Author: LOLA

All it took was one talk, that’s when I knew.

I was having such a hectic day and I just needed you; I needed you to listen to me, to comfort me and make me feel okay again. Instead, you completely disregarded my feelings. I knew then that that’s not what I wanted. That’s not what I needed.

I was feeling vulnerable and what I needed was your comfort, your understanding, your love…

Now I could ask a million questions, but that’ll get me nowhere because if you truly wanted to, you would have shown me you cared.

You would have shown me sympathy; you would have shown me attention. Instead, I got nothing.

But what’s new?

Nothing, absolutely nothing.

My heart has lost its warmth.

From you recognizing all of your rights and acknowledging all of my wrongs, I’m tired of feeling unimportant. I’m tired of always being the one to blame. I’m tired of being kicked when I’m down and never made a priority,

In the past, it’s been difficult to let you go because you know me and I know you. We have a history together and that’s not something you just forget. 

You’ve always been a big part of my life, but unfortunately not the greatest. Of course, there have been times you’ve made me so incandescently happy, but I’d be lying if I said you weren’t the cause of so many of my darkest days. 

I’ve wished so many nights for this to get better but now I know that if you wanted this as badly as I did, you would have tried. You would have made an effort.

But here we are again, back to where we always seem to end up.

But this time, I don’t miss you anymore.

Some of us are fortunate enough to find that one great love – the one that slipped through our fingers, the one that we lose sleep over; that one great love that captured our hearts and took a piece of it as they exited our lives. And the only way we can feel again is listening to music that really speaks to us; the ones that sympathize, the ones that we sulk with, the ones we cry to. Here are 14 must listen to songs that will really understand our loss of the one that got away.

1. Under the Milky Way – Sia

“I wish I knew what you were looking for; I might have known what you would find.”

2. Thinking of You – Katy Perry

“Comparisons are easily done, once you've had a taste of perfection”

“How do I get better once I’ve had the best?”

3. Gravity – Sara Bareilles

“Something always brings me back to you; it never takes too long.”

“Set me free, leave me be. I don't want to fall another moment into your gravity.”

4. Ashes and Wine – A Fine Frenzy

“Is there a chance, a fragment of light at the end of the tunnel, a reason to fight?
 Is there a chance you might change your mind, or are we ashes and wine?”

5. Not Over You – Gavin DeGraw

“Dreams, that’s where I have to go, to see your beautiful face anymore.”

“If you ask me how I'm doing I would say I'm doing just fine. I would lie and say that you're not on my mind.”

6. Lovin’ Lately – Big & Rich

“I guess you've finally got the best of me. I guess you thought I'd never see. You know it's so hard to believe how we came down, like we were nothing, baby. Who you been lovin’ lately?”

7. Nothing – The Script

“I'm swearing if I go there now I can change her mind, turn it all around.”

“I dialed her number and confessed to her I'm still in love but all I heard, was nothing.”

8. Pretty Wings – Maxwell

“I turned day into night; sleep till I die a thousand times. I should've showed you
 better nights, better times, better days. I miss you more and more.”

9. Let You Go – SOJA

“I didn't mean to let you go. Should've been the first one to let you know. Change your mind, and let me slide just one more time.”

10. When I Was Your Man – Bruno Mars

“Now I never, never get to clean up the mess I made. And it haunts me every time I close my eyes.”

11. Somewhere with You – Kenny Chesney

“I can go out every night of the week, go home with anybody I meet. But it's just a temporary high 'cause when I close my eyes, I'm somewhere with you.”

12. I See You – Luke Bryan

“You won't leave me alone, even though I know you're gone. I look around for someone new, but I see you.”

13. Should’ve Been Us – Tori Kelly

“Now and then, I pretend that it's you when I close my eyes. You got yours, I got mine; but I wonder where you are tonight." 

14. Sooner than Later – Drake

“When the lights don’t glow the same way that they used to and I finally get a moment to myself. I will realize you were everything I’m missing, and you tell me you’re in love with someone else.”

Emotionally gentle and endlessly supportive, the Cancer girl will be your lover, your best friend, and your biggest cheerleader all wrapped up into one beautifully convoluted girl. 

You wouldn’t know what to do with her yet you won’t be able to live without her.

Her guarded heart may have walls up, but it’s not closed off.

In the beginning, she won’t know for sure if she’s able to trust you with her fragile heart. So, she will keep you at a distance. Respect that. She needs to be certain of you before she can truly let her guard down.

But you can be sure that once she does, she’ll love you with everything she has. And she’s got a lot to give.

Give her space, but whatever you do, don’t ignore her.

It’s important to give her space to process her feelings and fully grasp what she is getting herself into. However, you should never ignore her. She’s prone to overthinking, so giving her too much space could be detrimental.

There’s a way to give her breathing room without completely detaching. Once you find that happy medium, your Cancer girl will be so thankful and repay the favor by not caring if you spend Saturdays with the boys.

