43 Mini-Resolutions to Make Your November a Whole Lot Better

Let’s be real: New Year’s Resolutions are usually total bullshit.

Sure, we want to say that we’re going to go to the gym at least three times a week or completely change our diets so we can be super healthy, but these ideas are usually abandoned within the first two weeks of the new year.

Resolutions are hard, so let’s try something easier and take it a month at a time.

Eat at least one vegetable a week. If I’m feeling wild, I’ll eat two.
I’ll work out at least once a month.
Take the stairs at work instead of the elevator at least twice a week.
I’ll treat myself to something I want at least once a month.
Will binge-watch the shows I want to, even if they’re stupid or unpopular.
I’ll sing karaoke in public at least once.
Shall make dinner at home at least two nights a week.
I’ll try to opt for healthier foods when I order take out once a week.
Read more books, even if they’re just silly celeb memoirs.
I’ll keep a dream journal for my crazy dreams.
Buy a planner and try to use it for more than one month.
I’ll find a hobby and stick to it for more than a couple weeks.
Make time to see my friends more.
I’ll have weekly phone calls with my long-distance friends.
Remember to post more photos on social media so people don’t think I’m dead.
I’ll avoid getting drawn into work drama…as much as possible.
Will ctually go on Tinder dates instead of always cancelling them.
I’ll make a real online dating profile on a real (free) website, because Tinder is kind of sketchy tbh.
Respond to the messages from my online suitors, even if it’s just a “thanks for playing?? kind of message.
I’ll be nicer to my ignorant relatives, if only to prove that I can be.
Will ry to educate people about real world issues.
I’ll take myself on dates at least once a month to see a movie or a play that I’m interested in.
Stop ghosting on the boys that I’m not interested in.
I’ll be more honest with myself when I’m looking for excuses.
Will accept that “I’m not attracted to him?? is a reason to stop dating a guy.
I’ll try to understand that “No?? is a complete sentence.
Let go of the boys that are holding me back.
I’ll stop reading about murder when I’m supposed to be going to sleep.
Send cards to friends and family, just because.
I’ll remember that wearing a bathing suit is a right, not a privilege.
Start planning my Halloween costumes earlier than three days before the first party.
I won’t save my holiday shopping for the last minute, because those crowds are DEATH.
I’ll recycle more.
Try to take shorter showers, but it probably won’t work because showers are the best place to think.
I’ll look into better ways to organize things, and then probably ignore them in favor of my organized chaos method.
Will embrace that I like organized chaos.
I’ll wash my underwear instead of just replacing them.
Will do the same thing with socks…
I’ll buy music instead of just streaming it on Spotify.
Take myself on at least one trip that I want to go on, even if it means going alone.
I’ll try to figure that it’s okay to do things by myself.
Learn to love the person I have become, because I fought to get here.
I’ll focus more on myself, because I deserve to be selfish.

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19 Things You Know If You Grew Up As a Theatre Kid

You were the luckiest kid in the world because you got to pretend to be someone else and no one called you crazy for it.

Theatre was more than just an activity – A a musical it was a way of life.

“I can’t because I have a rehearsal” was always the response when someone wanted to hang out.
You know all the lyrics to every song in every show you’ve ever been remotely involved in, whether you had a lead or you worked backstage.
Judging the cast list was an expected part of every production.
Directors have favorites and it’s evident by who gets which part.
You have an opinion on every musical ever.
It was so annoying when people mixed upstage right and stage left.
You’ve kissed more people than you can count, offstage and onstage.
Showmances – AKA the relationships as a result of the show – were unlikely to last, but always happened anyway.
If you ever tried to date someone who didn’t also do theatre, you rarely saw them.
Being homophobic or racist or anything that involves discrimination is literally unfathomable to you because you grew up around such a diverse group of people.
Tech Week is Hell Week, no questions asked.
Your first dress rehearsal will always be terrible, even if the musical show ends up great.
The Tony Awards are a national holiday.
Hanging out backstage is almost more fun than performing.
Theatres and auditoriums have a million different hiding places, and you’ll find all of them.
You learned to do makeup for stage and you learned that doesn’t translate well to real-life makeup application.
Strike is just as fun as putting everything together.
Spending THAT MUCH time with your castmates and the crew made you want to strangle everyone.
Your cast was like your family every single time.

