song will come on the radio and you'll want to break down, and that's okay. But eventually those days will become fewer and fewer. Every little song won't cause you to start thinking about him, and eventually you'll realize that even though you love him you won't want to be with him.

If he cared, he'd show it. I know it sounds like a no brainer and it's one of the things that you push to the back of your mind. Your friends keep telling you this and you make excuses for him. However if he really cared about you he'd tell you. You have no problem telling him how you feel about him yet he says nothing in response, or if he does it isn't anything you deserve to hear. 

You are more than just a drunk text or a call when he's lonely. You see his name on your phone and your heart starts racing and you may even get a little shaky. 

"It's another 2AM call me up drunk again Cellphone lyin' on the nightstand turns into a buzz in my right hand" 

He's been drinking and he's going home alone, and he may have something that reminds him of you and he may realize for a few hours that he's missing you, but you know what the next days going to be like. You're going to give in tonight, you're going to tell yourself you won't but then you start thinking about kissing him and getting to snuggle up close to him one more time.

Then the morning comes and he sobers up, and decides that anything he told you the night before isn't true, and that you can't keep doing this and you go your separate ways again. Except it isn't the last time, it could be a week or a month and it happens again. 

You are so much more than a one night stand, and deserve a guy who is going to tell you how he feels when he's drunk and sober.

You deserve so much better. I know you don't think it right now, and you don't want to admit that he isn't as great as you think he is but it's true because you don't hurt the people that you care about. The things he said and did when you were together are the memories you hold onto, and it's who he was. 

He isn't that same guy right now and once you separate the two you'll realize you don't really like the guy he is right now because he doesn't make you smile. You deserve someone who's going to appreciate all you do for them, that adores you and doesn't take you for granted. 

A guy who is proud to have you as his own, and does what he can to make sure there's a smile on your face and never a frown and heaven forbid there ever be tears on your face unless their tears of joy. You deserve the moon and the stars, and you shouldn't have to ask for them.

You deserve respect, answers to your questions and genuine responses, not just silence or ignorance because the things you say don't mesh with what he was thinking.

He will miss you one day, and he will regret taking your love for granted. However by this time you'll have moved on and you won't miss him. You'll have put away the photos, put that t-shirt that you loved sleeping in somewhere where you don't reach for it and you'll delete the text conversation from your phone. 

He'll text you out the blue one day, or run into you out and about and you'll be calm and collected. Your heart won't race and you'll feel sorry for him. Sorry that it took him so long to realize that he had a wonderful girl in front of him, willing to stand through his stubbornness and that would have given him the sun had he asked. 

When you give up on him, he'll come to realize that it was one of the hardest things for you to do because when you fall, you fall hard and you invest your heart in it and the heart can sometimes be your worst enemy. And you'll walk away, with your head held high and a smile on your face.

You'll go through stages of wanting to strangle him, wanting to call him and tell him he's being irrational, days where you want to kiss him till he gets it in his head that he made a mistake, days you want to scream at him and days where you want to be alone.

One day you'll wake up and decide he's not worth the tears anymore. 

But today is probably not that day. 

You're hurting, and if you managed to get out of bed, go to work and make it to the store, eat something and drink something other than wine, then that's a step. Don't apologize for feeling. Never apologize for feeling, don't apologize for being soft.

There are too many people in today's world that are afraid to let themselves feel anything. Love can hurt, and you're feeling it right now but you're strong, intelligent, beautiful and in the end you'll be okay. 

Just be patient with yourself, like I said you're only human, and you're putting yourself back together.

10 Things to Know Before Capturing A Virgo Woman

A Virgo woman is analytical, a little stubborn and extremely romantic. However, not only do we make great friends, awesome partners in projects, great leaders we also make fantastic lovers. 

Though there are a few other things you should know about a Virgo woman.

We’re fiercely Independent.

Virgo’s know how to take care of themselves, especially Virgo women. We don’t need someone to take care of us; we do that on our own and very well.

We work hard for the things we want, we pay our bills and we play hard. Don’t take it the wrong way if we have a hard time breaking away from it and letting you do things for us, it’s not that we don’t appreciate it, we’re just not used to it.

We’re over-thinkers.

Seriously it’s one of our worst habits. We have a tendency to overthink anything and everything, from something minuscule as someone not responding to a text message to something big and life altering.

You have to be patient with us, we aren’t trying to blow things out of proportion it’s just sometimes our minds get ten steps ahead and not always in the best way. Working on slowing down and thinking things through productively is something we have to work on.

We’re extremely generous and helpful.

The shirt off our back, you need it, you got it. You need help moving, a shoulder to cry on? We will be there in a heartbeat, no questions asked. If you are in a pinch and scared to ask for help please don’t be.

We have a tendency to put everyone before ourselves, some may see that as a bad trait and could be easily taken advantage of but we can’t help it, it’s just in our nature.

We win the award for best listener.

Whether you need to vent about a terrible exam you took that day, your parents being on your case or that boy who broke your heart we’re here to listen.

We’re not going to judge, if you want to cry, scream yell or eat a pint of ice cream go ahead. We’ll be right there with you through it all because we know what it’s like to be upset.

The Queen of stubbornness is a Virgo.

Being wrong isn’t something we will openly admit to being.

We’re difficult and stubborn and it isn’t recommended to tell us that we’re being stubborn because that will just increase the amount of stubbornness you’re already witnessing. Trust me it won’t be a pretty sight.

