Author: Erica Alisse

You deserve to be loved with no uncertainty. You should never have to question how he feels about you. You need someone who will show you every single day how he feels, not only through little day to day actions, but in every single thing that he does.

If you haven't already, find someone who…

1. You can truly be yourself with. 

He should make you feel beautiful and comfortable in your own skin and make you forget all of your self-doubts

2. Will spontaneously send you a letter or sweet text, for no other reason than to make you smile. 

He knows how much it means to you, and he wants to make you happy.

3. Will turn your bad days around. 

He’ll do anything he can to make you smile or brighten your day, even if it means temporarily putting aside his own problems.

4. Listens to you and truly pays attention. 

You’ll know you found him when he surprises you with that bracelet you saw in that store window or takes you to the new restaurant you’ve been dying to try.

5. Will show up at your door in the middle of a fight just to make sure you are okay. 

It doesn’t matter what he’s doing or the time of day, he will find a way to be there to dry your tears and hold you until everything is better.

6. Will go out of his way to show you that he’s willing to fight for you. 

Find the one who would never let you go to sleep hurting or upset because of him. The one who just can't bear the thought of you in pain.

7. Intuitively knows what you need and then does it without hesitation. 

Whether it’s bringing you soup when you’re sick or simply being a shoulder to cry on, he’s there without you ever having to ask.

8. Is thoughtful and will surprise you and plan out dates for the two of you. 

This guy will care enough to take the time to plan out even the smallest details and make sure everything is taken care of. 

9. Will always be patient with you, even at your weakest moments. 

He will understand your past and accept your flaws even when you don’t. He'll get why certain things make you so upset and embrace it.

10. You can have late nights and deep conversations with.

He'll be someone you can talk to about absolutely anything and will do the same with you in return.

11. You can be goofy with. 

Find someone who makes you laugh so hard, you feel like your insides might explode. 

12. Knows when to be serious too. 

He'll know when you aren't in the joking mood. He gets that certain things aren't laughing matters. He knows when to be a man and sit down and talk like a grown up. 

If you have already found this kind of love, I hope you know how lucky you are. Hold on to this man, and never let him go. 

If you haven't quite found him yet, just know that he is out there and he is waiting for you. Everyone deserves to feel loved this way. 

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No matter what I do or how hard I try, I can’t win with you. In your mind, I will always be this controlling, bossy, manipulative person because that’s what you want to see. 

You’ve been so blinded by your past that you’re unable to see anything else. You see the same flaws in everyone. Regardless of what I say or do, you hear and see what you choose to. 

You assume the worst in me because that’s all you’ve ever known.

Your ex was a bitch, but that doesn’t make me the same way. I'm here to show you that not everyone is the same. There can be good in people, too.

If I ask you about your day or what your plans are, it’s not because I’m trying to regulate them. I don’t care if you want to see your friends or even spend time alone. I'm not telling you to ask for my permission, and I don't want a detailed play-by-play.

I genuinely like hearing what you’re doing or how things are going because I like you. I want to be a part of your life, and that’s my way of doing so.

If I try and push you to do something or try something new, it’s because I care about you. I’m not trying to force you into it because of some need to control you. 

I’m just trying to look out for your best interests because that’s what people in relationships do for each other. 

There’s no malice behind my actions, just love and concern.

If I express disappointment in something, it doesn’t automatically mean that I’m disappointed in you. You constantly think that I’m unhappy with you or that you’re letting me down, but that couldn’t be further from the truth. 

Yes, sometimes I miss you and wish we could spend more time together, but it doesn’t mean I want you to give up other things you care about for me.

I can say all of these things until I’m blue in the face, but in the end, it’s only words. Nothing I do or say can prove to you how I feel in my heart or who I am as a person. 

So I'm asking you to let go of the past and see me for who I am. 

Trust that I’m not the same as her and that I would never hurt you or treat you the way that she did.

No matter how much it hurts to hear you constantly doubt me or call me bossy, I refuse to give up on us. I will never stop trying to prove myself to you, even when I feel it’s a losing battle.

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A lot of girls go into a restaurant and order a plain salad. Good for her if she wants to be healthy, but don’t expect that kind of order from the rest of us. 

There are plenty of girls out there who simply LOVE food. And a salad just isn’t going to cut it.

If you’re dating a girl who loves to eat, you’re in for a lot of, well, food. Here are a few things you should probably start to expect.