It was crazy and it was stressful, but you wouldn’t give up your theatre days to play sports any day.

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19 Truths of the Broke Girl Who’s Completely Addicted to Shopping

There comes a point in a girl’s life when she realizes just how fucking expensive it is to be a girl. Clothes, makeup, hair products…how’s a broke girl supposed to get everything she needs for a reasonable price?

That’s where thrift shopping comes in.

You never know what you’ll find, and that’s part of the fun.
Once you start thrifting, you literally can’t stop.
Seriously. If you see a thrift store, you’re going to pull over.
You know that a designer bag is a great investment…
But only if you’re paying less than half price.
Nothing is more comfortable than jeans that have already been worn in.
Second-hand shoes seem gross the first time.
Then you just can’t stop buying them secondhand!
You realize how infrequently people wear expensive shoes based on how nice they are when you find them thrifting.
Online thrifting became your favorite thing when you discovered it.
Seriously. Online. Thrifting.
Poshmark is your most visited website.
ThredUp is second.
When you find a real treasure, you know that you’ll keep it forever.
Finding vintage clothes is just as great as finding bargains.
Vintage jewelry adds spice to any outfit.
You love labels.
But you don’t love anything more than a great deal.
All of your outfits consist of at least one piece of thrifted clothing.

To all the ones just delving into thrift shopping, just know that when you start, you’re never going back.

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This post was originally published in 2016- and was updated. Promoting sustainable fashion is so important, especially now. Deep gratitude to the writer

To My Ex Who Won’t Leave Me Alone, It’s Time To Move The Fuck On

Every single time I think that I’m in the clear, there you are again.

You’re liking my best friend’s Facebook photos when I’m tagged in them and commenting on my Instagram photos to tell me that I’m beautiful. You’re favoriting my tweets and always watching my Snapchat stories.

I tell myself that you’re just a little hung up on me and that it’s “totally normal” to still like your ex’s posts. You’re just taking a little longer than most people to let go of your last relationship.

My friends say that I need to stop being nice. “He liked that pic I posted last night,” they’ll text me, “and I just think it’s kind of creepy that he’s still so into you after you broke up so long ago.”

I always tell my friends the same thing I tell myself: You’re just a little hung up on me. Maybe you’re just being nice. It’s totally normal to still like your ex’s posts on social media.

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25 Reasons Donald Trump is Still #NotMyPresident

The majority of Americans did not elect Donald Trump. This is a fact.

Since he was elected, people have been saying that Trump is #NotMyPresident.

And you know what? Eight months later, he still isn’t my president.

He thinks that he is entitled to women’s bodies.
Remember when he said that he would “grab them by the pussy” and we were all disgusted?
He also believes that men should get to decide what happens with women’s bodies.
He doesn’t support a woman’s right to choose.
He has sexually assaulted multiple women.
He had a panel of people discussing women’s rights…without a single woman.
He mocked a reporter with a disability during the campaign.
He claims to be an ally of the LGBT+ community, but his actions prove otherwise.
His VP is widely known to be anti-LGBT and supports conversion therapy.
All of his appointments to cabinet were horrendous choices.
Especially Betsy Devos for education.
He doesn’t believe in climate change in spite of the evidence.
He believes all Mexicans are illegal immigrants and rapists.
He said that the best Mexican food comes from the Trump Grill. (Honestly, still SO CONFUSED about this one.)
He still wants to build a wall between the United States and Mexico.
He still thinks that Mexico should pay for said wall.
He believes all Muslims are terrorists.
He literally equated Black Lives Matter to the white supremacists.
His statement about Charlottesville was literal scripted bullshit.
He was more enraged about his daughter’s fashion line being removed from Nordstrom than he was about the “protest” in Charlottesville.
He said that “both sides” made mistakes.
Even Mitt Romney is acknowledging the atrocities and Trump still won’t.
He believes that removing statues of racists and memorabilia of the Confederacy is “erasing history.”
He would rather stand with white supremacists than support America.
He is an awful human being.

Trump is #NotMyPresident, and I hope that he soon won’t be president at all.

