Author: Coffeeaddict99

We all do it; we just have to learn how to embrace it…

1. Date someone totally wrong for you… the experience will show you what you should really be looking for in a relationship.

2. Skip class one to many times… After all you can retake that class, but you can’t retake your life.

3. Spend money on stupid things… So what you chose concert tickets over paying your car insurance this month. At least you had a good time.

4. Take a job that you hate… Spoiler alert: your first job is not going to be your dream job.

5. Go to a frat party and drink a little too much… Being hung over in class may not be cute, but at least everyone will know you had a good night.

6. Ignore your parent’s advice… Or follow your parent’s advice, when you already know it’s not what’s right for you. You’ll realize you have to do a little bit of both sometimes.

7. Pretend to know adult things, when in reality you don’t… Taxes? Health insurance? 401Ks? What do people wear to weddings? All reasons why your parent’s advice can still be a good thing. 

8. Try eating like you did when you were in high school… (Soon enough you’ll be putting that brownie down and finding your way to the campus rec) 

9. Drift away from old friends, or maybe choose new ones over the old… It’s never fun to lose touch with someone, but if you’re really friends, you’ll find your way back to each other. 

10. Think that you’re all grown up now… Ha. You will soon learn the truth to that one. 

11. Think that everyone else is doing better than you… But actually no one has it all figured out, they’re all just as scared, confused and hungry as you are. 

12. Avoid breaking up with someone out of fear of being alone… If you drag it out long enough, maybe they’ll just breakup with you or if you’re lucky, just forget that you’re dating. 

13. Waste large amounts of time binge watching your favorite shows on Netflix… (Even if One Tree Hill is as close as you’ll ever get to being a basketball fan) 

14. Spend every waking moment obsessing about how uncertain your future is… (I know it’s scary, but no one actually knows what they want to do for the rest of their life) 

15. Try to move out on your own and support yourself… You will soon see why your parents always told you money doesn’t grow on trees.

16. Let yourself fall in love… You never know, maybe you won’t get hurt this time, maybe he is the one.

17. Question if you’re in the right major, or even change your major once, or a couple of times… College is meant to be a time for you to explore your possibilities and find yourself.

Sisters are often very protective of one another and this can be difficult for anyone new who tries to entire one of their lives, especially boyfriends.

We want what’s best for our sisters and we will go into over protective sister mode if we don’t think a boy is the best thing for her. 

My sister has had a fair share of good and bad boyfriends and heart breaks throughout her life. 

I have tried my hardest to come up with reasons and drop hints that she needed to break up with a certain boy or tried to convince her to stay with another forever. 

I have accepted that my sister will marry who she wants, and while she may listen to my opinion, she will obviously listen to her heart first. With that being said, here’s a letter to the boy my sister loves, but I have indifferent feelings towards.

Hey there,

So I know things can be hit and miss with us sometimes. We try to befriends for my sister’s sake but we often butt heads and fight.  

You know that she’s my sister and I know that she’s your girlfriend. We are kind of in competition for her attention, but, let me get one thing straight here. 

She’s mine. She was mine before you came into the picture and she’ll be mine if you ever decide to leave (which you better not, because she loves you and I don’t know if Ice cream and a night out can fix that kind of heartbreak). 

Let me explain this to you in further detail. I know everything about her,beyond the stuff you tell one another during the first few months of a relationship. 

Beyond the things you just pick up from being around someone for so long. I know which pair of shoes are her favorite, and that she has a duplicate pair of them. I know not only her favorite place to eat, but what she likes to order from there. 

I know that her socks will never match and that she even buys them that way. I know where all her hiding spots are around the house, and which pictures she refuses to delete. 

I know so much about her, it’s like we are the same person at times. I hope one day you will know all these things too, but I know that like other boys, it’s possible that in a few months, you could be gone. So as not only her sister, but her best friend,promise me this:

Promise me that when she is upset, you will give her a shoulder to cry on.Know that she doesn’t cry easily, so when she does, it’s serious. 

 Promise me that when she is sick, you will make her soup and tuck her in to bed. She doesn’t like to seem weak or helpless so you might have to fight heron this.

Promise me that when she asks for coffee, you’ll get it just how she likes.Medium Carmel iced coffee from Dunkin with cream and so much sugar that it’s practically sugar water with a tint of coffee flavor added. (And remember, it’s always iced coffee, no matter the weather) 

 Promise me that when you go on road trips, you won’t even consider stopping for seafood and you will always remember to check that her food is peanut free. 

