Author: Helen Garvey

The usual cheesy chat up lines can work on some girls, but most girls want something more.

They want something more than “Here’s a quarter to call home and tell your mom you’re not coming home.” Some men are naturally confident and can ask a girl out without the need to issue a cheesy chat up line. Their moves are natural and attractive to girls—and confidence is sexy. So if you’re socializing and you have your eye on a girl (or guy), and she’s made the two-second of eye contact (always good) and given you a brief smile, she wants you to approach her. Sure, she could knock you back, but there is always that risk when you make a move. Throw down your pride and instead of using a cheesy chat up line, impress her with these top 5 tips.

1. Laughter is catching: Most girls want a guy who can make a fool of himself, so if you can make her laugh, she’ll feel more at ease in your company.

2.  Get on the dance floor: This may not work on all girls, and it requires confidence on your part, but if you know that she’ll be wowed by your moves, dancing is a good way of communicating with her through body language. You can bump and grind with her, spin her round and make her feel like the most beautiful girl in the room, whilst also making yourself look sexy in the process. Every girl secretly likes to be with a man who is admired by others.

3. Work out: So what if you’re not the most handsome of guys in the room, you may have the hottest body beneath your jeans and tee. Wear a tee that flatters your arms and abs. Show off your toned bum in a pair of stylish jeans. Perhaps she’s already ‘sensed’ your hot body and she’s desperate for you to make a move. Girls are prone to move onto the dance floor with their girl friends and sway their hips in an effort to get attention from guys. Some enjoy a little too forward dancing with their girl friends, even to the point of indulging in a passionate kiss. If she has to kiss a girl to get your attention, and then looks directly at you with a cheeky grin, she wants you!

4. Be different and seek different: You might have a body laden with tattoos, in which case you might prefer to date a tattooed girl. If you notice a girl from across the room who has a striking tattoo, don’t be afraid of complimenting her. The prime reason why people have tattoos is to impress others, above the sentimental aspects of names and symbols. Ask her questions about the tattoo. Tattoos make great conversation pieces. Use this to your advantage to find out more about her (or him).

5. Compliments ahoy: Girls often dress to impress, and if the object of your affection has a great cleavage, booty, or abs, it makes perfect sense to want to tell her so. However, this final tip asks you to compliment other areas of her body. Compliment her hairstyle, her tattoos or piercings (if she has any), or her dance moves. Perhaps she can down a pint of beer faster than you, which is pretty impressive to guys. Once you’ve dazzled her with your conversation—and hopefully into the bedroom, you can finally confess that you think she has a hot body.

Asking out a girl (or guy) doesn’t have to be difficult if you think outside of the box. Your friends may be good looking enough to be able to use the cheesy chat up lines on a girl, but you can dazzle her with personality instead.

Fantasies are designed to arouse. Some of them may include a partner, while others may include strangers or even sensual objects like food or latex. If you’re wondering what the hell goes on in a woman’s mind, it’s pretty kinky! The erotic trilogy: Fifty Shades of Grey has had a horny effect on many women worldwide. It made submission mainstream. A fantasy does not have to become a reality, but if you can share the fantasy with a partner, you two can enter new realms of ecstasy. Having a fantasy about someone or an object is not infidelity. Most men enjoy the fantasy of watching their woman masturbate or having a hot lesbian fantasy.

According to the Garden of Desires written by Emily Dubberley, more than four hundred women were asked about their fantasies. Here are the top ten:

1. Submission: She wants to surrender to domination, so strip her naked, tie up her wrists, open her thighs, and gently tease every one of her erogenous zones with your tongue, lips, and fingers. In this position, you have all the power. You can tell her exactly what you want her to do, and because it’s a role playing game you two are playing, you might just see another side of her.

2. The strap-on fantasy: Not every guy is going to be into this fantasy, as it gives a woman power in the bedroom. She can imagine how it feels to screw a tight hole. This popular female fantasy is sound tracked on the latest Jessie J’s tune, Do It Like a Dude. The popular name for strap-on sex is pegging.

3. Group sex: Yep, women enjoy the thought of getting naked with another woman. Where to find that ‘third’ person is enlivened in the mind of a woman. Most of the time, women experience a connection with a partner during sex, but the group sex fantasy destroys this. She can have sex without feeling intimacy or love.