Her intuition is magic, but she’s not a mind reader.

She’ll understand your character, your emotions, and your thoughts simply by examination. She’ll pick up on vibes and body language to get a clearer picture of what the situation is. 

But don’t ever assume that she can read your mind, she can’t. Communication is key. If you’re really into her, let her know. Playing hard to get will get you nowhere with this girl.

So be understanding of her emotions, a Cancer girl feels all the feels. 

She’s so genuine, the type of girl who puts care and consideration into everything she does. So she expects the same from other people. She takes everything you do to heart, whether intentional or not. So be mindful of this.

Because she wears her heart on her sleeve, you’ll know exactly where her head is at all times. Most of the time her emotions will be ones of love, and they’ll be directed at you.

Show her endless affection and she’ll return the favor.

Simply giving her knee a quick squeeze when you’re sitting quietly together, or brushing her hair away from her face to look deeper into her eyes, will affect her in such deep ways. She’ll mirror your feelings and shower you with love.

The minute the Cancer girl walks into your life and brings with her all the love her big heart can gather, you’ll wonder how you ever survived even a day without her by your side.

Miguel has got to be one of the few artists out there who legitimately creates not only the sexiest but some of the most passionate music there is. Not only does he provide a soothing, soulful tone, he is also able to provide a cool blend or rock and R&B into the mix.

Not only is he talented, but his lyrics are everything a woman wants to hear…

“Baby, these fist will always protect ya, lady. And this mind oh, will never neglect you.??? Adorn

“Oh, and when it’s time to face the sun I know that you’re the only.??? Face the Sun

“I said I just want someone real, someone true.??? Simplethings

“I don’t wanna wake you, I just wanna watch you sleep. It’s the smell of your hair and it’s the way that we feel. I’ve never felt comfortable like this.??? Coffee

“Even when the sky comes falling, even when the sun don’t shine. I got faith in you and I, so put your pretty little hand in mine.??? Sure Thing

“You don’t have to win the lotto; I want you to win my heart.??? Simplethings

“But no matter what I do, I know, I know I belong with you.??? Face the Sun

“I wanna do you like drugs tonight.??? Do You

“Love you like a brother. Treat you like a friend. Respect you like a lover.??? Sure Thing

“Yeah, these lips can’t wait to taste your skin. And these eyes, can’t wait to see your grin.??? Adorn

Excuse me, but did you know that your make believe boyfriend still sends me messages at night… When I'm with my man?

And who do you think you are trolling my social media, attempting to make yourself known by liking or commenting anything that has to do with him on my IG?!

Yes, we may have had a past and maybe we still find each other attractive but talking badly about me on the internet won't do you any justice!

What did you think that lousy attempt at smack talking was going to do for you? Make him like you more?

Trust me honey, nothing you do is going to make him change his ways and reform from his fuckboy behavior, if that isn't what he wants.

Yes, a man can change – if he's willing to – for the woman he loves.

And everyone knows you so direly want that to be you…

But guess what? When I made a fit of you (who I barely even know/who I don't care to know) who tried trashing me on IG – HE TOLD ME HE DOESN'T EVEN KNOW YOU.

Why would he hide you from me (his friend?)

Why would he hide you at all??

Now I don't have the answers as to why he is the way he is or what issues he may have with relationships/himself but those issue are between himself and yourself. It has absolutely nothing to do with me!

So the next time you feel like trashing another woman over some guy, take a closer look at your situation before making yourself look like a complete fool.

Our relationship hasn’t always been ideal. I recall venting about certain situations in our correlation then simply be told that I should just leave you.

But I never wanted to give up so easily…

I knew there was something about you that was special. Others may have had trouble recognizing it but I never did.

Your tough exterior disguised the real you, the you that I was able to see. The side you were willing to uncover for me which made me appreciate you and respect you so greatly.

We’ve had many rough patches and we’ve exchanged many unkind words, yet we remained resilient and continued on this wild ride together.

So many times I’d felt unsure of myself, of us. I didn’t think we’d be able to make it and that scared me. The thought of you not being in my life hurt my heart… Hurt my soul… Hurt my whole being.

Thankfully we were able to communicate, which played the biggest part in our togetherness; it’s the main reason we’re still standing.

In the midst of modern dating; having independence, no feelings, not utilizing labels, and being afraid of commitment or getting hurt, we pushed through and allowed ourselves to become vulnerable to one another – trusting each other with our hearts.

Initially, I knew you were unsure if you were able to place your bets on me. Although it would have been nice for you to trust me with your love right off the bat, I knew time was what you needed.

With time, I have learned so much of you. And with time you were able to see me as I am as well.

Time brought comfort, knowledge, and piece of mind.

Time brought you to me… And I am so glad I waited.

 

The holidays can be difficult to bear especially when you’re alone. Many people have high expectations during this time thinking everything should be ideal in the midst of all the festivities. 

