Author: Briella Rose

There will come a time when you meet someone that breaths life into what was otherwise been a lifeless heart.

One that has lost all excitement for first dates and to be honest, hasn’t made it past a third date in over a year. One that has been sewn and stitched and bandaged up so many times you can’t even tell it’s a heart anymore. One that forgot the feeling it gets when it actually likes the company of another human being so much it longs for it when they’re away. 

This person will change your outlook on dating, your outlook on yourself, your life, and more importantly you. 

You just know it. There is no question about it. There is no doubt in your mind. 

Sure, you’re deadset on hiding the fact that this person is having such an impact on you because you’ve slowly let your guard down before and it’s not long after that when you usually start to build it back up. 

But this time is different. He’s not like everyone else. 

And you’re not just saying that because he’s reminded of you of that every time you compare him to your last date, last relationship, last crush, or last fling. There really is no fair way to compare him to any other man. 

You were hesitant at first — even skeptical and downright cynical about the potential this man and yourself could have together but he’s shown you patience and care that you haven’t been genuinely shown for so long that you almost didn’t believe it was real. 

You’ve tested him. Said things you usually wouldn’t say to someone just to gauge his reaction. You’ve asked him questions where you didn’t care what the answer was but rather how he handld himself. You’ve put your guard up and put your foot down to see if he would pressure you to let him in or simply reassure you to take your time. 

And with every “test,” he has become less of a dream man you concocted in your head and more of a reality that you can’t wait to get your hands on before it slips away as you say under your breath,  “Please don’t let it slip away.”

He’s approached you with more patience than you thought a person could have. He’s reassured you more times than you can remember by now and the constant reassurance is finally sinking it. 

You know it’s happening and you can’t stop it. In fact, you don’t really want to stop it. Your guard is coming down fast. You’ve let him take more steps inside your walls than any man has in a long time and the weird thing is that you’re kind of okay with it. You’re actually more than okay with it. 

You’re finally ready to not only let him to break down your walls but you’re standing right beside him with a chisel in your hand breaking them down with him.

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Remember back in the day all we wore was mascara? We didn’t even know what highlighter was. Now, we can't imagine our life without our 2+ pound bag of makeup essentials.

1. You never leave Sephora empty handed.

You only went in to try that new highlighter you've been meaning to buy, but it's so expensive so you find some self-control… and buy something else.

2. And your online Sephora bag always has $500 or more of products in it that you’ll only dream of buying.

Okay, one day you will. When you’re rich and famous from your own makeup tutorials.

3. But drugstore makeup just doesn’t cut it anymore.

It has to be name brand. It has to be expensive. It has to be well known. Even if people claim it’s all the same, you know in your heart, it’s not.

4. Your makeup bag has gotten incrementally larger over the past few months.

Soon you’ll have to pack an entire suitcase full of makeup when you travel because you never throw it out and you’re always buying more.

5. Binge watching makeup tutorials alone > Netflix and chill. Any day.

No tutorial is off limits— from how to do the perfect smokey to how to properly shave your face. You've seen it all.

6. Makeup artists and tutorials fill your Instagram feeds, and you love every second of it.

Who cares what people from high school are up to? All you want to see are shimmery eyelids and pouty over-lined lips.

7. Once you’ve mastered one skill, you need to learn another.

The ever-difficult winged eyeliner? Got it. Contouring 101? Down pat. Next up, lip over-lining.

8. Sephora makeovers are your favorite pastime.

When you’re bored, you’ll just walk on in for a makeover. You walked in looking decent but you walked out looking like Beyonce. Win.

9. When someone asks you for makeup advice you have a conniption.

You love to talk about makeup. You could talk makeup for hours. So when someone willingly afflicts this upon herself, you get way too excited.

10. And minimal makeup meant to look natural takes almost as long as full glam.

There is no such thing as low-key anymore. There are so many steps to take and you can only go so fast. You are an artist, you need some time to complete your masterpiece!

11. You’ve applied to work at Sephora so many times that…

You just want to share your love for makeup with the world! There’s nothing wrong with that. Plus, think about how much fun you would have doing other people’s makeup and being the first one to try out a new product!

12. You've considered dropping everything to become a makeup artist full time.

It's never too late for a career change you're truly passionate about.