Promise me you won’t call us immature when we start reminiscing on the past and reenacting some of our favorite childhood memories. 

Promise me that you won’t hog her on birthdays, holidays or any day of the year for that matter. I have had her for 20 years now, and I would like her for oh say, 80 more.

Promise me that when she is having a bad day and takes it out on you,you’ll know to start playing any Disney movie or take her to the nearest animal shelter to play with puppies or kittens or any animal for that matter. Because those are her favorite things and they are sure to get her smiling again. 

Promise me you’ll like her Instagram posts, and post pictures of her on yours. It may seem stupid to you, but after all it’s the small things.

Promise me you won’t call when we are having Netflix dates. Binge watching our favorite shows is serious business between two sisters. 

Promise me you won’t break her heart.

 Promise me you’ll treat her like the princess she is.

She has been my best friend for 20 years now, we have been through the good times and the bad times. We have cried together through deaths of loved ones,including our beloved pets. We have celebrated graduations together, both our own and those of friends. 

We were there for one another’s prom and homecoming pictures, and wound up in more pictures than the others date. (Sorry, not sorry) We were the first to congratulate the other on sports championships and being named M.V.P. We suffered through dreaded family parties, weddings, and first days of school together and so much more. 

She will always be my sister,but also my best friend. And when I’m standing at the altar with her in a few years, I hope that she’s looking at you. Because even though I don’t get it,and probably never will, she loves you, and she deserves for you to love her back. 

 She is my sister, and even when she acts like I’m a pain in her butt and she wants nothing to do with me, promise me that you’ll have my back. 

She is your girlfriend, and when she calls me complaining about how you are a pain in her butt and wants nothing to do with you, I promise I will have your back as well. Well most of the time anyway, boys can be dumb sometimes and who am I to argue with that fact. 

We are in this crazy relationship together, whether you like it or not. What’sMine is yours. 

I Know there is going to be a lot of bumps in the road and I don’t know how this will all play out, but the one thing I do know is that you got yourself a good one. She deserves the best, so promise me one last thing, promise me that the best is what you’ll try to be. 

 Love, 

Her Best Friend and Your Future Sister in Law

I blamed myself for the longest time. I constantly asked myself how did I not know you were cheating on me? I had my suspicions but I kept letting them go telling myself to trust you and to believe the lies you were telling me. I ignored my friends advice and defended you when they said I deserved better. How could I of dated you for six months and not known that you had another girlfriend of four months? 

But now, I’m done blaming myself. I did everything I was suppose to. I trusted you. I loved you. I put you first. I kept thinking I was the one who lost out in this situation but in reality it was you.

You cheated not only on me but on yourself. You cheated yourself out of a great girl who was committed to you and willing to give you the world. You lost something great and what did I lose? A guy who could care less about me or how I feel. I lost being lied to. I loss the feeling of having to second guess every little thing. 

I now realize that I should be thanking you. You cheating on me allowed me to be free and to now be in a relationship with a guy who would never treat me as horribly as you once did. So thank you for not only cheating on me, but cheating yourself.

If you played soccer in high school, you know what I mean when I say soccer was literally your life. You spent hours at practice, games, tournaments, and workouts. When you finally had to leave it behind, it broke your heart a little bit, but you realized there were some habits and quirks you couldn’t kick once you retired that uniform and cleats:

1. Bend it like Beckham is still life and you watch it every time it’s on
2. You still own and wear your Soccer shorts
3. You also have a drawer full of old jerseys and tournament tees
4. The smell of your soccer bag still haunts you
5. Any time you hear a song that was on your old warm up cd you instantly get pumped
6. You will defend that soccer is as much of a sport as football until the day you die
7. And when you go to the gym, you do the same conditioning workouts
8. Every now and then, you still try to juggle a ball
9. And every time it’s “I hope I still got this.???
10. If you can still do it, your favorite party trick is “want to see how many times I can juggle????
11. You still have the occasional nightmare about scoring in the wrong goal or having a hand ball in the box
12. Inspirational speeches are your thing because you gave/listened to so many during the season
13. You will always swear that you were in the best shape of your life during the season
14. You have permanent scars, wounds, or injuries because of soccer and sometimes you literally feel like you’re eighty years old.
15. You often refer to your soccer days as your “glory days.???
16. You’ll take any opportunity to wear your old uniform as a “costume.???
17. You still rock the tan lines that have never fully gone away
18. You still haven’t found a rush quite like the feeling of scoring the winning goal
19. You still prefer and love to go running in the pouring rain
20. You still find yourself yelling at the refs when you watch a game on TV
21. You refuse to get rid of your old spikes, they were once your prized possession and they have been through so much with you
22. You own fifty soccer socks in various colors but somehow none match
23. You live for the women’s World Cup because it proves women’s soccer is entertaining
24. You insist they need to change the definition of soccer to a contact sport 
25. Your first instinct when you see a ball is to kick it
26. Your old jersey number is still your favorite number
27. If a ball is flying at you, you think of every alternative to catching it 
28. You still eat like a soccer player
29. You tend to be a soccer mom in the future
30. You miss it like crazy, because there’s nothing else like leaving everything you have on that field
    

