The History Behind Labor Day And Why You Should Celebrate

Like clockwork, I grabbed my morning coffee on my way to work and waved to the elderly man at the shoe shop on the corner. 

Every morning he is out there before the streets start to fill up and the village shops open. His face is worn and exhausted but is always friendly and greets passersby with a smile and a wave.

This man represents all small business owners.

The first Monday in September is a federal holiday in the United States. Labor Day—a tribute to contributions made by American workers to the growth and development of the country. For many, Labor Day is the ultimate long weekend—the end of summer, the beginning of fall, and for some the last day to wear white.

This year, we face a new challenge. What would normally be a long weekend getaway with friends or family, that camping trip you take every year, or the annual end of summer BBQ, we are now forced to cancel normal routines and celebrations due to a pandemic. 

So, now what? I say, take a day for yourself. You deserve it. Sleep in, go for a leisurely walk, read that book you have always wanted to read, stay in your PJ’s all day, and binge watch that Netflix series. After all, this day is for you.

Here are some fun facts about the history of the holiday:

The very first Labor Day consisted of 10,000 workers marching in New York City

On September 5, 1882, 10,000 workers took unpaid time off to march from City Hall to Union Square in NYC, holding the first Labor Day Parade in U.S. history.

“No white after Labor Day

Ever wonder why? The tradition goes back to the end of the Civil War when society was ruled by the wealthy wives of old-money elites. As more new-money millionaires entered society, the jealous old regime invented a whole suite of arbitrary fashion rules that only those in the in-crowd would know. Anyone who showed up to an autumn dinner party in a white dress, for example, would be instantly outed as a nouveau riche newbie. That tradition of not wearing white past summer has since trickled down through fashion magazines and into mainstream culture… even for those of us whose ideal dinner party garb is sweatpants. The good news is most fashion experts agree that there is no need to follow this elitist rule today.

Other Countries have their own Labor Day

It is called May Day, takes place on May 1, and just like Labor Day, was established to celebrate workers’ rights.

It is a weekend for people to come together

In 1898, Samuel Gompers, the head of the American Federation of Labor said that Labor Day was meant to be a time when workers “lay down their tools of labor for a holiday, but upon which they may touch shoulders in marching phalanx and feel the stronger for it.”

So, whether you are stepping away from a laptop or a lathe, this weekend is a three-day salute to what you and your colleagues have achieved together. Enjoy it.

About The Author

Danielle is a lover of all things. When she doesn’t have her head in a book you can find her taking advantage of long summer days hiking or camping with her dog Nora. Danielle is currently working on her Bachelor’s Degree in Homeland Security Management.

 

You Can’t Just Rip My Heart in Two Then Expect Us to Be ‘Friends’

I am so angry that it hurts to think about it. I’m disappointed that you couldn’t trust me, upset that I can no longer hold you the way I want to, sad to think of something so good turned so wrong by your actions.

I don’t understand. Or maybe I do and the rational part of me wants to bury my feelings behind a wall and be your friend, only your friend.

But the part of me that hides like a wounded animal when you call wants to scream and shout and rage against the unfairness that was captured by your denial of what we were.

I can’t talk to you. I don’t want to. But at the same time, I want so badly for things to be back to the way they were. There is something inside of me that has been damaged and it hurts. I think about you.

I don’t want to touch you unless I can be with you, don’t want to talk to you unless I can be yours. Another part of me keeps sitting by the phone, waiting for you to call and take me back.

You’re making me into everything that I don’t want to be.

I’ve become emotionally vulnerable. Needing you, wanting you. My mind has lost its credibility in the face of this loss.

And you still say that you can be perfectly happy without a partner. Did I matter so little to you? Or am I being vain, another thing that I hate in myself, by assuming this has anything to do with me?

It must, though. I was part of what we shared. I was an equal. You liked me; I know you did too… unless every word that dripped from your mouth was a lie.

I’m trying to express as clearly as I can how I feel. Only then can I be free. Only then can I move on and seek a deeper connection with someone who is more worthy of my time.