So, continue being the modern day Picasso with your makeup brushes and eyeshadow palettes of every shade and never let anyone tell you you don’t need makeup. 

Sure, you don’t need makeup to look good. You need makeup because it’s your obsession.

This is the ultimate school dance/Y Night/Teen Center playlist that will bring you right back to your awkward stage in the early 2000’s.

If you weren’t poorly dancing to these songs pretending like you knew what you were doing, waiting for your crush to notice you and your parents to pick you up at the end of the night after you text them from your razor phone, you weren’t living your adolescent years to the fullest. 

1. “Get Low” by Lil Jon

2. “Tootsie Roll” by 69Guyz

3. “Snap Yo Fingers” by Lil Jon

4. “Cotton Eyed Joe” by Rednex

5. “Yeah!” by Usher

6. “The Cha Cha Slide” by DJ Casper

7. “Laffy Taffy” by D4L

8. “Hot in Here” by Nelly

9. “Soulja Boy Tell ‘Em – Crank That” by Soulja Boy

10. “Wall to Wall” by Chris Brown

11. “Candy Shop” by 50 Cent

12. “Ignition” by R. Kelly

13. “In Da Club” by 50 Cent

14. “Every Time We Touch” by Cascada

15. “Run It” by Chris Brown

16. “Hollaback Girl” by Gwen Stefani

17. “Let’s Get It Started” by The Black Eyed Peas

18. “My Humps” by The Black Eyed Peas

19. “Smack That” by Akon

20. “Survivor” by Destiny’s Child

21. “Pon De Replay” by Rihanna

22. “1, 2 Step” by Ciara

23. “Milkshake” by Kelis

24. “Switch” by Will Smith

25. “Lose My Breath” by Destiny’s Child

So go on and put your heavy eyeliner on, crimp your hair and get dancing to these throwbacks like you're back in your middle school glory days.

I’m happy you’ve moved on from me. Truly, I am. And I’m actually kind of jealous. The surprising thing is, I’m not jealous of her, I’m jealous of you. 

I’m jealous that you’ve been able to forget about me so easily. 

And I’m even more jealous that you could forget about me enough to fall in love again while I’m still feeling the wrath of our break up.

Maybe that’s because I haven’t been able to find someone to replace you yet, while you have done a great job of doing just that. 

I try and I try to put myself out there but nothing seems to feel right.

It’s not that I’m hung up on you, but hearing you move on while I’m still alone sucks. Maybe it’s your time and not mine yet. Maybe you were meant to find love and I was meant to find myself. 

I know the time will come when I’m truly ready, I just wish it would come sooner. Part of me feels like I’ve failed in the breakup because of the fact that you’ve had the ability to move on while I simply haven’t.

I was the one who ended things, so I was supposed to be the one to find a new and improved love first. You were supposed to be heartbroken and trying to cope, not the other way around.

I was supposed to be rubbing my happiness in your face, gloating about my new and improved boyfriend. But that position in my life is still vacant after all these months, despite my attempts to fill it.

And maybe that’s exactly why I can’t find anyone: because I’m trying too hard. 

And I’m trying too hard for all the wrong reasons. I don’t need to “one-up” you and get a replacement simply because you have.

It’s not about who can move on the fastest with the least number of slip ups or who can be the better actor, pretending the breakup had no effect on them. It’s not about who can mask their loneliness the best or forget about the other the quickest.

 It’s about living a happy life. Point blank, that is all that matters here.

And that’s just it, we weren’t happy together. And now I’ve got to try to be happy on my own and to be honest, it’s a lot harder than I thought it would be. 

I’m finally okay with enjoying my own company for a while. 

I don’t need to rush simply to “win” because when I do find someone that treats me right, also known as an improvement, my happiness will do the talking. 

But when it comes down to it, after all you’ve done and all we’ve been through together, I’m glad you’ve found happiness, even if it is with someone new and even if I haven’t yet.

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I know you may not fully understand this, but believe it or not we’re not in high school anymore. 

Just like in the Wizard of Oz, Dorothy, you’re not in Kansas anymore.

As much of a shock as this might be to you, we don’t have to continue to act like we’re in high school simply because we’ve known each other since then. 

It is possible to grow up. 