4. Sex In the Non-Conventional Way: The conventional way to have sex is with a penis, but most women wanted to be stimulated in other ways. These include the feeling of being spanked or engaging in a lesbian orgy.

5. Voyeurism: The fantasy or reality of being caught in the act is a turn on for women. They enjoyed the thought of watching two neighbours getting it on, or seeing a guy jerk himself off.

6. Non-Human Sex: Trilogies like Twilight have made non-human entities sexy, and these characters have had a huge effect on women. Non-humans include ghosts, vampires, and werewolves, so she could just be thinking about getting it on with a non-human next time you guys are getting naked.

7. Food Feeding: Feeding a partner food is sexy. In fact, the fantasy that most women have is the one of a partner feeding them. Sexy foods include those high in zinc like oysters and antioxidant rich foods like dark chocolate.

8. Foreplay: Most women want to make a mind-body connection with a partner; therefore, their fantasies include hot foreplay methods like clitoral stimulation and oral sex.

9. A-Sexual: Of the four hundred women surveyed, two percent are asexual, which means that they have no sexual attraction to another human. However, this does not mean that they have no fantasies. They fantasise in private.

1. Be Different: Fantasies are different for everyone, so if you think that you’ve got an fantasy that is taboo, explore it in your mind. It’s perfectly safe.

In Conclusion

Fantasies hurt no one. Besides the submission fantasy brought to light by the popular Fifty Shades of Grey trilogy, other popular fantasies include hot oral sex, group sex, and even food feeding. Don’t be afraid of sharing your fantasies with a partner.

It’s never pleasant to experience betrayal in a relationship. Perhaps you’ve caught your girl or guy with a friend or stranger and you’re seething inside. It takes courage for a partner to confess that they are cheating on you. If it’s true love your partner should respect you enough to tell you. On the other hand, having a secret affair is the weaker path. It is justifiable to feel angry and want to get your revenge. You enter a relationship and learn to trust them. When a partner betrays you it can take years to heal and trust again. So here is a fun way to get even on a cheating partner, whether you know about the affair or not. The usual activities may be to pour a drink over a partner’s head, or cut up their clothes, so why not get them back with an explosive session that you know they’ll never forget.

Sure, it’s a crazy idea, but that’s exactly what I did to a crush. I know that my experience worked on him because he wrote me a long erotic story several months later trying to entice me over to a foreign country. As if I would fall for such romantic crap. This was after he had broken my heart by telling me had fallen for a supermodel-esque lady. The memory that you want to create is one of hot sex.

Remember, that this method will only work if you

1) Know about the cheating, but have kept this information secret.

2) Pretend that you’ve ‘forgiven’ the act but really want to get your own back and dump them afterward.

Use Domination to Your Advantage

Domination kits are not too expensive. Visit a sex shop or browse the many stores available online. Kits often include some bondage tape for tying the wrists (and feet), a blindfold, and perhaps a whip too. Once you have your ‘ex’ partner in your sights and they’re happy to get naked (because they have no idea of what you’re up to), lie them down, tie up their wrists, blindfold them, and work on creating an explosion in between their thighs. Use your lips, tongue and fingers to create this. Erogenous areas to excite include the lips, nipples, wrists, fingers, inner thighs, back of the knees, nape of the neck, and the spine. Stimulating these areas will have an effect on your partner’s genitals. This is what you want to do. You want them to beg you for an orgasmic release.

Kissing on the mouth is an intimate act; so if you can continue the pretence that you love and cherish your partner without the urge to bite off their bottom lip, use this to your advantage. However, don’t fall for their charm. Remember, you want to get even on a cheating partner, and the best way to do this is to create a memorable experience. If you have no urge to kiss your soon to be ex, focus your pleasures on other erogenous zones. The key is to create so much arousal in him or her that they beg you to release their pent up sexual tension. Wait until you hear them moaning your name, begging you for release. When you untie them and remove their blindfold they’re desperate to get jump on you and have a sweaty sex session.

This session alone will require strength, but continue to keep up the pretence, as you want to give him or her—hopefully—the best sex of their life. You want to be a sexy memory. You want to have the power over your cheating ex, and this is possible if you can keep up the pretence. Sure, you’ll still be experiencing an emotional connection, especially when your bodies bump and grind together, but remind yourself of the betrayal. You deserve better. Continue to tell yourself this.

