Author: Hales Danii

In a few short months I will marry the absolute love of my life.. But, believe it or not, the reason is not what you would expect. 

1. No, as shocked as some of you may be… I am not pregnant.. Believe it or not, some people marry for love, not because there is a child on the way.. Go figure.

2. As awesome as it would be, one of us does not need a green card.. Nope. We are definitely here because for some reason our hearts longed for true and divine happiness.. Damn, who knew! 

3. Yes, we are straight and definitely not trying to hide our sexuality by getting married! 

4. Considering we do not have money to begin with, no I do not only want him because of his money, vehicle or what he has.. Or in our case.. Does not have. We have love. Surely people can tell that it's enough? No.. Okay.. 

Going on.. 

5. I am sure many of you are asking.. "Well, are you doing it for his employment health insurance?" The answer is no. Sorry. 

6. I do not even claim my handsome fiance on my taxes- why would we get married for the tax cuts?

7. We have not committed a crime that needs to be covered up by us getting married right this instant! And even with spousal privilege I would still tell on him! 

8. We are not getting married simply because we do not want to be alone or take care of ourselves. 

9.Sorry, but we are NOT waiting for marriage to have sex- our sex is already FREAKING WONDERFUL!

10. Sometimes the wedding gifts are pretty damn awesome, but we do not ask for anything except for you to actually make an attempt to come.. How about that? 

11. Just to have a wedding. Women would be more willing to be married just to have that big blow out wedding they've always dreamed of. 

12. So we can play "adult". This would be an insane concept, but we do not need to play adult. We are too busy BEING ADULTS.

13. We are not doing it in order to be able to move in with one another. If that were the case, we could just do that… And let's face it- it would be SO much cheaper than a wedding. 

As much as I hate to disappoint everyone hoping and expecting the worst, I hate to tell you that the only reason we are getting married is because we truly love one another and did not want to wait.

When I look back on my life, I see a lot of happiness, pain, sadness, questioning and regret. I see so many things that I would have done differently and some things that I would do again because it actually all turned out okay. 

When I was a little girl, my dad always told me that I should never regret a single day of my life or a single choice I had made. 

Well, it was not until recently that I found out just how right he really was. Because when we met I completely brushed things off and made a choice I wish I hadn't. 

But that choice still lead me to you, that decision still allows me to wake up beside you. That choice allows me to kiss you ever single morning and look into your eyes before bed every night.

Now here we are… Getting ready for a life together, making plans, anxious to get married and all the while, still so madly in love with one another.

I want to say thank you. 

Thank you so much for loving me when I am absolutely hell to love. Thank you for being my back bone, my strength, and my rock. 

For taking care of me when I am sick. You are the first one out of bed and usually the last to get back into it simply because you love "taking care of me" 

Thank you for letting me mess up… When I burn dinner, forget certain things that need to be done, drive a little too fast… 

Thank you for giving me the freedom to make my own decisions.

I know that at times, I am so indicisive and I know that it drives you completely insane! But, I appreciate it so much! 

Most of all, thank you for adoring me and never letting me forget what I mean to you. 

When I feel down on myself and you easily cheer me up, when you look at me just because you think I am the most beautiful woman in the world and even when you hold me as I sleep. 

Those are many things that keep me falling more and more in love with you. 

Throughout this new journey in our lives, I hope you never forget that I do love you, more than all of the moon and stars, more than bacon and more than all of the oceans combined.

My dearest valentine, 

     Right now, you do not know how amazing and extraordinary you truly are and there are so many things that I want you to know, so here are just a few reasons that I love you, oh so dearly. 

Every night, you never fail to tell me how much that you love me, you think I am the most beautiful person in the world and that you can not wait to spend your life with me. Yet, I have been unable to tell you how important you really are to me. 

When we first met, I felt my heart skip and tumble, the world faded and for once, I knew why I was put in this world, I knew that I was meant to love you and cherish you the way that no other was able to. 

It did not take long for you to steal my heart, for your eyes to become my favorite sight and your smile to become my absolute favorite thing to wake up to every single morning. 

More than ever, I hope that you read this and you know that you are my future, my happily ever after and my favorite story to tell. 

Our love story is not like many others. What other people would have failed, we achieved. What other people see as trials and tribulations, we see as adventures with a new destination. 

We both know for a fact that we will not be where we are now in a years time, or probably a few months time. For all we know, we will be across the country or in a new country completely. 

But, I do know one thing, as long as I am beside you, my journey will be a happy one. 