1. Her entire day will revolve around food. 

You haven’t eaten breakfast yet, and she’s already planning out what you’re going to have for lunch and dinner. It’s never too early…

2. The same goes for travel plans.

You can bet that she will research and map out every restaurant she wants to try well in advance.  Forget the tourist attractions or famous landmarks; she is all about eating as much good food as possible while she’s away.

3. Her eyes are way bigger than her stomach. 

She always orders a lot more food than she can eat because everything just sounds so good. The good news is you’ll always have leftovers.

4. She is always complaining about not being able to lose weight.

She wants to be healthy, but she wants to eat even more. Her weight will constantly fluctuate because she just can’t give up her favorite foods. And yes, she will whine about it when it happens.

5. Her most used app on her phone is Yelp.

Dinner plans are never casual. She can’t just go somewhere spur of the moment. She has to look up ratings before she can decide where she wants to go. Why waste time going somewhere that might not be good?

6. Her Instagram pictures are almost all food porn.

When she goes to a new place, she can’t eat until she documents it. She will take pictures of her food, your food, and everything else in the vicinity. She just can’t help it.

7. She knows all the best spots.

When she picks out a restaurant, you always know it’s going to be amazing. She wouldn’t go if it weren’t. Plus she’s always up to date on all the new hot spots in town, so you’ll never get bored.

8. She always has snacks. 

She keeps extra food in her purse, her desk, her car, and pretty much anywhere else she can. She doesn’t like to go too long without eating.

9. And if she does, she gives new meaning to being hangry.

If she doesn’t eat enough, she turns into an angry, screaming monster. Picture the Hulk…but worse. You’ll learn to get her food as fast as you can because frankly, you’re scared of her when she gets that way. It’s just not pretty.

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When it comes to love, you should never feel like you’re settling. You should never accept anything less than exactly what you deserve. If you haven’t found him yet, this is the kind of guy you should be looking for.  

1. You deserve a guy who can’t get enough of you, 

He will feel genuinely lucky to be with you and will cherish every second when you're together.  And he will absolutely make sure you know it.

2. A guy who won't hold back…

He won’t keep any parts of himself hidden from you. You’ll know everything there is to know about him without feeling like you have to pry.

3. Because he will trust you unconditionally. 

And you should feel the same way about him. You should never have to worry about where he is or what he’s doing because you'll already know.

4. He will do anything in his power to make you happy,

If something matters to you, it will matter to him. He’ll bend over backward to surprise you or do the little things he knows you love, even if he hates it. And he will never do anything that might offend or hurt you.

5. And he'll never make you question how he feels about you. 

He will start the day with a heartfelt good morning so you know you’re the first thing on his mind. He will tell you frequently how much he loves you and why.  And he will prove it to you every single day.

6. This guy will love you for who you are, scars and all,

The right guy will appreciate your baggage. He’ll understand your past, and he’ll never judge or criticize you for it. He will love your flaws that the wrong guys before him hated.

7. Because he just gets you. 

He will know you better than you know yourself. He’ll know what you’re thinking without you having to tell him. He’ll know exactly what you need in any situation, and he will do exactly that. No questions asked.

8. Your Mr. Right will always want to be Mr. Right-There-Beside-You

You deserve a guy who will look over at you in the morning and pull you in closer when you wake up. He will tell you how beautiful you look when you think you’re a mess. He’ll tell you how happy he is to wake up with you by his side. 

He’ll want to lie there holding you as long as possible because it feels so good to have you in his arms. The rest of the world can wait as far as he’s concerned.

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When it comes to telling our loved ones how we feel, we struggle. 

It is so hard to put into words exactly how we feel in our hearts. 

Thankfully… that’s why we have quotes!

If you need a little inspiration to get you started, here are a few quotes you can’t go wrong with. 

1. “Falling for him wasn’t like falling at all.  It was walking into a house and suddenly knowing you’re home.” – Unknown

2.  “I realized I was thinking of you, and I began to wonder how long you’d been on my mind. Then it occurred to me: Since I met you, you’ve never left.” – Unknown

3. “Maybe I’m scared because you mean more to me than any other person. You are everything I think about, everything I need, everything I want.” – Unknown

4. “The best love is the kind that awakens the soul; that makes us reach for more, that plants the fire in our hearts and brings peace to our minds. That’s what I hope to give you forever.” – Nicholas Sparks

5. “I have to be honest with you. I think about you a lot. All the time, actually. In the morning, at night, in the middle of my day. It’s you. It’s just always you.” – Unknown