Do You Forgive or Forget

If you’re sure that your ‘ex’ has received the ‘best sex’, it’s time to say goodbye. Trust is necessary in a relationship, so if you’ve been betrayed don’t fall for the ‘but if you loved me you’d forgive me’ line. Betrayal is crushing. So what if you hear from a friend that your ex has returned to the girl or guy they originally cheated on you with. You made enough of an impression to ‘steal’ them away from the new partner—even if only for one night. The trick in using sex to get back at a partner is to make him or her pine for you afterward. Your ex may want to give your relationship another go, as they can’t get you out of their head, but this is your decision to face alone. Don’t let an array of compliments sway you from the truth inside your heart.

Good sex is about exploring one another’s bodies, and the 69er position is a great way to communicate your likes and dislikes to a partner.

It’s not the tool of choice for every couple, as it can be difficult to focus on receiving oral pleasure while you’re giving it in the opposite direction at the same time. However, perhaps you and your partner can come to an agreement. Perhaps you can retain the 69er position and one of you attends to the genitals not receiving any pleasure, while the other partner lies back and receives. Continue to swap every minute or two. This is a good way to bring each other closer to orgasm, whilst also intensifying the desire for one another.

There’s no need to be shy with the 69er position, as one of you is going to have to sit on a partner’s face. Some couples find it easier trying the 69er position on the side, as it’s directly faces the genitals, and there’s less reach required from the neck.

The 69er and Rimming

Another exciting method that you can both explore with the 69er position is rimming. This is best trialed after a bath or shower when the anus is clean. Using the mouth and fingers, stimulate the anus with the tongue. You don’t need to push your tongue inside the anus—if this idea grosses you out—but you can lick in the area between the anus and vagina/testicles—the perineum, as this is also highly sensitive to touch in both men and women. Condoms can be used to prevent infection, although if you’re trying this during or after a bath or shower, there is no need to be concerned.

Get Into Position

One of you must sit on a partner’s face facing the opposite site, their genitals inches from your mouth and fingers, while the other partner lies back with the genitals of their partner directly above them, receiving the pleasure from their partner down below. If you enjoy receiving a rimming of the ass, you might want to sit on a partner’s face, but to give the same in return requires a little flexibility and coordination. Swap positions to see if you feel as much intensity.

If you love oral sex, but your partner has facial hair, get on top during the 69er. Your partner must use a little effort to reach your clit with his tongue, and his hair will far less likely chafe against your clit. He’ll also be able to penetrate your vagina with his fingers and transfer those juices to your clit for an intense orgasmic build up.

One of the biggest turn ons of oral sex is that you can see and feel your partner’s enthusiasm during the show, unless you’ve been blindfolded beforehand. However, receiving oral sex in the 69er relies on you completing trusting your partner. You can’t see any of their moves, and, for many couples, this increases the pleasure. Your partner can take advantage of this increased arousal and bring you closer to orgasm whilst also backing off in a teasing motion, but you can also perform the same.

Synchronized Orgasms During the 69er

The key to achieving synchronized orgasms during the 69er is connecting with your partner. Study their body language during the 69er. How do they move their body? Do they hold their breath as you perform certain moves? Do their licks/sucks increase in vigorousness after you’ve performed a move? Perhaps you notice that the pleasure they’re giving has slowed down, which can be a good sign that you are bringing them closer to orgasm. If you feel that they’ve getting closer to climax, stop what you’re doing and refocus your attention on receiving the pleasure. Wait until you feel like you’re getting closer, and then give the exact same pleasure again. Once you’ve reached a certain stage in your arousal, it’s only a matter of time before you both experience the overwhelming ripples of pleasure. The more you experiment with the 69er position the easier it will be to experience orgasms together.

Is there a way to know if your partner is faking orgasm?

Yes. Watch the body. There are some moves that the body will do unconsciously during orgasm. In men and women, the genitals contract with sporadic movements for up to ten seconds. Some partners like to practice tantric sex, which will elongate the orgasm, however, this practice requires extensive self-control. I once stopped myself just before I felt myself orgasm and the rush of energy minutes later was definitely stronger. However, I’m not sure it’s a practice that I could continue. Orgasms are too beautiful to deny! If you feel that your partner is faking an orgasm, study their body language and look out for these moves/actions.

The Female Orgasm

The National Survey of Sexual Health and Behavior reports that 85 percent of men believed that their partner had orgasmed, but the true reality is that this number covered only 64 percent. More and more women are faking orgasm. Moans and filthy words can sound like she’s coming, but watch for signs in her body.

