Author: Kayla Leanne Goss

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Domestic Violence Isn’t Just Black Eyes And Broken Glass

Domestic violence… Let me just say this from the jump. NOBODY DESERVES TO BE ABUSED.
The abuse can come in different forms; including: controlling behavior, gas lighting, narcissistic actions, verbal abuse, mental and psychological abuse, emotional abuse, and of course, physical abuse.
Fists and objects probably come to most people’s minds when they hear domestic abuse. But, DV isn’t categorized as only physical abuse. It isn’t just limited to objects being smashed, or fists flying into faces or walls. And a lot of DV victims aren’t even aware they are being victimized, they have dealt with DV so frequently, and for so long, they are used to it, and some even think its the “norm”, which is sad, because like I said, NO ONE DESEVES ANY TYPE OF ABUSE FROM ANYONE, especially from someone who claims they “love” them.
If someone loves you, they don’t try to manipulate you. They don’t twist your own words and use them against you or try to make you feel like the crazy one when or if you point it out to them. They don’t start fights just for the fun of it. They don’t pry on your weaknesses while your guard is down, and sneakily gather all the private and personal info you’ve shared with them, then later hold, and use, it against you either.
If someone loves you, they sure in the hell don’t go out of their way to be vindictive and say mean, hurtful things to you. They don’t scream and shout at you for mopping the wrong way, or punch giant holes in the walls that you have to cover with pictures because you forgot to pick up milk at the grocery store. They don’t accuse you of ridiculous things and then break the antique vase that your grandmother gave you before she passed away. They don’t threaten you, or tell you they will kill you, or theirselves, if you leave. And sometimes people aren’t even aware that they are being abused in other way; including the victims.
Mental abuse, verbal abuse, emotional abuse, or physical abuse, IT IS STILL ABUSE. And NOBODY deserves any type of abuse. Words can hurt worse than the physical abuse at times, sticking with you for the rest of your life. And some of those “scars” that aren’t visible to the human eye can take longer to heal and overcome, leading to the emotional and mental aspect of it all.
Just know if you have been a victim of DV, you are not alone. There are places to go, people you can reach out to, and hotlines you can call if you don’t feel comfortable talking to someone you know. You don’t have to deal with it alone, and you should never, NEVER have to put up with any type of abuse ever. Domestic violence is very scary, and it can take a toll on you, draining you to the core.
Stand tall, stay strong, and reach out when you see the warning signs. Those red flags are serious, and you start seeing those red flags, run like hell!

If you need help

Call 1800.799.SAFE (7233) 

Live chat here: https://www.thehotline.org/stakeholders/domestic-violence-statistics/

Or Text: START to 88788

30 Songs From The Late 90’s, Early 2000’s That’ll Hit Every 30 Year Old In The Nostalgia Feels

1. “Hot In Here” – Nelly

Pretty sure any Nelly song that came on MTV or the radio instantly made you wanna start dancing, and this one made you wanna take off ALL of your clothes.

2. “Oops!… I Did It Again” – Britney Spears

Yes you did do it again Britney. But hey, being 30 now, I totallyyyy understand why Britney Spears had that mental breakdown in 2007.

3. “No More (Baby I’ma Do Right)” – 3LW

You know it was real when playa’s had pagers. And blowin’ up their main chicks pager.

4. “Scrub” – TLC

I hear ya TLC, nobody is fucking with a scrub, then or now.

5. “It wasn’t me” – Shaggy

But was it you Shaggy? Cause I think it was.

6. “Bye, Bye, Bye” – Nsync

It ain’t no lie, Nsync was the shit. And the dance moves to this song? Epic.

7. “I Want It That Way” – The Backstreet Boys

Let’s be real, every girl wanted to be The Backstreet Boys ‘one desire’. ‘Tell me whyyyyy.’ (Because Nick Carter was the cutest thing we’d ever seen right?)

8. “21 Questions” – 50 Cent

50 Cent asked a lot of questions, but he was just lookin’ for a real ride or die right?

 9. “Stacy’s Mom” – Fountains of Wayne

I felt for every person who’s mom was named Stacy when this song came out…Everybody was in love with Stacy’s mom.

10. “Sk8r Boi” – Avril Lavigne

And she said see ya later boyyyyy.

11. “Ignition Remix” – R Kelly

The ever famous line, “I’m sipping on coke and rum, so what I’m drunk, it’s the freakin’ weekend
baby, I’m about to have some fun” will never go out of style.