Oh, good old YSU. It’s been a wild ride so far these past two years. Now as I’m about to prepare myself for another semester here, I have some burning questions that I can’t be the only one wanting answers too. I have been carrying these questions since my freshman year, and they just need answered. Now.

1. Why do classes not get canceled when its negative 20 degrees outside?

2. Why do teachers who receive terrible evaluations still work here?

3. Why is the Wi-Fi a joke?

4. Why does campus always smell disgusting outside of Cushwa?

5. Why aren’t their enough outlets in public seating?

6. Speaking of public seating, why does every chair I find have some kind of mysterious stain on it?

7. Why do we have to pay $250 dollars for a book that isn’t even bound?

8. Why isn’t their ever enough parking?

9. Why are all of the parking decks so sketchy?

10. Why aren’t their more food options that deliver? A girl can only handle so much Jimmy Johns.

11. When did Humans vs. Zombies become so popular? It would be nice to not get hit by a random dart while walking to class.

12. Why do thirty minute parking meters exist? What class only lasts 30 minutes?

13. Why must you take an entire parking lot away for tailgating? As earlier mentioned, there is not enough parking for that.

14. Why is one of the qualifications for working for parking services being able to sleep on the job?

15. Why don’t we have real doctors in the health center?

16. Why the hell would you start road construction during the middle of the semester?

17. Why do all of the food places on campus close so early?

18. When will we have a semester when a new building isn’t going up?

19. Why do professors use books they’ve authored as required texts?

20. Why do none of the advisors actually know what they are doing?

21. Why do I know more about what I need then they do?

22. Where are all of the attractive guys at? (Probably at the rec, where I should go more often.. oops)

23. What does it take for a threat to be credible?

24. Why do the bathrooms in Ward always smell disgusting?

25. Speaking of ward, why is that elevator the sketchiest thing I have ever seen?

26. Why Pepsi products? Just why?

27. Why doesn’t Chik-Fil-A deliver?

28. Why do a dime and a quarter get me the same amount of time in the meter?

29. Why can’t I have any pets on campus? Like come on, what harm will a fish do?

30. Have you ever heard of parking that’s actually close to where I have to walk?

31. Is the whole “get hit by a car on campus, get free tuition thing” even real?

32. Why do the cross walk lights only give me ten seconds to cross the street? Am I supposed to sprint?

33. Why can’t we have puppy palooza every day?

34. Why is it so hard to find a campus job?

35. Why are the vending machines never full?

36. Have you heard of heat in the winter?

37. What about air in the summer?

38. Why must summer classes start before 8?

39. Why does the campus Dunkin’s coffee taste so bad?

40. Why don’t we have a live penguin as our mascot anymore?

41. Have you ever thought of a kitty palooza?

42. Why do all of these concerts take place on Thursday nights when I have an 8am class the next day?

43. Do we really have a school paper, or is that just something they tell you?

44. You want me to show school spirit, so why make clothes in the bookstore so unaffordable? After all, I am a broke college student.

45. Why is it that half of my professors can’t speak English?

46. Would it really break the bank to get some toilet paper that wasn’t super thin?

47. Why do you not believe in shoveling the sidewalks?

48. Do you know that people say that YSU stands for; You Screwed Up?

49. Despite all the complaining I do, why wouldn’t I be proud to call myself a Guin?

50. And finally what will I do without this place once I graduate?

Sometimes he mentions your names, tells me about the things you did together and talks about the ways that you hurt him and all the wrong that you did. As much as it pains me to know that he has been hurt so badly by another, I want to thank you. Thank you for letting the most amazing man in my life go.

