Author: Kavita Singh

When we first met, I honestly didn’t think much of you. Our paths crossed during a time in my life when I was lost and confused about where my life was heading. But the second you came into my life you became my escape from the world. We had an undeniable connection and it was one of the most exciting times during my life. But it was ephemeral though…

Because you messed up. You broke my heart and proved that I cared a hell of a lot more about you than you did of me. I started fighting for someone who wasn’t even attempting to fight for me. It came to a point where I had to let go of the thought of us truly being together.

And quite honestly, it felt like I’d never get over you. Every time we’d run into each other, it would make me happy and hurt all at once because my heart still cared so deeply for you. Seeing your face was still affecting me on more levels than I even realized. I wanted so badly for you to see how good we were for each other, but there was no point. So I accepted the fact that it would never happen and moved on.

Little by little, time and distance healed my heart. I started dating other people and learned what it felt like to be treated well. Those other boys didn’t last long, and one even broke my heart a little bit. I was off doing my own thing, you were off doing yours. Until you slowly started inching your way back in my life. At first, I didn’t know how to handle it because I knew I was over you, but I couldn’t help wondering if this might be fate. But this time, you didn’t have the same impact on my heart anymore.

The timing was just a little too perfect. I could sense your interest but this time I had my guard up. Back then, when we were “casual” and “not official,” I would’ve been a little more inclined and flirty, but I’ve learned since then. I was a little more closed off to you, but my resistance was fleeting.

From there, I had a little piece of hope. Hope that you’d be different. Hope that maybe all my wishes were coming true and we’d actually make it through this time.

But fundamentally, you have the same problem: you don’t know how to make someone other than yourself a priority.

I wanted you to fight for me, that’s all I ever wanted from you. And I couldn’t let go of my own pride to be rejected twice, so I played the waiting game.

And here I am, throwing in the towel because nothing ever happened. This isn’t good enough for me anymore, I know I deserve more than to wait around for someone. It doesn’t make you a bad person, it just means you need a little growing up is all.

If this is truly meant to be, then maybe our paths with cross once more and we’ll be able to start a new. But as for right now, I need closure. So today, I’m giving up on us.

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You know that feeling you get when you're favorite show is about to drop a new season on Netflix? Or when you pull up to the Taco Bell drive thru? 

Yeah, that's called anticipation. And that's the euphoric child like feeling I get when I'm about to see you.

I'm not joking. Sometimes I dread dates and I'm always wondering, "What are we even going to talk about?"  But with you, all it took was one night.

Yeah, that one night I almost didn't go out, but apparently everyone was going out…including you. So everyone dragged me out one night at a bar. 

I'll never forget your friend trying to set me up with another one of your friends. He asked me to choose anyone in the bar to talk to, and I pointed to you standing by the bar instead. 

I waited a while for you to come up to me, and then finally, I said f*ck it and approached you. We introduced ourselves for the first time, but our conversation felt like two old friends talking. When we talked, it was as if the conversation couldn't be more seamless. From talking about living in the moment to traveling, we just saw eye to eye on everything.

Every five minutes you'd stop and say, "wow I really like you." And it was so genuine because I could tell you were equally in awe of how easy it was to have a descent conversation. 

We had a great couple of nights, but the timing was all off. We were in different places in our lives and on a fundamental level, we wouldn't work. 

When I was staying in the area, you were leaving and vice versa. Plans always fell through, and we could never be on the same page.

I can't stop thinking about those past couple of nights. It's people like you that make me realize what a bunch of yahoos I had been dating before. I really cherish the time we had together, but it makes my heart hurt a little knowing how someone can just be out of your life in a split second. 

If I knew it was going to be the last embrace, I would've held on a lot longer.

But still….I get a slight flutter even thinking about the interactions we had. I think about you a lot, probably a lot more than you do of me. I kind of can't get my mind off you lately. But hey, that's OK. 

At least, I got to meet someone as awesome as you are.

This season, each week as we watched through tear-filled eyes, we saw great guy after great guy get sent home. Some of those goodbyes hit home harder than others…

But hello, can you say silver lining? Now they're available for us. This is the guy you should stalk on Instagram… if you aren't already.

Aries (March 21-April 19) 

Matt

Aries are very strong willed, so you usually gravitate toward very polarizing people. Matt's sweet nature makes him a little more reserved.

He's perfect to balance out your big personality and is willing to let you take the lead.