12. “All Star” – Smash Mouth

If you didn’t put your finger and your thumb in the shape of an “L” on your forehead when this song starts, then were you really living your best life in the early 2000’s?

13. “Sugar, We’re Goin’ Down” – Fall Out Boy

Don’t pretend that you didn’t bring out the air guitar and air drum sticks when this came on…Admit you, you still do.

14. “Ms. Jackson” – Outkast

Everybody knows he never meant to make her daughter cry, he apologized a trillion times.

15. “You Got It Bad” – Usher

If you didn’t own a burned CD with this song on it, you clearly didn’t ever go through a break up in middle school.

16. “Pimpin’ All Over The World” – Ludacris

Luda killed it with this one in 2004… Even if you didn’t fully understand what ‘pimpin’ meant back then, you knew it involved fancy cars, women, and caviar.

17. “Let Me Hold You” – Bow Wow Ft Omarion

This was the song that every girl told their middle school boyfriend at the time that this was “their song”.

18. “Iris” – Goo Goo Dolls

The Goo Goo Dolls were a tad whiney, but how the fuck could you not fall in love with this song? And if you say you didn’t sit in your room with your CD player, headphones plugged in, with this song on repeat for hours, your’re a damn lie.

19. “Wannabe” – The Spice Girls

Am I the only one who STILL doesn’t understand the line, “If you wanna be my lover, you gotta get with my friends”? Why do I want all of my friends to get with my “lover”?

20. “Say My Name” – Destiny’s Child

This song taught me about cheaters, and to be suspicious when they only call me baby…

21. “My Band” – Eminem & D12

Eminem is the GOAT, we all know this, but this song was just stupid enough to still love and play it at top volume in my car, on the way home, offending every 80 year old human stopped beside me.

22. “I Write Sins Not Tragedies” – Panic! At The Disco

It was frowned upon saying “GD” out loud, but secretly, I also sang it at the top of my lungs when no adults were nearby who could scold me for using such vulgar profanity.

23. “ What would you do” – City High

And this song taught me that, sometimes, you gotta do what you gotta do, in order to survive.

24. “Gangsta’s Paradise” – Coolio & L.V.

IDGAF who you are, if you don’t know this song, GTFO. Because if you can’t instantly start rapping to this song, you were 10000% born in the wrong fucking era.

25. “Milkshake” – Kelis

Kelis’s Milkshake brought all the boys to the yard, but all my Milkshake has done has brought the emotionally unavailable and mentally unstable boys to the yard. Where did I go wrong Kelis??

26. “1, 2, Step” – Ciara Ft. Missy Elliot

“This beat is automatic, supersonic, hypnotic, funky fresh.” Not gonna lie, I still am not quite sure what funky fresh means…

27. “All the Small Things” – Blink 182

If you owned Now That’s What I Call Music, Volume 4 on cassette, you know that this was the last song on the B side… and you also know, 11 years later, how much you relate to late nights and how much work sucks.

28. “Hollaback Girl” – Gwen Stefani

Speaking of Now That’s What I Call Music…Volume 19 included this song, and even though no one was sure of what exactly a “holla back girl” was in the 8th grade, everyone did know that, “This shit is B-A-N-A-N-A-S.”

29. “Ms. New Booty” – Bubba Sparxxx

Even at 30, when my ass is trying to slide through all the bodies on the dance floor, I still mumble sing under my breath, “booty, booty, booty, booty rockin’ everywhere…

30. “Don’t Forget About Us” – Mariah Carey

Nobody can do it like her because they’ll never be MC, and that’s a fact.

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15 Things Only You Say When You Take on the Night With Your BFF

Going Out !

Every girl who’s about to go out to the bars with her bestie knows you always say or ask each other the “standard girl questions.” If she doesn’t ask these questions or say these things…is she even your best friend?

 

1. “Are we gonna be dressing cute or sexy?”

Cause I need to know if I’m rocking Vans with a t-shirt, or my little black dress with the plunging neckline.

 

2. “I’m not getting too drunk.”

This is a damn lie. Let’s be honest, you both are going to be six shots deep within three minutes of stepping into the bar.

 

3. “You’re not allowed to text or call your ex.”

It’s great advice until the end of the night and y’all are in the back of the Uber, crying while you both drunk dial the douchebags.

 

4. “Can we get Taco Bell after?”

Is that even a real question?

 

5. “I’ll be there in an hour.”

Not. That translates into, “I’m still in bed in my underwear, hair in a bun, looking like a drowned hamster.

 

6. “Pregame shots?”