6. “When my eyes meet yours I get this overwhelming emotion I can’t put into words.” – Unknown

7. “When you meet the right person, you know it. You can’t stop thinking about them. They are your best friend and your soulmate. You can’t wait to spend the rest of your life with them. No one and nothing else can compare.” – How I Met Your Mother

8. “You are the finest, loveliest, tenderest, and most beautiful person I have ever known. And even that is an understatement.” – F. Scott Fitzgerald

9. “The day I met you, my life changed…the way you make me feel is hard to explain. You make me smile in a special kind of way…you make me fall deeper in love every day.” – Unknown

10. “It was instinctive the way I fell for you. Like an effortless intake of breath.” – Josh Walker

11. “Have you ever just looked at someone and thought, “I really love you.” They’re just talking or humming or watching a movie or reading a book or laughing or something, and there’s something about them in that moment that makes you think, “I just really love you.” – Unknown

12.  “I wish I could explain your eyes and how the sound of your voice gives me butterflies. How your smile makes my heart skip a beat and how every time I’m with you, I feel so complete.” – Unknown

13.  “He was different. There was something about him that made him the one star to shine in a sky with a million that went unnoticed. It was the way he carried his heart in his eyes and I swear, I saw my name there more than once.” -Stephanie Bennett-Henry

14.  “When I say I love you more, I don’t mean I love you more than you love me. I mean I love you more than the bad days ahead of us, I love you more than any fight we will ever have. I love you more than the distance between us, I love you more than any obstacle that could try and come between us. I love you the most.” – Unknown

15. “He’s more myself than I am. Whatever our souls are made of, his and mine are the same.” – Emily Bronte

16. “You found parts of me I didn’t know existed and in you, I found a love I no longer believed was real.” – Unknown

17. “Meeting you was like listening to a song for the first time and knowing it would be my favorite.” – Unknown

18. “I hope you know that every time I tell you to get home safe, stay warm, have a good day, or sleep well what I am really saying is I love you.  I love you so damn much that it is starting to steal other words meanings.” – Unknown

19.  “You don’t love someone for their looks, or their clothes, or their fancy car, but because they sing a song only you can hear.” – Oscar Wilde

20. “He stared at her, knowing with certainty that he was falling in love. He pulled her close and kissed her beneath a blanket of stars, wondering how on earth he’d been lucky enough to find her.” -Nicholas Sparks

21. “She was drawn to him. The way his eyes danced with hers in the darkness. Like two shooting stars on the same path in the night sky. It was almost as if they were meant to be. If she believed in real love, this would be it.” – Jessica Michelle

22. “Find someone who makes you realize three things: one, that home is not a place, but a feeling. Two, that time is not measured by a clock, but by moments. And three, that heartbeats are not heard, but felt and shared.” – Unknown

23. “You felt familiar the moment I met you. A lovely sort of déjà vu. When we spoke or laughed or danced I became overwhelmed by the powerful sensation that I had been here before. And when we kissed I felt the energies of a thousand lives on our lips, like our souls had known each other all along.” – Beau Taplin

24. “I didn’t fall in love with you. I walked into love with you, with my eyes wide open, choosing to take every step along the way. I do believe in fate and destiny, but I also believe we are only fated to do the things that we’d choose anyway. And I’d choose you; in a hundred lifetimes, in a hundred worlds, in any version of reality, I’d find you and I’d choose you.”  – Unknown

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I know you have a hard time sharing your feelings, but I want you to know that you can with me. You never have to worry that I’m going to judge or think less of you.

I want to be here for you if you’ll give me the chance. I want more than anything to be the first person you turn to with not only good news, but also the bad. 

I want to be your rock; the one who will always be there if you need to ask for advice, vent, scream, laugh or even cry.

No matter what, you can always come to me with anything. When you start to question that, please try and remember these things:

You never need to worry about bringing me down.

Everyone gets down sometimes. There will be plenty of times I’ll need to rely on you, so of course I want to do the same for you.

Just remember that I’m here for the good and the bad. I promise you, I can handle it.

You never need to feel inferior.

Every single person out there has something they’re dealing with. You should never feel bad about yourself. You are an incredible and thoughtful person, and I hope to make you believe that. 

More importantly, I never want you to feel as if you aren’t good enough for me. You are so much more than enough, and nothing you say will ever change that.

You never need to feel guilty.

Your happiness means the world to me, and I’ll do anything I can to make it happen. If I didn’t care about you or felt you were a burden, I wouldn’t be in this with you.