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37 Reasons to Swipe Left and Delete Your Dating Apps

Like most people in our generation, I’ve been on my fair share of dating apps. (Okay, more than my fair share…)

Like most people, I’ve developed a weird addiction to checking my dating apps on a fairly frequent basis.

Sometimes you just need to realize that the apps are doing more harm to you than good.

You’re on more than two dating apps.
Seriously. Tinder, Bumble, OkCupid, Zoosk…
How many apps will you download? The limit (probably) does not exist.
Whenever you hear about a new app, you just HAVE to try it out.
You’re super disappointed when you realize that it isn’t popular in your area yet.
Even though you’ve seen the same people on every single app, you still hope that you’ll find someone new.
You’re actually judging people for NOT being on dating apps.
“Everyone uses dating apps” comes out of your mouth at least once a day.
You’re actually defensive when someone asks why you’re using OkCupid.
The first thing you check in the morning isn’t the weather or Twitter anymore.
Instead, it’s ALWAYS your new Tinder matches.
You’re talking to so many people that you’re actually mixing up the conversations.
And not in a “haha, I’m so funny because I’m talking to three people” way.
At least half of your conversations start with, “I was talking to a guy on…”
You’ve cycled through every single person on Tinder, Bumble, and OkCupid.
You’ve actually gone back through your old matches to see if there was some diamond in the rough that you missed.
Every time you see someone you know has a significant other, your view of love dies a little more.
You’re starting to wonder if love even exists.
All of your self worth comes from the number of matches you get.
If you swipe through ten people and not get a single match, you immediately start to question everything.
You think that what your Tinder bio says is one of the most important things in your life.
Interesting messages aren’t your priority anymore.
You respond to every single “hey” that you get sent.
There are so many random phone numbers in your phone.
Seriously. How many guys named “John” do you ACTUALLY know?
You’ve developed a hierarchy of dating apps.
So meeting a guy on this app is better than that app…
You’re afraid to swipe left on anyone because they MIGHT be your soulmate.
You’ve talked to guys that your friends have talked to in the past…
Even though you know you won’t like them.
Your dating apps are the most used apps on your phone.
Seriously. Your shortcuts are ALWAYS Tinder, Bumble, and OkCupid.
If you’re interested in a guy IRL, your first thought is always, “Would I swipe right on him?”
Dating is starting to feel like a second (or third) job.
You don’t get excited about potential dates anymore.
Honestly, you’re so drained that you don’t even want to go.
Dating apps don’t make you happy anymore.

Sure, there are perks to dating apps. But sometimes you just need to take a dating detox.

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My Heart Is Still Fighting For Us Even Though I Want to Give Up

“The heart is always the last one to leave the fight.” – Jay Long

You broke my heart, shattered it into so many pieces that I thought that it would probably never be whole again.

I’m the one who picked up the pieces and put myself back together, piece by piece until the only thing missing was the shard of heart that you took with you.

I knew that I would never get that back, and I thought I would learn to survive. I’d lived before you; there was no reason that I couldn’t remember how to live without you.

But even now, my heart still wants to fight for us.

I’ll find myself waking up in the middle of the night and reaching for you. When my fingers catch air instead of you, I can feel my heart sink into my stomach even though I knew that you weren’t there.

Something funny will happen and I’ll reach for my phone, sure that you’ll find the story as hilarious as I do. But when I type your name, I remember that you aren’t the one I’m supposed to share funny stories with anymore.

When something goes wrong, you’re the only one that I want to console me. I want you to rub my back and tell me that things are going to be okay, that I am strong enough to handle anything.

But I’m still not sure that I’m strong enough to handle life without you in it.

In my head, I know that things are over and I want to let you go.

We broke up. We’re over. We’re done.

But there’s something inside me that won’t let me let go.

That single piece of my heart that’s missing, the piece that you hold with you at all times even if you don’t realize it…that’s what’s keeping me from letting go.

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23 True Crime Facts That Will Boggle Your Mind

There are few things that shock us anymore. I mean think about it, we’re exposed to so much information these days that we’re numb to how cripplingly disturbing some human beings are and have been in the past. It’s mind boggling to even think that, at one point, people like this walked around just like the rest of us.