Looks like one of us did that and one of us didn’t…

Your constant immaturity, catty insults, gossiping, and passive-aggressive attitude has caused me to come to the realization that maybe we’re better off without one another. 

I mean, you practically shunned me from the group of girlfriends I thought would be by my side for my future wedding, my first housewarming party, my future children's birthday parties, and so much more without even a second thought.

I had watched you shun people from the group before. I cautiously and cowardly stood by and let it happen as you convinced everyone in the group that it was for the best. 

This time, it’s me who's the target. 

The others do as I did to the ones before, too afraid to speak up and voice their opinion against the almighty yet childish leader of the pack.

Slowly but surely, you have pushed me from the group with every step I had seen so eloquently performed before.

First, ignoring my attempts to make plans or even friendly conversation. 

Second, convincing everyone to do the same. 

Third, making plans including every soul but mine and then explicitly posting about it on social media to ensure the dagger went straight into my shoulder blade. 

And lastly, blatantly ignoring the fact that I was in a time of need and acting as if you were never a part of my life nor did you intend to stay a part of it.

I’m not stupid, I can take a hint. 

I’ve known exactly what was coming for months now; I just postponed officially cutting ties with you until I had made a new group of friends I could lean on that would treat me as a friend instead of an enemy like you had.

Trust me, it’s not easy for me to let go of something without a fight. 

I’m one to speak my mind and let others know when they’ve hurt me, let me down, or disappointed me – all of which you had done, for the record. 

And not just you, but all of your minions too. 

Somehow I knew that standing up to you and giving you a piece of my mind would only be tiresome and pointless. 

It had already been decided. I had already been replaced.

But that’s okay because so had you.

I hope you enjoy living in your high school glory days for the rest of your life while the rest of us grow up and make meaningful relationships with people built on respect and love for one another – neither of which you showed me during our years of friendship. 

So goodbye, high school friends.

I only hope that your minions can have the balls to have a mind of their own one day and realize the damage and hurt they’ve helped create for every girl who’s fallen victim to your games.

High School has been over for me for quite some time and I have no intention of going back.

We’re not in Kansas anymore.

Ever since you’ve become single, you’ve been jumping from guy to guy. 

You haven’t allowed yourself a chance to breathe between relationships. 

No time to adjust to being on your own, learning to enjoy your own company, or getting to know yourself.

You call yourself boy crazy, and you joke about it too but it’s time you’re honest with yourself… You’re lonely.

You can’t stand the fact of being alone. And I don’t mean watching a movie or spending a Sunday afternoon by yourself on the couch. 

You can handle that.

You can’t handle the fear of not finding someone to spend your life with. You’re constantly on the hunt for “the one.” 

Too scared to delete the three dating apps on your phone for fear that you might not swipe right on your future husband. 

Too nervous to go out in public without makeup on because today might be the day you meet someone.

Too afraid to dance alone on the dance floor on Saturday nights, constantly looking for a dance partner.

It’s not like you haven’t been told the dating advice of the century: “Wait it out,” “Give it time,” and “It’ll happen when you least expect it to.”

It’s just that you haven’t had the nerve to actually listen to it yet. You can’t go a day without having a boy to text about what you’re up to and you can’t go a weekend without a date.

You’ve met countless guys but nothing seems to have made a good enough impression on you. 

You know these relationships will go nowhere yet you continue to try to force them for the sake of curing your loneliness.

But until you’re ready, and I mean really ready, then none of these relationships will stick. You know that as well as I do. 

As cliche as it is, you have to learn to love yourself before you can love someone else again. I know, did I really have to go there? But yes, yes I did. 

It’s time to stop denying the fact that you’re lonely and you’re just not ready for love. 

You know you’ve been through some tough shit when it comes to love. 

You can’t heal over night. It takes time to learn about yourself again – you’ve changed since your last relationship and that’s going to take some getting used to. 

So quit playing the games, texting the boys, and swiping right. Give dating a rest and spend some time with yourself until you’re truly ready to get back out there.

Remember, the loneliness isn’t going to last forever. So enjoy spending time with yourself until you meet your forever.

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I try to give people the benefit of the doubt, just like I tried to think that maybe you could change. 

I thought that maybe me leaving you had made you into a better person when you finally realized that you can’t treat people like shit and expect them to stick around.