Again, is that even a real question?

 

7. “Can I borrow your cute red shirt?”

Which means ALL of your clothes are fair game, and good luck getting them back.

 

8. “I have nothing to wear.”

Story of both your lives right? That bitch better find something, and soon, because she’s not allowed to bail.

 

9. “Do I look okay/fat/cute?”

You both are going to ask one or all of these, and if your best friend doesn’t tell you the truth, find a new friend.

 

10. “You look fine, let’s go.”

Which you both probably do look fine, but why not ask another nine times, just to be sure.

 

11. “Wanna take a selfie?”

Duh. If either of you start duck facing it though, neither of you should be allowed in public. Ever.

 

 

12.  “Where are we going?”

Who fucking knows. As long as your friendship isn’t like a couple’s “I don’t care, where do you wanna go, no, where do YOU wanna go” bullshit type relationship.

 

13. “Is there a cover?”

Fuck. This means we’re gonna have to stop by the ATM doesn’t it?

 

14. “Should I wear these heels?”

Do either of you look like a baby giraffe, awkwardly stumbling around when trying to walk in heels? If the answer is yes, then no, do not wear heels unless you want to look dumb as fuck or break your ankle.

 

15. “Do NOT lose anything tonight.”

Like you keys, your phone, your purse, your dignity…

 

16. “I promise I’ll try to not do anything too stupid…”

HAHA. Don’t you both have bad decisions and regrets stamped on your foreheads?

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Kayla Leanne Goss. Just a 30 year old small town girl, trying to navigate this rollercoaster we call life, writing about relatable shit that WE ALL go through and struggle with daily.

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21 Things That The Girl Who Is Clumsy AF Can Understand And Appreciate

 

If you ride the, ‘Clumsy AF Struggle Bus’ daily, welcome to the shit storm, you’re welcome. You understand how challenging it is to be a human at times. Let’s be honest, you are the girl who is literally the definition of a walking disaster, but hey, you’re entertainment value at least, right? You can’t even do the smallest of tasks without fucking up something, or yourself. Like:

1. Curling your hair is a dangerous task. 9/10 times you end up with a giant burn mark on your neck and being asked constantly if you have a hickey…Nope, just me not being able to human properly, that’s all.

2. Falling down stairs is a normal, everyday occurrence. Who the fuck thought it was a good idea to build TWELVE stairs to go up to one room anyways??

3. Anyone who knows you has well gotten over being shocked by the dumb shit that you do or happens to you. Your boss isn’t even surprised when you come into work the next day with a sprained wrist, because you tripped UP the fucking stairs.

4. You’d think you would learn your lesson and be more aware of your surroundings… But nah, that’s wayyyy too logical. Instead, you live life on the edge, and by living life on the edge, I mean, face planting in Kroger right in front of the super hot guy walking out. Naileddddd ittttt.

5. At this point in your life, you’ve just learned to accept that you are the human that you are, which is, accident prone. Now when stupid shit happens to you, it doesn’t faze you. It should humiliate you, but you don’t even bat an eye. You just continue on, no big deal.

6. You’re not even safe laying down in bed. You either punch yourself in the face trying to pull the blankets up, or drop your phone on your face…several times in one night…

7. Sports are hard, and nobody should trust you with a blunt object. But forreal though, who in the actual fuck gave you a bat? The end results aren’t pretty because who plays softball and blacks their own eye? You, that’s who.

8. Losing things, multiple times a day, is the norm. Can’t find your keys? Check the freezer.

9. You’ve started carrying a “just in case” bag in your car. You’re just trying to be prepared because you’ve done some pretty dumb shit. Enough shit that has made you wise, and come prepared with headache medicine, bandaids, tissues, Neosporin, Ace bandage, and Gorilla Glue (don’t ask.)

10. They say bitches be trippin’ over nothing, but they don’t know you. You are that human who can trip over air. Literally. You’ve done it before.

11. Your friends bring up all the stupid shit you’ve done to strangers all the time. “Remember that one time you were mopping and stepped on the mop when you went to put it up and it came back and hit you right in the forehead? Good times.” Yeah, great times.

12. But you do have the best, funniest, and dumbest stories of how you hurt yourself this time… Like bloodying your own nose trying to get out of the car because you forgot you were still seat belted in. And people ask you why you’re still single….