I can not stand this; I hate the fact that no matter how long our friendship is, you will still claim that I friend zoned you.

No, dumbass. I never wanted to date you so you became my best friend. 

From the very beginning, you were the person who I would call on for literally everything. My heartbreaks, my dreams, my goals, my plans for weekends. But, somehow, you got the wrong idea and when I "friendzoned" you, then suddenly I was the issue in this friendship. 

The fact that I lost a close friend because I would not sleep with you shows that you truly only had one thing in mind all along. Poor thing. 

When the time comes, I hope that you understand that you were my closest friend. I truly hope that you are able to put our differences aside and swallow your pride enough to allow us to fix the friendship that has fallen apart. 

I am so sick of hearing about women "Friend zoning" men when in reality, there are probably more women like me.. 

Women who only seen you as a friend and suddenly lost that friend because they would not be with them. Even though they never really intended to. 

More times than not, men some how get this wild fantasy in their minds that we want to date them or sleep with them.

I am so sick of being blamed for wanting a close friend when in reality all I get is a "friend" who sees me as just another piece of ass. 

During any relationship, we will constantly be told that the person we are with is not right for us. We will always have to deal with critics, people who do not want you to have happiness that you obviously deserve. 

So many people experience this, yet when I look at him, he is all I see. 

The world is not quite as cold and gruesome and every time I look in my passenger seat, there he is. 

He has kept me strong. So very often, you may often hear me refer to him as my rock, my strength. Which, if I must admit.. He is. 

There were bumpy roads, stop lights that seemed to be on fire and hurtful words from disapproving people. 

But, we are still here. He is still the person I turn to in my time of need. I often wake up just to be even more excited to tell him what happened during my dreams and he is always there. 

With a smile, and my absolutely favorite drink in order to calm my nerves. 

His deep eyes calming my worst fear, the most terrifying storm becomes a short shower when he is near. 

When you have found someone who looks like you like you hung the stars and tries to give you the moon, do not let them go. 

When he is not around, I find myself scrambling in the dark. 

I find myself losing sanity, falling short of everything I have planned for myself. 

The world has so much negative, it always has. 

But, if you are lucky you just might find out that there is always positive with negative, beautiful with ugly and light with dark. 

That is what so many people do not understand. 

Yet, if you are one of those big hearted girls who tend to put your all into saving the world and making it a bigger place, you will soon discover that there are many problems with being the big hearted girl in this cold world. 

1. People will use you more often than other people.

It is not hard to give your last few dollars to someone, or even $80 to someone in they are in need.

What is a little difficult is finding out you will not always get back what you loaned. Probably not even a single penny of it. But that is just one consequence to having such a huge heart. 

2. You see the good in absolutely everyone.

Well, this is obvious. It does not matter what the person did.

You will always find a reason to forgive them and find the angel underneath the hard shell. 

3. You put your entire heart into everything. 

It does not matter what it is.

It could be working, relationships, friendships, and hobbies. You will still put your all into it, even if people think you are crazy for doing so.

4. You are more sensitive to.. literally everything.

Having a big heart means you are capable of feeling just a little more than others. While you are putting your whole heart into something, you are opening yourself up to being much more sensitive. 

Relationships can be a bitch, the slightest things people say can get to you.. 

Needless to say…

5. You wear that big heart right on top of your shirt sleeve! 

You want nothing more than the world to have the kind of love that you hold in your heart and who knows, maybe one day it will. 

6. No matter what you have gone through, you give humanity another chance. 

When it comes down to it, humans can never do anything too terrible because you want to see the best in everyone. So, you do. 

But, for now, you will continue to love, cherish and forgive anyone who shows a little remorse in this cruel world.

We all have things we would never give up.. But here are some things we should give up for the person that wants to spend their life with us. 

1. Negativity

This can be a huge life safer not just for your partner but you as well. We often carry negativity from work home with us and it can cause issues in any relationship. Might as well just go ahead and nip it in the bud now! 

2. Where you are living

Just once, I firmly believe that we should all just drop everything, forget about the people we know, family and friends, and just leave everything. Move somewhere completely new and build something extraordinary together. Even if only for a year or two, go and enjoy something with the love of your life. It can work wonders for your relationship.

3. Social Media

I will be the first to admit that I am a complete social media fanatic! But, this also comes with so much negativity that can come into your relationship as well! 

Even if it is just a month, six months, a year or a few years.. Try going without social media and connect more with your partner than faces on a screen. 