About The Author

Danielle is a lover of all things. When she doesn’t have her head in a book you can find her taking advantage of long summer days hiking or camping with her dog Nora. Danielle is currently working on her Bachelors Degree in Homeland Security Management.

The Bittersweet Pain When You Love Someone You Can’t Have

How desperately it hurts to want to be with you and at the same time not be able to.

It’s like suffocating or drowning in emptiness. And it’s like trying to swim in tar, wearing a blind fold. It’s horrible.

And yet, I wouldn’t trade it for the world.

But I might trade it for one more night with you. One night, and then I’d live my life even more tortured than before, because one night with you could never be enough because I love you.

I wish I could say this to your face. But I can’t. It’s hard not talking to the person you used to talk to every day. It’s sad how you were such a big part of my life and now you’re just gone.

I dream about you. You’re the most beautiful person I have ever met. Inside and out. You’re completely out of my league. I wish I could meet someone like you who would love me back.

There’s no one like you. Not your wit, not your charm, not your presence. They’ve all got something similar, but it’s not the same. It’s like a cheap generic knock off. I don’t want to play the comparison game anymore.

I know it’s unlike me to sound pathetically cheesy, but it’s the truth.

Talking with you made me see the world with so much more excitement. Every day became an adventure that needed to be shared.

You always believed in me. Always pushed me to be the best version of myself. You taught me to have a little more faith and trust my instincts. Because of this, I am now able to exert myself and build better relationships with the people around me.

You made it easier for me to allow people in my life.

If we never talk again, please know that I am forever changed by who you are and what you meant to me.

There’s times I wish that I’d never met you. This way I wouldn’t feel so upset all the time.

I want you. But I can’t have you.

If only life didn’t move us in such crazy ways.

About The Author

Danielle is a lover of all things. When she doesn’t have her head in a book you can find her taking advantage of long summer days hiking or camping with her dog Nora. Danielle is currently working on her Bachelors Degree in Homeland Security Management.

20 Life Lessons For My Child

The thought of having children is something that both excites me and terrifies me.

I’ve always dreamed of becoming a mother but always worried about the mistakes I would make along the way.

Growing up wasn’t the easiest for me. From divorced parents to the death of a parent I had to learn at an early age what life was all about.

My wish is that my children won’t have to go through the same things I went through.

Here is a list of 20 things I want my child to know.

1. Ignore what everyone else is doing and achieving. Keep your head up and push forward.

2. Just because you took a little longer and might be struggling doesn’t mean that you’re failing. You’re still young. You’re not supposed to have life figured out yet.

3. If you get tired, learn to rest, not to quit.

4. Don’t lose yourself or let yourself go for anyone else. It isn’t worth it.

5. It’s never too late to be whoever you want to be.

6. Live a life you’re proud of. And if you aren’t, then find the strength to start over.

7. Don’t ever force someone to make time for you. If they truly care they will find the time.

8. Life gets complicated. Sometimes you need to stop being scared and just go for it. If it works out, great. If it doesn’t, at least you tried. That’s life.

9. Get excited about the little things. Life is too short not to.

10. Don’t ever hold back from showing the world who you really are.

11. Loyalty is rare. If you find it, keep it.

12. Be a good person and the best version of yourself. Don’t waste your time having to prove it.

13. Always remember who you are.

14. Waiting is a mistake. Say it before it’s too late, go on the adventure you always dreamed of, take chances. Make your dreams come true.

15. Everything is temporary. Keep pushing forward. Anything bad that is happening in your life right now isn’t forever.

16. Learn to say no without feeling guilty. Take care of yourself first.

17. If you want to be trusted, then be honest.

18. Your mistakes don’t define you.

19. It’s ok to walk out of someone’s life if you no longer feel appreciated or loved.

20. At the end of the day, if they don’t like you, who cares.

About The Author

Danielle is a lover of all things. When she doesn’t have her head in a book you can find her taking advantage of long summer days hiking or camping with her dog Nora. Danielle is currently working on her Bachelors Degree in Homeland Security Management.

I Refuse to Let You Treat Me Like a Burden Anymore

I hate you for doing this to me, for giving me hope that things might get better then stomping on my heart all over again.