Taurus (April 20-May 20) 

Alex

Your love for the finer things in life makes you a very generous lover. You value success and want someone to share your seat on the top of the world.

Who better than Alex, to stand by your side and indulge in all that the world has to offer. And come on… even just his Russian accent sounds luxurious. 

Gemini (May 21- June 20)

Dean

Geminis need someone fun and genuine and Dean embodies that. He's a little shy, but you're a social butterfly, so he'll feel comfortable opening up to you. 

You'll easily become best friends and eventually each other's better half. And I mean, have you seen the guy? Could he be more adorable?

Cancer (June 21-July 22)

Jack Stone

Cancer you know better than anyone that your emotions sometimes get the best of you, whether it's falling in love too quickly or coming on too strong. 

You need someone who's not afraid of the way you feel things so intensely and can understand your sensitive nature. Jack will not only reciprocate your feelings, but he'll reassure you of them.

Leo (July 23-Aug. 22) 

Josiah

Leo's are very picky because they know their worth. Josiah has a lot of charisma and a great sense of humor, and you'll connect right away. 

He'll be impressed when you call him out on his shit. He likes a challenge, and you'll definitely put him in his place. 

Virgo (Aug. 22-Sept. 22) 

Kenny

Virgos have big hearts, they're quietly hardworking, humble and honest. They need a partner who will not take advantage of their kind nature, and Kenny has the emotional maturity for that.

He does have a daughter after all, and did you see that tear-filled FaceTime with her? Heart = melted.

Libra (Sept. 23-Oct. 22) 

Anthony

Anthony exudes emotional intelligence— Taylor could probably confirm that. The way he articulates himself is exactly what a Libra didn't know she was looking for. 

Libras need words of affirmation, so that's what you'll get from this mature and respectable guy.

Scorpio (Oct. 23-Nov 22)

Bryan 

When you love, you love fiercely. Your intense passion can only be matched by someone who shares your desires. 

Bryan's hot and fiery personality is exactly what the love doctor ordered. His zeal for life is contagious and he'll keep you on your toes with his smooth moves and all-consuming love.

Sagittarius (Nov. 22-Dec. 21)

Adam

Your curious and energetic nature makes you feel at home anywhere outdoors. You possess an unparalleled excitement for adventure, except Adam would definitely give you a run for your money.

His go with the flow attitude makes him down for whatever. Your spontaneity has finally found it's soulmate. 

Capricorn(Dec. 22-Jan. 19)

Will

The life of a Capricorn revolves around their families and their work. They are dedicated and driven, and they won't stop until they're successful.

Will needs someone with ambition and determination. He's very motivated to make the most of life, and you'll be overjoyed to be the one to give him the push he needs. 

Aquarius (Jan. 20-Feb. 18)

Peter

Peter is the total package, but he needs an Aquarius to bring out his inner goofball. Aquariuses like to be free-spirited and never take anything too seriously so you'll both bring out the best in each other. 

Aquariuses are very quirky, so you'll love when he breaks out in a corny rap. And when you act equally as eccentric and silly, he'll appreciate it. 

Pisces (Feb. 19-March 20)

 Eric

You have a vibrant free spirit when it comes to relationships. His overthinking nature and self-awareness makes him feel things in ways that other people can't imagine. But that's what you and Eric have in common. 

Both of your heads may be up in the clouds, but you're both able to communicate very clearly to one another. Your matching chill vibes will surely offer a life of harmony.

Aquarius girls are some of the most unique people you’ll ever meet. They’re the perfect combination of sexy and cute, smart and funny, carefree and passionate.

1. People envy your free-spirited nature.

You’ve never really cared about what other people think, so when it comes to doing what you want, whenever you want, you don’t give things a second thought. 

You’re naturally someone who acts on instinct and feeling, and there might be an impulsive decision here and there, because you’re always taking risks in life. 

2. You’re eccentric, but in the best way.

You’re definitely not an everyday Joe. You’re original and have big, unique aspirations in life. In a crowd, you can’t help but stand out.

People may not agree with your every move, but they’ve got to respect someone who just does things to the beat of their own drum.

3. Sugarcoating is something you’re completely unfamiliar with. 

You’re a very trustworthy individual, Aquarius. Giving honest advice is your forte. Whether it’s about a friend’s relationship drama or an upcoming presentation they’re freaking out about, you got their back.