13. You’re the last to be asked to handle anything fragile. Or sharp. Or important. Or expensive. Everyone knows you are a bull in a china shop, and you’re the reason why they have to order more martini glasses at work…

14. And that’s why you are automatically blamed when something breaks at work. Loud crashes, broken glass, tea all over the floor because you forgot to put the nozzles on, and the entire staff’s judgy eyes are on you…Which is total BS, because you don’t always fuck up shit everytime, not intentionally anways.

15. You make life interesting at least. Never a dull moment with you around. Might have a nice dinner out with friends, might have to go to the hospital because you fell off the bar stool, sober, hit your head on the corner of the bar, and somehow twisted your ankle. Cheers!

16. If you had a dollar for every mysterious, random bruise that you woke up with, you’d be a millionaire. Instead, you just look like you lost a game of Mortal Kombat.

17. You never pay attention to where you are going. You’re known to run into shit all the time, usually a wall or a human. Except for that one time you ran into a mannequin, and apologized to it…and then realized what just happened, and proceeded to apologize again. *awkwardly looks around to see if anyone saw that*

18. Speaking of not paying attention…. Since you like to live in your own little world, you tend to zone out and then

spill queso all over your brand new shirt, or step on nails barefooted, or run straight into screen doors. All. The. Time.

19. Oh, yeah, doors…doors are hard. There are 16 year old Olympic gold medalists, and then there’s you. A 30 year old bartender. And all you’re getting a medal for is not spilling an entire slushy machine filled with margarita mix all over the ground…because that might have happened, once, or twice…

20. Murphy’s Law is your mantra. Because anything that can go wrong will go wrong when it comes to you. Even when it comes to the simplest tasks, like putting on makeup. You stab yourself in the eye with the wand at least once a week, and end up looking like a whole ass drowned racoon.

21. You can be a total spaz at times, and you probably should wrap yourself in bubble wrap. But on a positive note, your pain tolerance is hella high. So when you lose your balance and trip over the sidewalk, you walk that shit off and keep your head held high, like the clumsy AF queen that you are.

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19 Things That Only People Who Are Forever Scatterbrained Can Relate To

 

Are you the type of person who literally forgets their own name half the time, or runs into corners, (corners are the devil!) doors, and walls because you’re distracted and not paying attention? Then you’ll totally relate to these scatterbrained 19 things. Like.

1. You lose EVERYTHING. And I mean EVERYTHING. Your keys, your mind, your dignity. You’d lose your own head if it wasn’t attached.

2. And you find what you were looking for, in the most random places. Like your keys, in the fridge, for the third time this month…

3. Your room is messy AF and disorganized. Yes, it looks like a tornado struck your room, but hello, it’s called organized chaos. You know exactly where everything is. For the most part…

4. …Except when you set your phone down to do something, and then lose it. You end up spending 20 minutes retracing your steps, getting frustrated, and finally asking your roommate to call it.

5. Walking into a room, just to forget why or what you came in there to get. It’ll drive you nuts until you remember. 3 hours later….

6. Walking into work with your clothes on backwards…Or inside out. It’s sad to say but it happens to you at least once a month .

7. Being in a whole ass conversation with someone, and not knowing what they said… So you just smile and nod, because everything they said went through one ear and out the other.

8. You have 47 open tabs on your browser. Because let’s be honest, you started looking up how to change your air filter, and 2 hours later, you’re taking a quiz to find out what kind of tree you are.

9. You get asked if you’re mad at so and so because you haven’t opened their snapchat/text/FB message. You’re not mad at anyone! You just get distracted and sometimes it takes 14 business days to respond back. Opps.

10. ‘To Do’ lists are scattered around everywhere. And most of them are only halfway crossed off because either you got bored, or started multitasking. You’ll eventually loop back around and finish the task. Maybe.

11. Making unnecessary trips. You did your mental checklist, you swear. Phone. Check. Keys. Check. ID…Nope.

12. Being on time is a struggle. You have the best intentions, but something always happens and slows you down. Like when you have to turn around to get your ID. Or whatever else you forgot. And now you’re 45 mins late to work. Opps again.

13. You started your laundry, (or some other small task) but then got sidetracked. Now you’re tired and don’t feel like folding and putting it away, so you just cuddle with the pile.

14. You hate the word “Ditsy”. Like you get it, you’re a little slow at times, you can’t help your mind is already going 1000 miles a minute. That doesn’t make you stupid, thank you very much.

15. Remembering something you forgot weeks ago at the most inconvenient times. Like when you wake from a dead sleep, because you remembered you didn’t give table 121 their extra ranch they asked for.

16. Staying on task can be difficult. Because you are also trying to do another million other things, and you totally forgot about finishing a project for your boss. Opps…..