Personally, I think I’ve faked orgasm once in my whole life. Masturbation has helped me discover how I like to be touched, and I’m not afraid to communicate this to a partner. Don’t worry about the time it takes to orgasm. The average time it takes a woman to orgasm is up to thirty minutes. Oral sex can take longer.

Young women do not often need to strengthen their kegal muscles (the muscles that prevent urination), but this is an area that can grow slack after childbirth. Orgasms strengthen this area, as the vaginal muscles involuntarily contract ten to fifteen times during orgasm. This is one sign to look for in her. If her muscles do not contract during a clitoral orgasm, she is faking. Even if she’s an excellent performer of fake orgasms, it is unlikely that she could mirror the natural contractions of the PC muscles that occur during a genuine orgasm.

The g-spot orgasm differs, as the massaging of this spot (found one to two inches within the front vaginal wall) creates an urgency to urinate. There are many toys that can reach this area, or you can explore this area with one or two fingers. Some women can experience the elusive ‘squirting’ orgasm, but each woman is different. If you are going to experiment in this area, my advice would be to buy a strong plastic sex sheet for experimentation.

Her body heat will increase, she will experience heaving breathing, and her muscles will tense. The cheeks and chest flush after orgasm, but the flushing can also disappear equally as fast. The face also relaxes, and her pupils dilate.

During clitoral orgasm, she will also secrete a lot of seminal fluid. This provides the ideal scene for sexual intercourse. There is no denying when a woman wants a man. She’ll show you through her body language.

The Male Orgasm

If you can cause an erection in your partner, it’s a sign of his sexual arousal toward you. But where does it go from there. How can you find how if he’s faking an orgasm, or whether you’ve caused him to fall in seventh heaven! Many years of sexual experimentation has taught me that guys tense up right before orgasm. It’s always a good sign if a guy’s stating, “I’m getting close” as you can take this feedback and increase the enthusiasm during oral sex or intercourse.

One of the biggest turnoffs for a man during oral sex is a woman who doesn’t enjoy giving pleasure. A man can see and sense it. If you enjoy giving the selfless pleasure, and can display a genuine enthusiasm, he’ll relax into the moment.

During oral sex, I tell my partner to remember to breathe, as he’ll often hold his breath. I tell him to push all of his tension into his groin. He’ll grip the sheets, his breaths will deepen, and there may be a few curse words thrown in here and there, but these are good signs. It’s one of the best feelings in the world to make a partner orgasm.

During oral sex, if he’s said he’s coming, but there is no ejaculation, he’s faked his orgasm. Men naturally secrete pre-cum during sexual arousal, while semen spurts from his tip during orgasm. His body will contract uncontrollably and he may likely have to push you away from his genitals due to the increase in sensitivity. This can last for several minutes after a genuine orgasm.

It is only on the rare occasion that a man can experience another erection straight after orgasm, so if you’ve performed oral sex, or he says he’s exploded inside you during sex, but he’s still hard, he may have faked it.

In Conclusion

There are ways to know if your partner is faking orgasm, and body language is the largest give away. A quick moan and bodily shake is not enough to prove a genuine orgasm, so use the tips in this article to determine a real versus fake orgasm. When the orgasm is real, you’ll know it.

It is worthwhile to remember that sometimes we can’t always experience an orgasm, but that is no excuse to fake it. To continually fake orgasm is to make your partner believe that they are doing everything right. The key to becoming a hotter lover in the bedroom is to communicate and share your passions. Describe your favorite positions, experiment with oral sex on one another, and don’t worry about the time it takes for you to orgasm. Remove those tensions and make a mind body connection with your partner. The more comfortable you feel in your partner’s company, the easier it is to experience the real thing.

A happy and sexual relationship has foreplay at its center.

Both men and women crave foreplay. This can include oral sex, massage, or rimming. Even reading erotica together with a partner counts as foreplay. If you find yourself in a relationship that is one sided, where your partner focuses only on his or her self, it may be time to say goodbye, or communicate your desires before you lose excitement altogether.

These foreplay moves are worth a go.

Scalp Massage

A scalp massage has the power to relax a partner into feeling sexy and desired. Use the nails and glide them up the neck and into the scalp. Squeeze the hair gently. Foreplay is designed to cause arousal in a partner prior to intercourse, while relaxation techniques like the scalp massage is both foreplay and relaxation. Imagine being able to feed sexy thoughts into your partner’s mind during the massage.