Most of all, I hate that I can’t just walk away. You’re my weakness and even though you constantly play me for a fool, I’m hooked.

But I’m sick of you making me feel useless. You’re constantly ignoring me and treating me like shit (unless people are around, then you’re suddenly a gentleman) and I’m at the end of my rope.

I’m sick of my anxiety creeping up on me daily as I wonder if we’re going to have a good or bad day. My depression lingers around every corner, hoping for a bad day so it can rear its ugly head.

Our relationship feels like an old wooden roller coaster that throws you around, makes your body ache, and leaves you wondering why you got on it in the first place.

You had me believing all the lies you spout. You even convinced me that I “need help,” when in reality, you’re the reason I’m always upset and emotional.

At what point do we just call it quits? How many sleepless nights should I spend replaying every conversation we had, trying to figure out what I did or said wrong?

My anger builds up with volcanic pressure as I start to realize that even though I’ve done nothing wrong, I’m always the one who has to apologize.

Well, guess what: I’m done apologizing.

I’ve allowed you to mentally drain me for too long, but enough is enough. It’s time that changes are made and if you can’t make them, I’m ready to walk away.

I deserve someone who will respect me, not talk down to me; someone who wants me around and doesn’t treat me like a burden.

You can’t even tell me you love me, so why don’t I just leave?

Am I too scared?

No, I’m just comfortable.

But I think it’s time I left my comfort zone. The only chance I have at finding true happiness depends on it.

 

About The Author

Danielle is a lover of all things. When she doesn’t have her head in a book you can find her taking advantage of long summer days hiking or camping with her dog Nora. Danielle is currently working on her Bachelors Degree in Homeland Security Management.

 

11 Books You Need to Read That Will Make You Cry

Have you ever been in one of those moods where all you needed as a good cry? Maybe you listen to that one song that always gets you or that movie that always hits you right in the feels. It’s the words that effortlessly connect us to the characters and storylines, giving us a reason to ride out our true emotions. We feel so deeply sometimes that we need something to pull us out of our darkness and allow us to ball our eyes out for a hot second (or two hours). Sometimes we just need a good cry and we’ll feel better after, so next time you reach for something that you know will definitely make you cry, pick up one of these books.  

1.  13 Reasons Why by Jay Asher

What’s it about? Clay Jensen returns home from school to find a strange package with his name on it lying on his porch. Inside he discovers several cassette tapes recorded by Hannah Baker—his classmate and crush—who committed suicide two weeks earlier. Hannah’s voice tells him that there are thirteen reasons why she decided to end her life. Clay is one of them. If he listens, he’ll find out why.

Why should you read it? This book changed the way I look at the world and at the people around me. When a book affects the way you breathe, you know it is powerful.

“You don’t know what goes on in anyone’s life but your own. And when you mess with one part of a person’s life, you’re not messing with just that part. Unfortunately, you can’t be that precise and selective. When you mess with one part of a person’s life, you’re messing with their entire life. Everything. . . affects everything.”

2. The Fault in Our Stars by John Green

What’s it about? Despite the tumor-shrinking medical miracle that has bought her a few years, Hazel has never been anything but terminal, her final chapter inscribed upon diagnosis. But when a gorgeous plot twist named Augustus Waters suddenly appears at Cancer Kid Support Group, Hazel's story is about to be completely rewritten.

Why should you read it?   Ah, John Green, the things you do to me. If you aren’t prepared for heartbreak, continue scrolling – this is not the book for you. If you are ready to have your heart torn to shreds and ask for more, you will definitely be interested. P.S. I want a man like Augustus Waters, please.

“Some people don't understand the promises they're making when they make them," I said. "Right, of course. But you keep the promise anyway. That's what love is. Love is keeping the promise anyway.”

3. The Perks of Being a Wallflower by Stephen Chbosky 

What’s it about? Charlie is a freshman in high school. And while he's not the biggest geek in the school, he is by no means popular. Shy, introspective, intelligent beyond his years yet socially awkward, he is a wallflower, caught between trying to live his life and trying to run from it. He is attempting to navigate his way through uncharted territory: the world of first dates and mix tapes, family dramas and new friends; the world of sex, drugs, and The Rocky Horror Picture Show, when all one requires is that perfect song on that perfect drive to feel infinite. But he can't stay on the sideline forever. Standing on the fringes of life offers a unique perspective. But there comes a time to see what it looks like from the dance floor.