First, I would like to ask you, how did you not see what you had when you had it?

My boyfriend is amazing in every way possible; he is the guy that most girls dream of having. So I can’t help but wonder, what is wrong with every single one of you who hurt him? As much as I would like to criticize you for your stupidity of letting him go, I can’t help but be happy that you did. I am now benefiting from your stupidity of not knowing what you had until it was gone.

I am so grateful for every time he brings me coffee to work on those early Monday mornings, or calls simply to see how I am doing. My heart skips a beat every time I see him walking towards me, I have never felt this way before and I know I won’t be letting him go.

Do you know just how guarded and scared of being hurt you made him? It was so hard, and sometimes still is hard to break through his walls and get him to open up and trust me after all that you have done. You broke him in every way possible, and made it so hard for him to give his love to someone new without the fear of being completely crushed again.

Do you know how many pinky promises and late night heart to hearts it took for me to convince him that I won’t hurt him the way you did? I hope you hate yourself for hurting someone so kind. I hope you regret all the cheating and all of the lies. I hope you realize just how amazing he is and that you lost the best thing to ever come into your life. But in the end, your loss is my gain.

So now I would like to say thank you…

It is so difficult to hear him talk about all the ways you have hurt him. To know that someone was able to do those things, to someone so sweet, and so kind. But because of that, because of you, I constantly try to be better than anyone else ever has for him. And trust me, He has already told me that I am the best he has ever had, and I plan to continue to be.

Thank you for treating him wrongly, and ultimately breaking his heart. If it wasn’t for that, for all of you hurting him, I never would have got the chance to love him the way I do now. In all honesty, I am thankful you were a part of his life because at some point, at one time, you truly made him happy. But now it’s my turn to make him happy, and I promise to do so as long as I can.

Now that I have fallen in love with this boy, I just can’t imagine how anyone could ever hurt him or let him go. He is beyond amazing and I will do my best to do something that you were unable to do, love him. I will do my best to make sure that he always knows how proud I am of him and just how much I care. I will make sure he is always happy and that he knows just how much I love him.

Thank you for not realizing just how lucky you were, and for me giving me the chance that you seemed to take for granted. Most importantly, thank you for letting go of an amazing guy and for making me the luckiest girl in the world.

Their are so many ways to tell your significant other how you feel about him but what about all the small things you forget to tell him you appreciate. Here is a list of 30 things you should always remember to thank your boyfriend for.

1. For listening to everything you say. Whether you’re complaining about your day, gossiping about a friend, or just mumbling on about the new tv show your addicted to on Netflix, he listens.

2. Thank him for being your better half

3. For loving you even on your worst of days

4. Thank him for always telling you, you don’t need makeup but then saying how beautiful you look once you have it on

5. For loving you even when you don’t love yourself

6. Thank him for tolerating your friends, even the ones who are nearly impossible to get along with

7. for letting you have control of the radio in his car, even though he hates that song you put on repeat for hours at a time

8. Thank him for reassuring you that you’re the only one he wants

9. For always telling you, you look beautiful

10. Thank him for bringing you coffee to work on those dreaded Monday mornings

11. for taking pictures with you when you ask, even if he’s not in the mood

12. Thank him for being patient when you say you don’t care where you go to eat, but then shoot down every idea he gives

13. For driving you anywhere, anytime. He loves having you in the passenger seat

14. Thank him for giving you his phone password, even though he knows you trust him

15. For trusting you in return, and never asking for your password.

16. Thank him for going shopping with you, even though that means hours of walking around the mall with you not knowing what to buy

17. For shareing his food with you, especially when you insit you aren’t even hungry

18. Thank him for always taking care of you, and checking in to make sure you’re okay

19. For watching that girly drama show with you on Netflix, and for trying to remember the charactors names simply to impress you

20. Thank him for not complaining when your hair gets in his mouth, or you shed all over his bed, room and car

21. For letting you “borrow” his hoodies and T-shirts knowing he will never get them back

22. Thank him for treating your family like his own and for making you feel completely comfortable around his

23. For dealing with your crankiness and never once complaining when you’re difficult

24. Thank him For liking your many posts on social media

25. And for posting about you on his

26. Thank him for remembering dates such as your anniversary and birthday

27. For always making you laugh and smile

28. Thank him for loving you unconditionally, and for never giving up on you

29. For apologizing when you’re to stubborn too, just to end the fighting

30. Lastly thank him for being your person, and for simply being who he is

I was different before I met you; I never tried very hard in relationships. I rarely ever trusted anyone; I had the mindset that if kept my guard up and didn't let anyone in, that things would be easier. But then you happened, I met you and everything changed. You showed me so many new things, like how to trust and how to love and be loved back.