Today’s society is overworked. A rise in the cost of living puts stress on the shoulders of students and young people, and this can lead to depression and undue stress. The scalp massage is a great move that can be done almost anywhere. Once your partner has given you a ten or fifteen minute scalp massage, it’s time to change places.

A Sizzling Make Out Session

A spontaneous make out sessions sets the whole body alight. The spine tingles, the genitals get excited and secrete juices and pre-cum, and you feel sexy and desired. All couples should have a long passionate make out session regularly, and aim to do it in random places too like your parent’s place, while they’re in the kitchen making you both a drink of tea. Spice up your sex life by focusing on places to make out other than the bedroom.

Genital Rubbing With Clothes On

When the body is naked it’s too easy to fall into intercourse. This is why it’s good to work on your patience. Make out for several minutes without stripping. This can play out as mental torture, but it’s fun all the same. Imagine how it’s going to feel when you two can’t take the foreplay a second longer. If the session leads to a mutual beg for masturbation, oral sex, or sex, it’s having the desired effect.

Massage

Try these areas to drive your partner crazy. The nape of the neck is extremely sensitive to kisses and sucks. Don’t forget to kiss and nibble the earlobes. If your partner is not moaning hysterically during this foreplay move, flip them over and give them a deep French kiss, before returning your attention to the nape of the neck.

One of my favorite massage moves is the butt massage, but a few rubs on the back of my thigh can have the desired effect too. Massage creates relaxation and this is where the real fun starts. A relaxed partner is open to suggestion. Foreplay is all about creating desire in a partner. Foreplay can occur for several minutes, if you are both in the mood to get it on early, but it’s possible to continue with foreplay for hours. The more you can turn each other on in the moment the hotter the sex will be.

Communicate Your Fantasies

Communication can make for great foreplay between partners. Why not share a bottle of wine and sit on opposite ends of the sofa and share a fantasy. Take it in turns to play out the fantasy in your head. Yes, you may feel aroused the longer you continue, but that’s the objective of this particular foreplay move.

Foreplay does not have to be boring if you use your mind to think up original ways to tease your partner. Turning on a partner is foreplay for the giver, and it’s equally sizzling for the receiver. Foreplay is an act of love. It helps us to feel desired and loved. Engage in foreplay regularly and don’t worry about the time it takes to turn on a partner. If these moves make her wet, you’ll find it easy to make her cum during oral sex or clitoral stimulation.

There sits a hot spot in both men and women called the g-spot, or grafenburg spot, named after Ernst Grafenburg, a german gynecologist. In women, it is located around 2 to 3 inches inside the vagina, while the male g-spot is the size of a walnut and found in the anus. The massaging of the g-spot causes excitement in the body. Some men and women never explore this hot spot, but it can be extremely sensitive in some men and women.

My partner and I have explored this area on many occasions, and although I’ve never experienced the elusive ‘squirting’ orgasm or female ejaculation, it does make me feel like I could urinate. Some women do experience extreme pleasure when this area is massaged. The ‘doggy style’ position, and even legs on shoulders during missionary, stimulates the female g-spot.

Stimulation of the male g-spot can cause intense pleasure. The trouble is that this hot spot is found in the anus, and not many men want to explore this area. You may experience strange thoughts, perhaps even thoughts that you may be homosexual. This is simply not true. Sexual exploration is healthy.

The Female G-Spot

The best types of sex toys that stimulate the female g-spot are rabbits and dildos. There is even a g-spot vibrator available, which features a curved tip to massage the area. Alternatively, you can use your fingers to explore. The g-spot is fleshy to touch and creates an urgency to urinate when massaged. Some toys feature a clitoral stimulator too, which can encourage a deeper orgasm.

Visit the washroom and empty your bladder before you explore. This way, if you feel like you want to release any fluid, it’s less likely to be urine. Even a clitoral orgasm encourages the bladder to fill with fluid, which is why it’s often necessary to empty the bladder after orgasm.

Unless you’re naturally wet you will want to use lubricant. This will help the toy or fingers slide in comfortably. Relax into the moment, as you press harder on the area. Not every female will enjoy g-spot stimulation, while others prefer clitoral stimulation. Other women enjoy both. If your partner is a gentle lover, you can ask him to massage your g-spot.