I thought I could be friends with you but it turns out you’re still the manipulative asshole you were all along. 

One minute you’re telling me you miss me and the next bragging about your new and apparently improved girlfriend. 

You send me your favorite song lyrics that remind you of me and then you backpedal and insist it was nothing romantic, instead just a “good throwback.”

You’re sending me mixed messages and I’m here to tell you I won’t be reading them anymore. 

I’m cutting you out of my life yet again because nothing has changed since the last time I cut you out.

Apparently I haven’t changed since then either.

I’m still the overly optimistic semi-naive girl who puts others before herself and gives people way too many chances.

I thought maybe since we were best friends when we were together that we could be good friends when we were broken up, too. 

Instead, your idea of us being friends is you playing a constant mind game with me and using me to your every advantage.

I’m starting to think maybe my perception of our relationship is a little warped. Maybe we were never good friends, just two people stuck together in a relationship built off of lies and manipulation. 

Both hopelessly convinced it was love when in reality it never was.

And for that reason, we’ll never be good friends. 

I thought I could trust you to treat me better knowing how much you had hurt me in the past but the hurt just continues like we picked up right where we left off.

Sure, our love for each other has dissipated and we’ve both moved on but you’re still playing the same old tricks.

Luckily as time has gone on, I’ve gotten better at detecting when you’re manipulating me and I can see through your shit now. 

I can’t be friends with someone who sees my worth yet still continues to treat me like they don’t and probably never will. 

I’m all for giving people second chances but not when they haven’t learned from the first.

And with that, it’s time we say goodbye once more. Let’s hope this time it’s for good.

When a guy asks me if I’ve ever done butt stuff, and I answer yes it’s like they’ve never come across a girl not only willing to do it but also a girl who enjoys it.

Apparently I’m some mythical creature every guy has been looking for when it comes to this. 

Most girls cringe when they hear the word “anal” and immediately resist any suggestion of it but I can tell you this… if you’re turned on enough and stop thinking about how it’s “gross” then you would probably enjoy it as much as I do. 

I will admit the first time I did it, it was painful and not as enjoyable as I thought it would be but after giving it a chance, I can’t get enough. So c’mon (as every guy begs you), just give it a chance.

1. First step… Get so turned on you won’t second guess it

You need to be as horny as possible. If you’re not into it, just like every other sex act, it won’t be enjoyable. It’s okay to start with regular sex and work your way up. 

2. Dip your toe in the water first… Don’t just jump right in

Let him finger your ass or use a toy if you’re looking at his dick wondering how that will fit in there. It’s okay to be nervous.

3. Lube is your best friend

If you try to go about doing any butt stuff without lube, I am telling you right now that you will keel over, crying in the worst pain you’ve ever felt and you will literally come close to death by dick and never ever do it again. Trust me on this one, I’ve learned the hard way. 

4. You have to be undeniably comfortable with your partner

If you’re not comfortable, then you won’t enjoy it because all you will be thinking about is how his dick is in your ass and it’s your ass and that this is wrong, when it’s not. 

5. Be prepared for the worst but hope for the best

If you set your expectations low and mentally prepare yourself for the worst of the worst, then you will be surprised when you actually enjoy it and you’ll want to explore more and more.

6. Relax!

Let your muscle relax and let him take control. It’s okay to be submissive every once in a while. 

7. Know that he’s super into you

He’ll find it super attractive that you’re stepping out of your comfort zone and willing to try something new and he’ll probably want to repay you with a favor… So get thinking of what you’ve always wanted to try but were too afraid to ask for.

8. Don’t hate it just because everyone else does

It’s okay to enjoy something that others hate.. They’re missing out on some amazing sex.

9. When he asks you where to cum..

For someone who always makes the guy pull out, it’s amazing to actually let them cum inside of you because you both get to climax together. You’ll feel like the world has stopped.

10. Try several positions until you know how you like it

It may be new to you or even both of you so experiment with it until you find the position you’re most comfortable with and that feels the best. 

11. Your ass is a great erogenous zone

It’s amazing how many nerves are in and around your ass.. Let him explore you. 

So get thinking of some things you want to try in bed that he might object to because after having butt sex, he’s bound to be wrapped around your little finger.