Will your advice be harsh? Maybe, but you’re so nurturing by nature that it won’t ever come across that way. How is that possible, you ask? It’s the balance that only an Aquarius can perfect.

4. Independent and confident, you’re a force to be reckoned with.

You’re never someone who needs other people to get things done. In fact, you like being in leadership positions because your sign is a much better leader than follower. 

You have such original unique ideas and projects that churn in your head, and you enjoy seeing those visions come to fruition. 

5. You’ve got a hilarious sense of humor.

Aquariuses tend to have a great sense of humor and almost never take anything seriously in life. Even better than their humor is the timing they manage to use in order to throw in unexpected one liners and jokes. 

You keep everyone laughing, 24/7, and there’s never a dull moment when you’re around.

6. Open-mindedness is something you pride yourself on.

A lot of star signs are very stubborn. However, you’re one of the few signs that is very open-minded to all possibilities. You’re never set in your ways, and one of your best attributes is being able to put on the shoes of someone else. 

Your ability to listen also comes from a place of compassion and understanding, so no one ever walks away from a conversation feeling judged. 

We’re a rare breed of human, but we can become friends with virtually any sign out there. And anyone would be lucky to call us a friend, we’ve got a lot going for us!

Let's be real, there are a lot of things about guys that we don't get. 

1) They can't plan for the life of them: When a guy finally has the courage to ask someone out, props to him. But we start to freak out if he leaves the planning to us. 

We like when guys take charge and come up with something to do rather than putting the pressure on us. 

2) Going off the grid and not texting for days: Guys are the worst at texting back. Everyone has their phones on them at all times, so what's their excuse for taking forever to reply? 

We tend to over analyze every single text message, so it's frustrating when our guys aren't nearly as diligent about them as we are. 

3) They're brave online but silent irl: Speaking of social media, how mind-boggling is it when someone finds the courage to slide into your DMs, but won't even acknowledge you in person.

Girls aren't that intimidating, are we?

4) They'll do anything to confrontation: We like when people are upfront with us. We'd much rather be rejected in person than strung along for weeks. 

But that would mean they would have to address the situation and many guys have a hard time with confrontation, especially when emotions are involved. 

They tend to freeze up or avoid dealing with the issue altogether, which leaves us to play detective. It sucks.

5) Bromances: It's bizarre how guys can be so sweet when they're with you, but when 'the boys' get together, they act like completely different people.

6) Fitting everything they need into a tiny wallet: OK, this is oddly specific, but how is it that we have trouble fitting our essentials into a small tote bag, but guys only need a slim wallet tucked away in their pocket?

7) They refuse to commit: For some reason, girls get so attached to one guy and can be totally loyal, but guys have no problem seeing three different girls at once. 

8) But seeing you with someone else starts WWIII: Since you don't want to commit, we assume we can see other people. Nope. 

He can invite other girls to Netflix and chill but he'll throw a fit if he sees you flirting with another guy at a party. That's some guy logic right there. 

Guys are so confusing, but we love them anyway. 

Having a history with someone can be the best but also the worst thing. Cause it can literally go one of two ways… 

1. You're confused. He's confused. Your Mom is confused. Hell, even your grandma is confused. 

"I thought you guys were good?" "No, we are. We're just not right now… it's no biggie." 

2. Going FBO is next to impossible for the two of you.

In all honesty, you don't even know where you stand. One day you'll be laughing trying to just be friends, then next minute you guys are drunk at a  bar making out, and then the next thing you know, you're throwing his clothes out your window and yelling at him. 

It's a constant struggle to define your relationship. Facebook even removed your right because you're changing it so often. You two can never leave the other alone.

3. Fighting is like 'in' right now, so we're just staying hip.

You two fight over everything. You're actually currently fighting. Every day it's something new. You bicker over the smallest things.

4. He hates it when you talk to other guys, but you're not his… um, what?

You two always get unreasonably overprotective and jealous when you two see each other talking, dating, even looking at someone else. 

It drives you crazy and you feel a little like a psycho but mostly completely justified in your behavior. 

5. Yet you are absolutely drawn to one another.

You two are crazy, but more importantly, you're crazy about each other. 

Even when you date other people, even when you have big blowout fights, even when you say "you're going to move on this time," yet somehow you always find each other again. 

Somehow, even if you're not speaking or on the best terms, you're always there for each other.

And that is the beauty of the on-again-off-again love and you wouldn't have it any other way. 