The Male-G-Spot

The male g-spot, or prostate gland, is approximately the size of a walnut and found very close to the entrance of the anus. During ejaculation and orgasm, the g-spot may be unconsciously stimulated. This is how men discover their ‘hot’ spot. Some men are not afraid to explore, while other men repress this area of their sexuality. However, there is intense pleasure to discover here. My partner has taught me so much about his likes and dislikes sexually. One area that he is not afraid to stimulate is his g-spot. Gentle rimming (using the tongue) on the anus can be enough to create intense excitement.

The best way to explore the male g-spot is to lie on your back. This relaxes the sphincter muscles. Add a blob of lubricant onto a toy or finger and go gently. Some men may feel intense pleasure, which causes an erection, while others may not enjoy the sensation.

The sex toy market is huge. There are toys categorized into those for men and those for women. A g-spot stimulator has a small head. They are also available in various sizes. Use lubricant during exploration, as the anus does not secrete any natural fluids. You may choose to use a condom or go without. The fingers are another option, but make sure that you clean your fingers and/or toy thoroughly after use.

There is nothing to be afraid of in exploring the g-spot. The genitals are attached to our body freely. Upon stimulation, these areas of the body create profound excitement, while the ultimate ecstasy is an orgasm. Sexual exploration alone is healthy. If you decide to share your exploration with a partner, this can bring you two closer together. Make sure you’re prepared before you explore your body. Gather your toys, lubricants, and let your mind wander into pleasure island.

It’s natural to want to explore fantasies in a relationship. Any partner who says they have no fantasies is lying. A religious upbringing can lead to a repressed sex life without masturbation, oral sex, and fantasy. My partner and I frequently have fantasies, but to act them out in reality is to step into a completely different arena. We’ve frequently discussed exploring these acts in reality, but I don’t think either of us has the ‘balls’ to do it. We’ve both experienced trust issues with ex-partners in the past, and this is key to why some fantasies should stay just a fantasy.

Sometimes we can go overboard in proving our desirability toward a partner. Some couples want to have an open relationship, where they sleep with other people, as well as their own partner. This type of relationship does not work for everyone. Trust is paramount should you decide to experiment in this area.

Explore Fantasies

I’ve often gotten so excited during a fantasy that it can seem like a good idea to turn the fantasy real, but after an orgasm those feelings subside. My partner and I have discussed the possibility of going out and finding a partner for a threesome, and I’ve even written an erotic story of the same, but turning a fantasy into a reality is a whole different ballgame. Exploring your curiosity for a particular fantasy out of the bedroom is dangerous, and could put your relationship at risk.

On the other hand, there are some fantasies that are harmless. These may include foreplay moves, sexual positions, domination, and even the use of sex toys or lubricants. Exploring these fantasies in reality can add sizzle to a sex life. The key is knowing which fantasies to explore and take further, and which ones are titillating in the moment but best left to plain fantasy.

The ‘Threesome’ Fantasy

There’s often a fantasy in a partnership that may include a threesome. Even my partner and I have explored this fantasy in depth, both with women and men. Having this particular fantasy is not an act of infidelity, especially not if you can share your fantasy. However, some individuals are afraid of sharing their fantasies, for fear that they’ll be judged for them. The threesome fantasy is a common one; so don’t act jealous if your partner mentions this. Join in. Confidence in the bedroom is sexy. Displaying the green-eyed monster is not. Sexual exploration with creativity and fantasy is sexy. The key aim of fantasy is to create arousal, while foreplay and sexual activity lead to orgasms.

Turning a threesome fantasy into a reality is not the sanest of decisions to make in a relationship, but if you and your partner are trustworthy and have decided to try the fantasy just the one time, this act has the potential to bring you two closer together. Some relationships are solid. There is a level of trust ready to explore other areas of lovemaking. You must know one another inside out. You must know of your partner’s innermost fears and tribulations before you go ahead with the act, otherwise, you two risk the relationship you have, while potentially creating a distrust that can linger into future romantic relationships. It’s perfectly okay to have doubts, but the instinct knows better than to go with an idea just because it may possibly heighten your sex life.

Also, never agree to turn a fantasy into a reality to suit a partner. This relationship is co-dependent and abusive. We are all worthy of love and affection. Fantasy can remain just that, but some couples want to take it one step further and turn a fantasy into reality. It’s not always the best option; especially if it involves another person, so always communicate with a partner before finalizing your decision.