4. Past relationships

I am not saying that you have to give up friendships with good friends, no that is perfectly okay. I am talking about the relationships that have held you back. Anything that keeps you from focusing on your partner.

5. Trust issues

Okay, seriously.. Your partner is not your exes. There are not always red flags you should be looking for and more times than not, you are looking for things that are not even there anyway. 

This will always make you see issues that are not there and it will eventually come into your relationship and you might just lose the best thing to ever happen to you.  

6. Chick flics

Unless you are lucky enough to find a partner who enjoys chick flics and will watch them with you, then don't beg them to. If you are not into scary movies, you would not watch it no matter how many times they asked, so why constantly ask them? 

Seriously, just wait and do it alone when you have time for yourself. 

 7. Self Doubt

When you doubt yourself, you will also begin to doubt your relationship.

We have somehow gotten into this "tradition" where we only really Value people on certain days of the year. 

I think that this is absolutely ridiculous! 

If you want someone to know how important they are to you, just surprise them instead of waiting for a certain day to cherish them!

A lot of these holidays are basically idiotic! I am sorry, but how are you only going to cherish your parents on "Mothers day" and "Fathers day"?!

Absolutely not. 

You should just tell everyone exactly how you feel, or just surprise them with a gift at random times just because you freaking can. 

Valentines day is coming up soon, and I must say that I have had some relationships where they did not surprise me at all, and on valentines day, I couldn't be surprised because that is kind of what is supposed to happen. But, haven't we all been there?

There comes a time when you realize that one year, your parents, significant other and siblings wont be there anymore and you will realize that the one day a year was basically a waste of your time when you should have been doing this all along! 

So, do me a favor. 

Just a few times a month, call your mom and tell her that you love her. Tell her that you were thinking of her and you hope that she is doing well. 

I get it, you have a busy life, you must be swamped in papers and your job, but on your 30 minute break, use 15 to eat then ten to call and check in. 

I have spent so much time neglecting my relationships with my family, as we all have.

And believe me when I tell you that one day, they wont be here any more and you are going to want that 10 minute phone call anyway.

Dear mommy,

Things are just as you thought they would be for me here in heaven. The sky is blue, the bridges golden and Jesus welcomed me as soon as I arrived. 

The people here are friendly. They taught me how to watch over you, and I can see that you are crying. 

As you are hurting, I wish I could be there to hold you and tell you that I am fine, I am out of pain and I know that without you, I would not have had quite an amazing life as you gave me. 

Dear mommy, 

Jesus taught me how to visit you in your dreams. He told me that it would comfort you in your time of need. 

Though you are hurting right now, I want you to know that no matter what, I am finally at peace, and God is teaching me how to fly. 

Oh, mommy, I really got some pretty wings! 

Dear mommy, 

All the pain is gone. 

God told me that once I died, my soul moved on. Which left all the pain and stress behind. 

Goodness mommy, since I have gotten to Heaven, I have not once cried. 

I know you miss me mommy. 

I know your heart is filled with gloom. Mine, at times, is too. 

I can not wait till your arms are around me, holding me close once again. 

Just always remember mommy, when your time comes and God calls you home, I will be waiting.. No matter how long. 

Before you, of course I had been in relationships, but those relationships left me bored after a few months. 

They left me wanting more, craving something else, searching for someone I could have deep conversations with.. 

They left me wanting to be with someone who could look at me and know something was wrong. But, I was left empty, wanting more, depressed and cold after many failed relationships. 

It was not until you, until I looked into your deep eyes, until your strong arms fell around me like a heated blanket that I realized I had never been loved truly at all. 

Even after only a few seconds with you, I felt more love than I did even in some of my longer relationships. 

Every time I look into your eyes, even after so long of us being together, I still notice my heart fluttering. Every single time you kiss me, I still feel myself become short of breath. 

Through everything, the years of friendship, months of us going without talking.. When I called on you, you were there. You were at my side when I needed you to be. 

No matter how hard we fell off, when I needed a hero, you were it for me. You were my go-to, my savior, my safe haven. 

After so many years together, you are still my safe haven, my safe place and my protector. 

It took you. You breaking down my walls. 

You fighting for a place in my life. 

You always waiting for me. 

It took you being you in order for me to see what I needed, what was meant to be mine. 

It took me being so infuriatingly guarded to realize just how hard you would fight for me. 

That is when I seen it.. That is when I seen that God made you for me. He made you the person who would save me when I least expected it.