Then we may get upset and Virgo women upset can lead to disaster. At this point you may want to take shelter.

We’re extremely loyal; if you are important to us we’ll show it.

You don’t have to worry that when we go out with the girls if the guy at the bar is going to catch our eye.

If we’ve dedicated ourselves to being with you, you’re whom we’re coming home to at night. If we declare you a friend whether we’ve talked in hours, days, weeks, months or years we’re there if you need us.

That loyalty continues even if we aren’t speaking. When we let you into our heart, you stay there, whether you removed yourself from our life or we’re the best of friends.

You call it OCD or a being a perfectionist we call it our own personal misery.

We have a problem, trust me we know, and we won’t admit it. We want things to be organized, our rooms, our lives or plans or anything we do.

Which means when we’re planning a surprise for someone or trying to do something nice for them we strive to make it the best it could be and don’t accept mediocre for anything.

We tell it like it is.

If there’s something you’re wrestling with and you need advice, come to us. We won’t sugar coat it, not because we enjoy being the asshole but because we care.

We’ll tell you if the guy you think you’re head over heels in love with is a jerk. We’ll tell you that moving across the country is a bad idea, or that dying your hair won’t fix the situation.

We’ll also help you figure out a better solution because that’s what we do, we’re problem solvers.

We’re our biggest critics.

You may tell us we look beautiful but we’ve told ourselves we look sloppy five times before you said anything.

When we do something wrong, we’re automatically critiqued ourselves right away. We don’t accept defeat easily and even though we know we can do better and we’re being encouraged it takes a little while for us to agree with it.

Even when we do something amazing and we’re proud of it, be patient with us because we appreciate the praise and it makes us feel better when we’re struggling on the inside.

You won’t find a better girlfriend to love and care for you.

Virgo women thrive in relationships. We feel most comfortable when we’ve bonded with someone who likes the same things that we like. We also like the challenge or learning new things with someone who likes opposite things and has different ideas.

When we find an intelligent, funny man who is just as stubborn as we are we love the push. We do romance like no other, we leave you cute reminders that we care and you won’t have to worry cause we’ll always be there.

Since we’re perfectionist and stubborn we tend to strive to be the best girlfriend we can be, whether it’s a chill night of Netflix and cupcakes or a night on the town, your Virgo woman will never fail to amaze you.

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20 Times Grey's Anatomy Has Figured it All Out

Whether we want to admit it or not a lot of us are hooked on Grey’s Anatomy. Between the drama, crazy surgeries and the utter heartbreak of watching your favorite character die we all hold on for different reasons. However there are been several quotes that have stuck out about life. 

Friendship: 

1. “If I murdered someone she’s the person I’d call to help me drag the corpse across the living room floor.”

2. “We’re friends, real friends. And that means, no matter how long it takes, when you finally do decide to look back, I’ll still be here.”

3.  “The ties that bind us are sometimes impossible to explain. Some bonds defy distance and time and logic; because ties are simply… meant to be.” 

4. “She’s my person.”

Love: 

5. “I love you, in a really really big pretend to like your taste in music, let you eat the last piece of cheesecake, hold a radio over my head outside your window, unfortunate way that makes me hate you, love. So pick me, choose me, love me.” 

6. “If you love someone, you tell them. Even if you’re scared that it’s not the right thing. Even if you’re scared that it’ll cause problems. Even if you’re scared that it will burn your life to the ground, you say it, and you say it loud and you go from there.” 

7. “You didn’t love her. You just didn’t want to be alone. Or maybe, maybe she was good for your ego. Or maybe she made you feel better about your miserable life— but you didn’t love her. Because you don’t destroy the person you love.” 

8. “You’re letting her think she has a chance. And there is nothing worse in the world that thinking you have a chance when you really don’t.” 

9. “Don’t chase me anymore, unless you’re willing to catch me.”

10. “You’re still my person, even if I’m not yours.”

Life:

11. “It can be scary to find out you’ve been wrong about something. But we can’t be afraid to change our minds, to accept that things are different, that they’ll never be the same, for better or for worse. We have to be willing ot give up what we used to believe. The more we’re willing to accept what is and not what we thought, we’ll find ourselves exactly where we belong.”

12. “At some point, you have to make a decision. Boundaries don’t keep other people out. They fence you in. Life is messy. That’s how we’re made. So, you can waste your lives drawing lines. Or you can live your life crossing them.”

13. “It’s one of those things people say “You can’t move on until you let go of the past.” Letting go is the easy part, it’s the moving on that’s painful. So sometimes we fight it, trying to keep things the same. Things can’t stay the same though. At some point you just have to let it go. Move on. Because no matter how painful it is, it’s the only way we grow.”

14. “It turns out sometimes you have to do the wrong thing. Sometimes you have to make a big mistake to figure out how to make things right. Mistakes are painful, but they’re the only way to find out who we really are.”

15. “I believe in the good. I believe that it’s been a hell of a year and I believe that in the face of overwhelming evidence to the contrary, we will all be okay.”

Hope:

16. “It’s not childish to hold on to hope. It’s actually hard-very, very hard.”

17. “Sometimes it’s good to be scared. It means you still have something to lose.” 

18. “There comes a point where it all becomes too much. When we get too tired to fight anymore. So we give up. That’s when the real work begins. To find hope where there seems to be absolutely none at all.”

19. “The future is the home of our deepest fears and our wildest hopes.” 

and… 

“When in doubt, dance it out.” 

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