You physically Can't. Go. On. Any. Longer. You don’t think we can survive another day like this. You have your doubts about yourself and your ability to make it through these tough times. You feel like you have to give yourself some kind of pep talk just to live another day because no one else will…

I'm here for you. I don't know how you feel and I never will, but I understand your pain. I've been lower than low before, and there were things I needed to hear. Things I'm going to tell you right now.

Are you listening? You may not see it now, all of these reasons to live are truer than true. 

1. You are beautiful.

You are beautiful inside and out whether you feel it or not, it is true. You have so much beauty to show the world. People need you. Your smile makes everyone's day. 

When you told that person good morning the other day? They really needed to hear that. You lifted their spirits in a way no one else could. There's something special about you.

2. This world needs you.

You were made because a world needed one of you. Your warm spirit and kind soul are unique. Don't deny it.

3. You can make an impact.

Your work here is not done, there is still more to do, more to change, and more people to affect. You can make a positive impact on so many other people’s lives.

4. Your family and friends love you so much.

Even if it feels like they don’t, deep down they do. Some are too afraid to show it, some refuse to show it, and some have a tough time showing it but it’s true.

5. People would be upset without you here.

Whether it’s the mailman you see every day on their walk through your neighborhood, the woman at the counter that hands you your coffee every morning, or someone else, someone out there will miss you.

6. You have a great laugh.

People love to listen to it. It can make anyone smile and it brightens others’ days. Don’t make them go without that.

7. Someone looks up to you.

It could be a stranger or a little girl you pass on the street or your little sibling, but someone looks up to you and wants to be just like you. Show them that being you is amazing.

8. You have more life to live.

You aren’t done accomplishing things. You still have to graduate, see that landmark, and hike that mountain. There are things on life’s to-do list worth doing and you can’t leave that list unfinished.

9. You survived today and yesterday and the day before that.

You thought you couldn’t, but you did. And you can continue to do it.

10. You deserve happiness.

You know you do. You know deep down you deserve better than what’s been happening to you lately or how you’ve been feeling but life’s hitting hard. That’s okay, you can hit back.

11. You’ve felt happiness before.

This too shall pass. Nothing lasts forever – happiness or sadness, good times or bad.

12. Better days are coming.

Cliche, I know. But is it true? ..YES.

13. You’re stronger than this.

You’re too strong to give in to the hits life’s been throwing at you lately. You know it because you lived through yesterday and the day before that and the day before that, you just have to actually start believing it now. 

If you are having suicidal thoughts, please reach out to someone. 

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline or call 1-800-273-8255

We’ve all been through it. We find a guy we like and actually want to put in the effort to keep around and then they drop the bomb on us… The “I don’t want a girlfriend right now” bomb. 

Maybe they use the excuse of timing, or not being over their ex, or wanting to enjoy the ‘single life.’ Either way, what you both wanted allegedly didn’t match up. 

Whatever, you’re cool about it. You gather yourself and decide it was for the best and maybe they have their own shit to figure out. 

You decide to either wait around for him or move on to the next one and try to forget about him. 

Then a new bomb is dropped.

You see him out with his new girl or you find the announcement on social media. Either way, it’s a punch in the gut you weren’t prepared to take. 

You take people at their word and if they didn’t think they were ready, you were going to respect that.

But now he’s got arm candy and it’s not you. And it hasn’t been that long since he declared his clear desire to be left single. How dare he… 

You can’t help but think something is wrong with you but let me tell you this, nothing is wrong with you – believe that.

Before you start wanting to either A.) rip his dick off in a vengeful rage, B.) call him up and call him out or C.) try and win him over despite his taken status, ask yourself if you really would want to be with someone that was able to essentially lie to your face. Lie to you about their reasoning for breaking it off.

It wasn’t because of poor timing, or not wanting a girlfriend, or wanting to enjoy the single life. It was because something didn’t click between you and him enough for him to want to forget all these “reasons.” But that doesn’t mean you’re to blame or you’re not worth it. 

Something just wasn’t strong enough to convince him otherwise and that’s okay because you want to be with someone who understands what they have when they have you and not someone who is willing to walk away without a second glance back at you. 

Forget him and his new girlfriend. If you have to, delete them from your memory and your social media accounts. 

Whatever it’ll take for you to forget options A, B, and C and just move on until you find the guy that will want to be with you undoubtedly.