When you’re single, it can be lonely and overwhelming. You feel as though you should be spending this time and sharing this pleasantness with someone else. However, it should never be a time of gloom simply because you’re flying solo. 

Here are some constructive ideas that’ll help you get through this season..

1. Take a trip. If you aren’t feeling as excited as everyone else during this holiday season, utilize this time to get away from the stress of it all.

2. Volunteer your time. This is the time of giving. If you’re short on funds, give other’s your time. Feed the homeless & hungry. Help others. 

3. Donate. There are many organizations such as toys for tots and your local food bank where you will be able to give to those in need.

4. Hang out with friends. Reconnect with old friends and make new ones. 

5. Set goals. A new year is coming up. It’s a good time to set goals and motivate yourself to accomplish them.

6. Spoil yourself. Since you don’t need to worry about lavishing someone else with extravagant gifts, use those funds to treat yourself! Go for a spa day or take advantage of the major deals!

7. Plan for an outing. Set up an adventurous day whether it be with friends or by yourself. 

8. Spend time with your family. With all of the hustle and bustle in life, time with family may be lost. Make it a point to spend time and connect with them again.

9. Count your blessings. Don’t allow this time to be an unfavorable one for you. Remember and recognize all of the things you have to be thankful for and know that there may be others out there who may not be so fortunate.

I may not say the words as much and I may not show it to you as frequently as you desire but you should know that you own my heart… All of it.

I know it’s difficult to comprehend when I don’t express my feelings very often but if you’re ever questioning my love, here’s what I want you to remember:

1. I love that I can be myself around you.

2. I love holding your hand.

3. I love that we balance each other.

4. I love hugging you.

5. I love cuddling with you.

6. I love that you are caring.

7. I love the sound of your laugh.

8. I love your beautiful eyes.

9. I love going on dates with you.

10. I love doing nothing with you.

11. I love that you believe in me.

12. I love wanting to spend every second of the day with you.

13. I love being childish with you.

14. I love being naughty with you.

15. I love that you’re accepting.

16. I love your sweet kisses.

17. I love that you are adventurous.

18, I love being excited to see you after a long day.

19. I love that you make me happy. 

20. I love that you still give me butterflies.

21. I love that you’re my best friend.

22. I love everything about you.

Although, I may lack in words or expression, I want you to know that you mean so much to me. And if there’s ever a question of my heart, believe that you are the only one in this world who owns it.

I thought maybe with time you could gradually, organically fall in love with me. In time I assumed you'd be able to see me as the kind of person I really am; a giver, a lover, a nurturer.

With time I could see things progressing. I could see you evolving, and create a better life for yourself.

When I first met you, you were bad news. 

You had trouble written all over you. I saw all the red flags but I ignored them.

When I first met you, I could also see that you were broken, Your heart had been shattered into a million pieces.

You told me that in your previous relationship, you had met the person you thought you were going to marry. 

But the relationship came to a halt and you weren't able to end things in a proper manner.

No matter how much you deny, I can tell that you still aren't over it.

Clearly, you won't allow me to get too close because you're afraid of getting hurt.

Or maybe it's because she's still there in your heart and deep down you believe that there is no one else that belongs.

With the time I had spent with you, I was eager to believe that we were getting somewhere.

I hoped we both could move forward with our lives – together.

I thought you and I could build our own memories, something we could look back on. I wished we could begin planning our future.

But we can't do that if you won't let us.

I want to be loved as much as the person I'm in love with. I deserve that, don't you agree?

I want the person I'm with to be happy, as happy as I am with them.

I want to be someone's #1. I want to be their priority – the love of their life.

And I wanted so badly for that to be you…

But I am not your priority.

I'm not you're #1.

And it is obvious that I am not the love of your life… 

So let me be. 

Set me free…

Because I can no longer carry on being anyone's second best.

The attraction to bad boys have always been a mystery to most. Many believe that their actions wave red flags and their relationships never last so they really aren't worth much of your time. 

But, dating a bad boy can be the most thrilling, most worthwhile experience you might ever have and here are some reasons why:

1. They protect you. Bad boys are protective and won't allow anything to happen to anyone they love and care about.

2. Bad boys are adventurous. These guys are far from boring. They live life to the fullest and know exactly how to have fun.

3 They are confident. Confidence is the sexiest trait any man could have and these men definitely possess it.

4. They don't ever play the victim. They handle their shit, no matter how difficult it may be.

5. Bad boys aren't followers. These guys know how to think for themselves and aren't easily convinced.

6. They go after what they want. With no hesitation, these men know what they want and have no problem getting it.

7. These men dominate. Bad boys know how to take control.

8. Bad boys are brutally honest. You don't need to worry about anything being held back. These men have no problem speaking their minds.

9. They don't care about the trivial things. Bad boys don't waste time pondering on irrelevant matters.

10. Bad boys are mysterious. Bad boys are complex individuals who will always leave women wanting more.