Ted Bundy used ruses – like fake injuries – to draw his victims into his Volkswagen Beetle.
He also killed women who resembled his ex-fiancee who broke his heart.
Bundy is widely considered to be the best looking serial killer and he’s actually going to be played by Zac Efron in a movie.
He worked at a suicide hotline and probably saved just as many lives as he took. (Not that that makes up for being a serial killer…)
Oh, and did you know that Ted Bundy literally broke out of prison and attacked a sorority house in Florida?
He ended up being executed in Florida in the late 80s.
Gary Ridgway has the highest body count in the United States.
Seriously over 100 confirmed kills.
Even though he’s the most prolific serial killer in American history, he’s considered really, really boring by the true crime community.
HH Holmes is considered to be America’s first serial killer.
He built a literal murder castle in Chicago during the World Fair.
Most of his stuff was about money though, which is actually a lot less interesting than people think.
The first sexual psychopath (AKA the kind of serial killer most of us know about) was Earle Nelson.
His nickname was the “Gorilla Killer.”
Also, like no one has heard of him at all even though he killed at least twenty-two humans across the country.
Jeffrey Dahmer wanted to make “love zombies.”
Like he injected people’s brains with stuff that ended up killing them instead of turning them into love zombies.
One of his victims escaped and Dahmer told the police it was just his drunk boyfriend.
He also ate people, so there’s that.
John Wayne Gacy was a literal killer clown.
No, seriously. He dressed up like a clown at kids birthday parties.
He has the second highest confirmed body count in the United States
John Wayne Gacy? He was the manager of a KFC.

So you might not have the greatest fun stories about your own life, but you know way more about murder than everyone else.

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Here's a Big 'Fuck You' to Trump's America

Hate is a four letter word, and it seems to be the only thing that pops up in the news and on my newsfeed since Trump took office in January.

I never thought that I would live in a world where I feared for the lives of my friends and family because of a white supremacists and Nazi sympathizers. This is 2017. This was supposed to be different.

Fuck you, Mr. Trump.

Fuck you for condoning hate, because not speaking out against neo Nazis and white supremacists is effectively approving of their behavior.

You have condemned everyone from Mexicans to Muslims, but you can’t bring yourself to say that neo Nazis and white supremacists are in the wrong.

Congratulations, you have chosen the wrong side.

Even Mitt Romney has come out against these people. You know that you’re doing something wrong when even Mitt Romney is better than you are.

Fuck you, Trump supporters.

Whether or not you’re attending “protests” for white supremacy and chanting “Make America White Again” is irrelevant. You have created the situation. Because of your ignorance, you have put millions of Americans in danger.

If you’re one of the horrendous human beings who is standing in the streets and supporting the white supremacists, fuck you.

You have created the situation. Because of your ignorance, you have put millions of Americans in danger.

Fuck you, silent Americans.

Fuck you for refusing to assist women, people of color, religious minorities, and the LGBT+ community during their times of need.

If you have stayed silent in an act of oppression than you have chosen the side of the oppressor. I know where I stand. What about you?

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How to Love the Girl with High Functioning Depression

When your girlfriend has a mental illness, it can be really hard for you to know how to interact with her.

She doesn’t want to seem uninterested, but sometimes she just can’t help it.

As the girl with high functioning depression, it can be hard to maintain and interest level in all things.

She needs to be reminded that it’s okay if she can’t give her 110% all the time.

It can be hard to be in love when you’re depressed, even with the person who you love more than anything.

Actually, everything is harder when you’re depressed.

Just because she can get up, go to school/work, get homework done, and make appearances at social events doesn’t mean that she isn’t working her ass off emotionally to make it through the day.

When you have high functioning depression, everything's a struggle.

Getting up to make it to work on time? She might hit the snooze button a few extra times because she’s just that exhausted even if she got ten hours of sleep the night before.

She needs to be checked in on and told that she isn’t a burden.

When you have an invisible illness like high functioning depression, self-doubt can creep in at the worst of the times. If she needs help, she’s going to be less likely to ask. That’s why so many people don’t know that people have high functioning depression.

Asking if she’s doing okay, how she’s managing her stress level, and if she needs anything are easy ways to make sure she knows that you love her and she isn’t a burden.

Encourage her to get help if she needs it.

Seeing a counselor or taking medication can seem like admitting that she can’t handle her life the way that it is, but she needs to know that it’s okay to ask for help.

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