No, well, actually you'd probably rather be on-again all the time, but you'll take what you can get because let's be real, he's pretty cool.

So you broke my best friend’s heart. I don’t think you realize the weight of that. You can’t just break my best friend’s heart and walk away for her to pick up the pieces. 

You clearly don’t see what I see. An amazing, caring beautiful soul who puts people first. Even people like you. People like you that take other people for granted. 

It’s people like you that meet a one of a kind person, but then completely shatter it through your own insecurities. You projected all your insecurities on her. But she didn’t do the same because she’s not that type of person. She’s the type of girl that sees the best in people no matter what. And to be honest, the whole situation isn’t fair. 

You threw away my best friend out of nowhere, and you think it’s perfectly fine to go on with your merry way. Meanwhile, my friend is hurting. She’s hurting and you don’t give a shit. 

Why does she have to be the one brokenhearted? 

It’s the worst feeling to watch your best friend feel destroyed over someone who just isn’t worth her love anyway.

She’s feeling a mix of emotions from anger to sadness, and you see her emotions as a sign of weakness. Well, I have news for you. She’s one of the strongest people I know because she embraces her vulnerability. You’re too blind to realize how strong of a person she is to move on from an ass like you. 

But at the same time, thank you. It took you breaking up with her to realize how shitty you were for her anyway. She always made time for you. She went out of her way to make you happy. She was always by your side. She gave you one too many chances. She needs someone better, so thank you for letting her go. 

She needs someone who is just as caring and beautiful. He will walk into her life and steal her heart away. 

He’ll make time for her and treat her the way she deserves to be treated. He’ll put down his video games and ask her what she wants to do. He’ll hold her hand because he can’t keep his hands off her. He’ll make sure everyone knows she’s his now. But more importantly, he will always recognize her feelings and treat them with respect and care. 

At the same time, when you want her back, it’ll be too late. She’ll have moved on to bigger and better things in her life. So thanks for showing your true colors. One day, you’ll realize that something incredible walked into your life, but you were too immature to even recognize it. 

Dating is hard. I went into dating with a very naive perception of how it all works. So here are the things I wish I knew before I started dating.

1) Getting together is easy; staying together is hard

It’s all about the flirting in the beginning. I mean, come on, that’s the best part of any relationship. 

The exciting and scary pit that forms in your stomach every time you interact.The back and forth banter that goes into your conversations. The first time you have a really long conversation together and realize it’s more than just attraction. 

But everything that happens after is the real test. You both have to start communicating and stop playing the chasing game. I’ve had good transitions and messy transitions, and I can honestly say that’s the tipping point of whether you’re going to have a real honest relationship.

2) Getting over someone is f*cking hard

Before I started dating, I didn’t really have someone that I was head over heels for. And when I did start dating, I had a really hard time being rejected for the first time.

You feel like you’re on the same page, but suddenly, you find out you’re the blindsided one. It sucks. You’re left feeling so small, and it’s hard to feel your story coming to an abrupt end.

My best advice is forget about that person. Let go of the story, because they aren’t worth your time if they made you feel in any way insecure or worthless. I know it’s hard, and it’s going to take time, but when you do finally get over someone, it’s the most empowering feeling in the world. 

3) You can like more than one person

This is something I wish I knew in high school and even the beginning of college. Don’t fixate your attention on one person. 

If he or she isn’t actively pursuing you or giving the amount of attention you’re giving him or her, then that person isn’t worth being obsessed about. Date around. You close off options and opportunities when you’re focused on just one person.

4) Relationships are also hard

Man, I remember wishing someone would ask me out or pursue me growing up. As people starting dating in middle school, I wondered when that would happen. 

When it finally did happen, I realized it’s a lot of work to be in a relationship. I always thought I was going to be a relationship kind of girl, but that wasn’t the case.

I realized you have to start paying attention to his needs as well. You have to be attentive to text messages and check in a lot. You have to make time for each other,and it’s a total learning experience.

5) You’ve gotta love yourself

Last but not least, you gotta really love yourself. Be in a relationship where you’re both in a good place in your life. 

Otherwise, you’ll become dependent on each other. It’s emotionally draining to feel like you have to save someone or help that person get to a good place. It’s also emotional draining to feel dependent on someone all the time. 

You have to love yourself before getting into something serious because it’ll create some serious unhealthy relationships. So live your life and love at your own pace. Dating is exciting, but it’s also a roller coaster.