But I am with you one hundred percent, and I don’t plan on going anywhere anytime soon.

You never have to go through anything alone.

Your problems are my problems. That’s what a relationship is all about. I’m always going to be here for you to confide in, and I’ll always have your back.

I wouldn’t have it any other way.

You never have to feel weak or embarrassed.

A lot of men think that women want this closed off, emotionless man who never shows any vulnerability. Truth is… they couldn’t be more wrong.

Being a man doesn’t mean you have to be afraid to show your emotions. If anything, it takes more strength to share them than it does to keep them locked inside.

I love you, and I wish you could see yourself the way I see you. I promise you – you’d never doubt yourself again.

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The sour patch girl is the girl who is sour on the outside, but sweet on the inside. She comes off as a little cold at first, but don’t let that hardened exterior fool you. 

Underneath it all, she’s one of the sweetest girls you’ll ever meet. She’s just learned to act tough over the years. But that’s all it is – an act.

Don’t let her passive ‘fuck you’ attitude throw you off.  She has a candy-coated heart underneath all that sour.  All it takes is a little time to find it.

This is a girl who takes relationships very seriously. She can be confusing and hard to interpret sometimes. But that doesn’t mean she isn’t worth it.

As you get to know her, there are a few things you should keep in mind:

1. She seems to get annoyed easily. 

Don’t take it to heart – she probably isn’t really annoyed with you. It’s just her sarcastic, sassy nature coming out. 

Sometimes she forgets to rein it in, but she means no harm.

2. She may not always have a smile on her face.

She isn’t an open book when it comes to her feelings, but don’t assume she’s mad or not having a good time. 

She’s probably thrilled on the inside; it just doesn’t reflect well in her demeanor.

3. She can be erratic at times.  

She can be quick to react or make a snap judgement if something sets her off. But then she’s just as quick to apologize for it.

4. She can be way too blunt.

She’s honest but incredibly direct. It often comes off as critical, but she means well. Don’t think she’s being mean or trying to hurt you. 

In her mind, she’s genuinely trying to help out of care for you.

5. She gets hurt easily.

Though she doesn’t look it, she is extremely sensitive. Your words may affect her more than you realize. It doesn’t take much to hurt her.

6. She will do everything she can to hide that pain.

She doesn’t want to appear weak or harm her tough girl appearance. So she will bury that pain as best she can. 

But if you look closely enough, you can see it in her eyes.

7. She’s incredibly hard on herself.

She sets high standards for herself, and she gets mad if she feels she isn’t living up to them. She’s constantly doubting herself or striving to be better. 

So when you think she’s being hard on you, imagine what she must be telling herself.

Just remember…appearances can be very misleading. She won’t be sour for long.

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You meet this guy and fall in love almost immediately. He’s everything you thought you wanted – good looking, smart, funny, outgoing, and so much more. Everything seems to be going incredibly well, and you start to think maybe he really is the man of your dreams.

But then, something changes. As you start to get more serious about him, you start to question if he feels the same way. It’s like this invisible wall has gone up between the two of you, and you can’t figure out what went wrong.

He no longer goes out of his way to call you or make plans to take you out. He stops telling you what he’s thinking or how he feels about you other than a generic, almost robotic sounding “I love you.”

Unfortunately, this is when the truth hits. You’ve found yourself in a relationship with someone who is emotionally unavailable. If you’re wondering what makes someone emotionally unavailable, here are a few signs you may have missed.

1. He never stops talking about the Ex(es) who hurt him in the past.

Everyone has baggage, but what matters the most is how they deal with it. If he seems like he’s still living in the past, he probably isn’t over it yet. 

He will continue to hide behind that trauma as a reason not to move forward.

2. He completely shuts down when you ask him anything about his feelings.

You’re constantly met with “I’m fine” or “nothing’s wrong” when you know that clearly isn’t true. He says he isn’t good at talking about things, but he seems to have no problem opening up to his friends. 

He just can’t seem to include you in that circle of trust. 

3. He’s in denial that there’s even a problem.

If you try and talk to him, he’ll make excuses. He’ll tell you he isn’t being closed off, he’s just tired. Or busy. Or maybe it’s due to stress at work. 

Whatever the excuse, you know that isn’t the real reason for his behavior.

4. What he says and what he does just don’t line up.

He claims he wants to be close to you, but he’s only willing to show it a certain way. Often this is through sex or other types of physical affection. 