You taught me how to love without the fear of being hurt or the fear of regret. You taught me not only how to love you, but how to love myself. And for that, I thank you.

When I met you, I was in a bad place. I had been heart broken, let down, and lied to more times than I can count. I didn't know what it was like to love someone and truly be loved back. I had only seen the pain of love and never the good. I had been used, told I was worthless, let down, cheated on and abused.

But then you came along, you told me you fell in love with more than just my beauty, but my mind and the way I looked at life differently. You said you fell in love with all of my quirks and the way my eyes light up when I see a dog or the way I got nervous and stumbled on my words the first time we met. You fell in love with not only my good, but my bad as well. You learned about my past and all of my scars and you loved me for all of them.

You showed me all that I was worth and made me feel strong again. You allowed me to be myself, and for that I could never thank you enough. For all of the late night car rides and up all night talks. For letting me know the real you, and for treating me like a queen. For being there when I needed you, and for not leaving even when I told you to. You taught me how I deserved to be treated and taught me that not all love was bad.

I will never be able to put into words just how grateful I am that you helped me conquer my fear of falling in love again. You lifted me up when I was at my lowest and got me to open up to the idea of love again. You loved me when I didn't even love my self. You showed me that love doesn’t have to come with pain and regret. You proved to me that what I came to know wasn't all that there was for me to be offered. Thank you for being the reason that I changed my mind about love.

Most importantly, thank you for loving me the way I deserve to be loved.

To my amazing teammates,

To the people who have seen me at my best, my worse and everything in between. To the people that are always there to support me no matter what the situation is. To the people who push me to be a better athlete and better person. Most importantly, to the people who have become my best friends.

Starting out I never imagined any of you to be more than just my team, but boy was I wrong. We have transformed from strangers, to teammates, to best friends, to family. For the way that you care about me, and give me advice. From my love life, to my grades, to me becoming a better player. Your there to pick me up after a tough day, help me when I am sick and above all just to check in and make sure that everything is okay. You are there when I need help going to the doctors, getting a ride to practice or just buying ice cream at midnight.

You have all believed in me and everything that I am trying to do, even when I didn’t believe in myself. You have listened to my problems and gave me tough love when I needed it. You always have my back, and knowing that I have my entire team on my side if something went wrong is the best feeling in the world. Between the long bus rides, the late nights in hotels, the many laughs, the nicknames, the wins, the losses, the tears, the crazy group chats, and the coaches we all hated, we have grown together and became way more than just a team.

I can always count on you guys to give me a laugh when one is needed. You can tell instantly when something isn’t right and know just how to prevent me from having a mental breakdown. You have offered to have bail money ready when that girl ticked me off or said you'll be sitting right next to me in jail when that boy broke my heart. You are always ready to jam out to 90's throw backs with me and bust out the crazy dance moves. You share all my inside jokes and know all my little quirks.

You all understand what I am going through, the ups and downs of being a student athlete, of juggling so many different things. The stress that it has, and the want to be successful. I know that you are all putting in 100% which makes me want to do the same; you make me better even though you don’t know it.

You fill my life with happiness and love that I never knew could come from being on a team. It’s true that we don’t always get along, we don’t have everything in common. We come from different backgrounds and may not always see eye to eye. But at the end of the day we are a team and have each other’s backs.

I am internally grateful for everything that you have ever done for me. Because without all of you, I don’t know where I would be, I don’t know how I could live so far away from home without the support of each and every one of you. You are all more than just a team to me you are a best friend and most of all the sisters that I never knew I wanted. Above all we are a family.

So, thank you for always making sure I’ve eaten and get to practice on time. Thank you for laughing with me until it hurts. Thank you for making me into a better athlete. Most importantly thank you for being my family away from home.

Much Love, Your Teammate.

College will be exciting and new. It is your first real taste of freedom and adulthood. I know that I’m not the first one to tell you that. I know you’re being overwhelmed with advice from everyone; parents, teachers, older siblings, aunts, uncles, friends, etc. At times, it can be very overwhelming but bear with me as I throw some more wisdom onto the pile.