Why should you read it? I adored how this book was written because you were reading from a personal point of view. The letter/journal style writing was endearing and insightful and the main character enough to break your heart, especially as you learned what he had been through. So many brilliant minds do not fit into the mainstream, so they are bullied, picked on or considered slower than their peers when in fact they are light years beyond.

“I am both happy and sad at the same time, and I'm still trying to figure out how that could be.”

4. Why We Broke Up by Daniel Handler 

What’s  it about? Min Green and Ed Slaterton are breaking up, so Min is writing Ed a letter and giving him a box. Inside the box is why they broke up. Two bottle caps, a movie ticket, a folded note, a box of matches, a protractor, books, a toy truck, a pair of ugly earrings, a comb from a motel room, and every other item collected over the course of a giddy, intimate, heartbreaking relationship. Item after item is illustrated and accounted for, and then the box, like a girlfriend, will be dumped.

Why should read it? You know when you're going through a breakup and keep looking back on the entire course of your relationship and start to pick up on little things you missed about your ex. Things that should have told you then and there that this was only going to end in heartbreak. Well, this book does exactly that. If you've had your heart broken you will relate to this book.

“This is like a cookie, it tastes like a cookie having sex with a doughnut.”

5. The Nightingale by Kristin Hannah

What’s it about? Tells the stories of two sisters, separated by years and experience, by ideals, passion and circumstance, each embarking on her own dangerous path toward survival, love, and freedom in German-occupied, war-torn France—a heartbreakingly beautiful novel that celebrates the resilience of the human spirit and the durability of women.

Why should you read it? The Nightingale opens with this amazing first line: “If I have learned anything in this long life of mine, it is this: In love, we find out who we want to be; in war we find out who we are.” I mean that right there is enough to know the book will be nothing but amazing.

“Lately, though, I find myself thinking about the war and my past, about the people I lost. Lost. it makes it sound as if I misplaced my loved ones;” 

6. The Outsiders by S. E. Hinton

What’s it about? No one ever said life was easy. But Ponyboy is pretty sure that he's got things figured out. He knows that he can count on his brothers, Darry and Sodapop. And he knows that he can count on his friends—true friends who would do anything for him, like Johnny and Two-Bit. But not on much else besides trouble with the Socs, a vicious gang of rich kids whose idea of a good time is beating up on “greasers” like Ponyboy. At least he knows what to expect—until the night someone takes things too far.

Why should you read it? It will give you TOO MANY FEELS. When you read it, you can feel the fear and anger of the protagonist inside you. According to Ernest Hemingway, the mark of a great novel is that after reading it you feel that all the things that have happened to the main characters have happened to you personally.

“I lie to myself all the time. But I never believe me.”

7. Forgive Me, Leonard Peacock by Matthew Quick

What’s it about? Today is Leonard Peacock's birthday. It is also the day he will kill his former best friend, and then himself, with his grandfather's P-38 pistol. But first he must say good-bye to the four people who matter most to him: his Humphrey Bogart-obsessed next-door neighbor, Walt; his classmate Baback, a violin virtuoso; Lauren, the Christian homeschooler he has a crush on; and Herr Silverman, who teaches the high school's class on the Holocaust. Speaking to each in turn, Leonard slowly reveals his secrets as the hour's tick by and the moment of truth approaches.

Why should you read it? Although this book is incredibly sad, you need to read it because it ends with hope and is so brilliant in every respect.

“Not letting the world destroy you. That’s a daily battle.”

8. Chasing Trains by Mackenzie Herbert

What’s it about? Kaitlyn has always been on the outside-a lonely girl just trying to survive. However, she suddenly finds herself emerged in a world she never knew existed when she befriends the local wild child and her quirky group of perfectly imperfect friends. Kaitlyn's eighteenth summer is suddenly filled with heartbreak, adventure, car chases, falling in love, and everything else she's worked so hard to avoid. In this summer before college, she soon learns all about what it means to make memories, the mistake of growing up, and how you have to take a leap of faith in order to soar.