When it comes to other types of intimacy that you may need, he has no interest.

5. It always feels like it’s ‘his way or the highway.’

The relationship is usually centered around his routine or his needs. He’s used to being on his own, and he isn’t always flexible about changing his ways. 

He isn’t willing to meet your needs, especially if that means opening up on an emotional level.

6. He’s hot and cold in ways that make Katy Perry jealous.

He constantly changes how he acts. One day he seems affectionate, and the next day he’s as distant as can be. 

You never know which side of him you’re going to get, and it drives you crazy.

 7. Distance is like, his middle name.

He starts to get silent and disconnected out of nowhere. He checks out when you try and talk to him, and he stops putting forth much of an effort. 

You start to feel like he isn’t interested in anything you have to say. At this point, you’re left feeling isolated, alone, and depressed. You want so bad to get through to him, to make him understand. You have so many emotions you want to share, but instead you start to shut down as well. 

Your heart slowly starts to break and you’re left alone with all your feelings… and someone who will never be able to return them.

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Valentine’s Day is all about the cheesy, over the top, grand gesture type of romance. It’s just not complete without the heart-shaped chocolates, wine, fancy dinners, candles, and of course sex.

But the most important part of it all: music. You simply can’t slow dance or set the mood without it.

So when the time comes grab a bottle of wine, lay out some rose petals, and hit play with these songs. It’s sure to get you to the dessert stage, if you know what I mean!

1. Thinking Out Loud – Ed Sheeran

“Take me into your loving arms. Kiss me under the light of a thousand stars. Place your head on my beating heart. I’m thinking out loud”

2. Kiss Me Slowly – Parachute

“Hold my breath as you’re moving in. Taste your lips and feel your skin. When the time comes, baby don’t run, just kiss me slowly.”

3. My My Love – Joshua Radin

“When first I laid eyes upon your face. This song replaced all the others I have written. It’s all brand new because of you. Feels like I’ve known you forever.”

4. The Blower’s Daughter – Damien Rice

“I can’t take my eyes off of you…”

5.  Kiss Me –  Ed Sheeran

“My heart’s against your chest, your lips pressed in my neck. I’m falling for your eyes, but they don’t know me yet”

6. You Are the Best Thing – Ray LaMontagne

“And baby the way you move me, it’s crazy. It’s like you see right through me. And make it easier. Believe me, you don’t even have to try.”

7.  You and I – Ingrid Michaelson

“Maybe I think you’re cute and funny. Maybe I wanna do what bunnies do with you, if you know what I mean.”

8. Sea of Love – Lily & Madeleine

“Come with me, my love. To the sea, the sea of love. I want to tell you how much I love you”

9. Feels Like Home – Chantal Kreviazuk

“If you knew how much this moment means to me. And how long I’ve waited for your touch. If you knew how happy you are making me. I never thought that I’d love anyone so much.”

10. Turn Me On – Norah Jones

“Like a flower waiting to bloom. Like a lightbulb in a dark room. I’m just sitting here waiting for you. To come on home and turn me on.”

11. How Deep Is Your Love – The Bird and The Bee

“I want you to breathe me in. Let me be your air. Let me roam your body freely. No inhibition, no fear.”

12. More Than Anyone (stripped version) – Gavin Degraw

“I’m going to love you more than anyone. I’m going to hold you closer than before. And when I kiss your soul, your body’ll be free. I’ll be free for you anytime. I’m going to love you more than anyone.”

13.  Can’t Help Falling in Love –  Ingrid Michaelson

“Take my hand, take my whole life too. Oh, for I can’t help falling in love with you.”

14. Is This Love – Corinne Bailey Rae

“I want to love you, and treat you right, I want to love you, every day and every night.”

15. To Make You Feel My Love – Adele

“I’d go hungry, I’d go black and blue. I’d go crawling down the avenue. No, there’s nothing that I wouldn’t do. To make you feel my love.”

16. Gotta Have You – The Weepies

“No amount of coffee, no amount of crying. No amount of whiskey, no amount of wine. No, no, no, no, no, nothing else will do. I’ve gotta have you, I’ve gotta have you.”

17. I Will Love You – Fisher

“Til my body is dust, ’til my soul is no more. I will love you, love you.”

18. Have I Told You Lately – Van Morrison

“Have I told you lately that I love you.  Have I told you there’s no one above you. Fill my heart with gladness.  Take away my sadness.  Ease my troubles, that’s what you do.”

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