Why should you read it? A wonderful story of friendship and how sometimes it isn't until something ends that we truly discover who we are. The emotions, the characters, and the relationships are all so perfectly constructed that you feel like this is your story. And it is because everyone can find a piece of themselves in this beautiful, tragic, adventurous, and humorous tale of friendship, love, and finding yourself.

“Strange, how we often hate the ones who save us and love the ones that are like poison.”

9. Flowers in the Attic by V.C. Andrews

What’s it about? At the top of the stairs, there are four secrets hidden. Blond, beautiful, innocent, and struggling to stay alive… They were a perfect family, golden and carefree—until a heartbreaking tragedy shattered their happiness. Now, for the sake of an inheritance that will ensure their future, the children must be hidden away out of sight, as if they never existed. Kept on the top floor of their grandmother’s vast mansion, their loving mother assures them it will be just for a little while.

Why should you read it? V.C. Andrews certainly has a way of writing that sucks you in and keeps you reading all night. You care about this family, you feel for them, you are hungry when they are hungry. And finally, you feel like you were right there with them in the attic.

“People have a way of believing nothing terrible will ever happen to them, only to others.”

10. The Book Thief by Markus Zusak

What’s it about? Liesel Meminger is a foster girl living outside of Munich, who scratches out a meager existence for herself by stealing when she encounters something she can’t resist–books. With the help of her accordion-playing foster father, she learns to read and shares her stolen books with her neighbors during bombing raids as well as with the Jewish man hidden in her basement.

Why should you read it? And there it was, as the Kindle told me I was passing 95%, a rare and welcome surge of sadness, not because the book is coming to a sad ending, but simply because it is coming to an end. The author earns the tears with his characters and storytelling, but the tears are also from the ache of a beloved journey reaching its destination.

“Usually we walk around constantly believing ourselves. "I'm okay," we say. "I'm alright". But sometimes the truth arrives on you and you can't get it off. That's when you realize that sometimes it isn't even an answer–it's a question. Even now, I wonder how much of my life is convinced.”

11. Room by Emma Donoghue

What’s  it about? To five-year-old-Jack, Room is the world. It's where he was born, it's where he and his Ma eat and sleep and play and learn. At night, his Ma shuts him safely in the wardrobe, where he is meant to be asleep when Old Nick visits. Room is home to Jack, but to Ma it's the prison where she has been held for seven years. Through her fierce love for her son, she has created a life for him in this eleven-by-eleven-foot space.

Why should you read it? This story is heavy, intense, and remarkable. It tells the story of 5-year-old Jack and his Ma, who are trapped inside of a 11×11 ft room. It is told in Jack's point of view, and how he is learning about the world outside, which he doesn't believe is real. There is so much more detail that I could go into for a summary of this amazing novel, but I don't want to give anything away. Seriously, just read it.

“When I was four I was watching ants walking up Stove and she ran and splatted them all so they wouldn’t eat our food. One minute they were alive and the next minute they were dirt. I cried so my eyes nearly melted off.”

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When You Have A Gypsy Soul, Run With It

The need to continue wandering until you find what moves your soul is so important in finding yourself. Some people are content with staying in one place. Planting roots and never moving from there. There is nothing wrong with that. Me? I can’t live that life. I have a terrible need always to keep going. Exploring the world and seeing what else is out there.

I had the desire to keep moving once I realized there were roads that could take me anywhere I wanted to go.

This doesn't mean that I am never satisfied. Doesn't mean that I have no direction in life. I have direction; it's just different from everyone else's. I move with the wind. I follow my senses and instincts. Go with what feels right.

Many people don’t understand this. People fear change. Don’t like to be out of their comfort zone. What they don’t realize is that once you go out of your comfort zone, that’s where the magic happens. Where you find yourself and learn things about yourself you never even knew.

To me, having a gypsy soul is good for your mind, soul, and life. Allows you to discover where you want to go, want to be, and what you want out of life.

Those of us who are seen as having gypsy souls tend to be very emotional people. We are only able to thrive when we are deeply passionate about something. If we aren’t, you better believe we will keep moving on until we find whatever it is to feed our spiritual need.

With the emotional personality comes the independence and being completely unpredictable. Some people may look at us and think we are unfriendly or antisocial but in reality, we just like to be on our own. We love our freedom and will never have to depend on anyone else to make us happy. We can find our happiness just fine without help.

This doesn’t mean that we are afraid of commitment or settling down. We will settle when we find something worth settling for.

When you live a nomadic lifestyle, you tend to create your path and follow it. Whether it be the chaos you create or the chaos of life, you tend to embrace it. You find the beauty in imperfection and somehow find order in chaos. You have a good understanding that life is messy. However, you won’t be the one to wear a mask and pretend that everything is ok when it clearly isn’t.

This is the greatest path you can take. This journey will lead you down roads that hold mysteries to the world. Let you grow and see things most people couldn’t imagine experiencing.

If My Life Had A Soundtrack, It would Sound Something Like This

Music has always been my go to for everything in my life. Whether I’m cleaning the house, driving in the car, taking a shower, or at work, you bet the radio will be cranked up high.

My music taste is something that you might call, eclectic. My Spotify playlists ranges from Disney soundtracks to country to classical to Screamo. And I’m not embarrassed of it either.

Then the thought hit me. My life needs a badass soundtrack. So here it is.

5:30am (Disturbed – Glass Shatters):

The alarm goes off. What an awful sound. This is the perfect song to put me in the I’m-going-to-kick-today’s-ass type of mood.

I’m going to punch the morning in the face, kick the afternoon in the gut, and Stone Cold Stunner the evening.

Or I might think someone is breaking into my house and have to spend the morning cleaning my underwear.

 Either way, I’m now awake.

6:30am (Ludacris  – Move Bitch):

I’m late but what else is new? I missed the clear morning traffic by 10 minutes.

Seriously though, why isn’t traffic moving?

If the girl in front of me would stop putting on her make up and get off her phone we might move a little faster.

Move bitch!

7:00am (Kenny Chesney – Shiftwork):

“A big ol’ pile of shift work”. Take the “F” out of “shiftwork” and you’ll have a clear understanding of how I feel about my job.

Kenny Chesney saved his money and went to the beach for a beer. The only place I’ll be going is to the grocery store because, apparently, my family has to eat.

2:30pm (Cam’ron – I Hate My Job):

All day I hear the constant complaints from my manager about productivity and the angry comments from customers about lines being long or having to wait for service.

What these people don’t see is the chatty Kathy standing in front of me who won’t shut the hell up about her problems. Why this bitch feels the need to go on and on about how she is like three months late paying her bills absolutely perplexes me.

Oh, and a half hour lunch break? Seriously? That’s not even enough time to get the soy sauce and wasabi ratio right, much less enough time to actually enjoy my sushi.

4:00pm (Skrillex – Kill Everybody):

Not because Skrillex is good but mostly because after work I want to kill everybody.

Alright, Maybe that’s a bit harsh.

However, after dealing with my boss nagging me all day, listening to my co – worker talk about her dwindling sex life, and having customers complain about literally everything. This is the song to get me through it.

7:00pm (Sia – Titanium):

I swear the shower has the best acoustics in the house.

Time to work on my Pitch Perfect auditions!

Alright, maybe it’s more like Pitch Not So Perfect. I guess I won’t be quitting my day job after all.

8:00pm (Bach – Cello Suite No. 1 –  Prelude):

Dinner is finished. Dishes are done. The house is quite. Now I get to have a cup of coffee while I wind down from another crazy day.

Seriously though, who doesn’t love this song?

I’m trying to get the ice cream man in my neighborhood to make this his song for his truck. Right now it’s “La Cucaracha”. Sounds like a damn mariachi band outside my house everyday.

10:00pm (Israel Kamakawiwo’ole –  Somewhere Over the Rainbow):

I made it through another day.

I seriously deserve a medal for not hurting anyone or having a complete meltdown.

There’s always tomorrow.

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