17. Opps is DEFINITELY part of your vocabulary. You’re constantly apologizing for something you’ve done, said, forgot, etc.

18. You sometimes feel like a burden. You know how hard it is to keep up with you, and you feel like you exhaust others. You don’t mean to though.

19. At the end of the day, you are fucking awesome. And you’re hella hilarious. Yeah you might be entertainment value, but if you can’t even laugh at yourself, or laugh off the stupid shit you do or happens to you, then how is someone else going to begin to apperciate the quirky person that you are?

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The Aftermath of Being Ghosted

So picture this: you meet someone, and you think they are seriously the knees bees. You’re hella happy and you start to open up more, make more plans, gain more confidence in the possible prospect of being a real couple, in a real relationship. You finally start allowing yourself to be excited about all the possibilities of a future together, you start to let your guard down because the vibes are like, so good between the two of you that you think to yourself, “This is too good to be true.”
And then BAM! “Mr. Knees Bees” suddenly goes radio silent. Like you just got a, “good night baby (insert kissy face here)” the night before, and suddenly, you haven’t heard from him in a week. You try texting, calling, (but not too much because if you blow him up, you’ll look like a whole ass clingy, annoying, crazy bitch) but nothing. NOTHING. Not a single peep from him, but he’s active on social media, and you know there isn’t any excuse or reason of why he can’t pick up the phone (which is in his fucking hands like 24/7) and say something. Anything. Even a ‘fuck off’ would safice.
And you don’t even know what the hell happened.
So then you realize that, yes, indeed, you were right. You shoulda listened to your intuition, and ran like hell when you thought to yourself that it was too good to be true. Because every word he uttered to you, every plan he made, every promise he swore to you, was a lie. Because it turns out, he’s just another fuck boy in disguise.
 You saw the red flags, (which you ignored of course) hell, those red flags looked like Six Flags, and you’re a season pass holder apparently, because now all those months of bliss with someone you started to genuinely care for, just up and disappeared. No warning. No explanation. Not a damn word. Now you’re paranoid because you were left totally in the dark, leaving you uncertain and insecure about EVERYTHING. And at the end of the day, you feel unwanted and worthless
It really will fuck with your mind when the person you were “talking to” just suddenly cuts all contact without any explanation. And all you want to know to know is, why?? What happened to make them suddenly change their minds about you? Or what made them not interested anymore?
Questions that won’t stop racing through your mind, keeping you up at night. “What went wrong?” You start blaming yourself and over thinking, “Why did I say? Was I too clingy? Too eager? Did I do something to scare him away?” You start over analyzing and replaying every conversation, every text, every moment you spent together, racking your brain for anything that could have made him cut you off out of the blue. It hurts that he couldn’t even be bothered to communicate he wasn’t happy or what went wrong. It hurts knowing he thought so little of you, and that everything between the two of you was a lie.
He got his message across without saying anything, and now you’re trying to comprehend and process the fact that the sweet guy who you thought was the “knees bees” actually turned out to
 be a shitty human. He bolted and you thought he actually gave a fuck. But, he clearly didn’t because he choose to take the cowardly way out when he ghosted you.
It weighs on your mind that he just suddenly went 100 to 0, and wasn’t into you anymore, and him ignoring you is hint enough that he is no longer interested, and you realize you have to accept his silence for what it is, him taking the easy, quick way out, because he wanted to avoid conflict and drama. That he didn’t even respect you enough to just be up front and honest.
Which just shows what kind of guy he really is. That he is a spineless, weak individual that didn’t have the balls to just tell the truth. I mean yeah, of course it would have hurt, alot, but at least you’d still respect him for being honest. And eventually you would get over it. But him going full Casper mode and leaving you to pick up the pieces? Fuck that shit, he aint shit.
And what sucks the most is, even if he did reach out and try to justify and explain his reasons, with excuses and lies, how could you even believe him, after he just dropped you like you meant nothing to him.
You didn’t even get any type of closure. Which makes the process of getting over him, the hurt, the unknowing, even harder than you imagined. Knowing he would do that to someone he claimed he cared for, shows that he’s a narcissistic, cold hearted, douche canoe who has no empathy or guilt.
 But your closure is him ghosting. You now know what kind of person he is, which is a baby back bitch who cannot own up to his actions, and instead, runs away like a scared little kid. You don’t need that negative bullshit in your life anyways. You gotta brush it off your shoulders, and remember, once a fuck boy, always a fuckboy!

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25 Things Bartenders Are Tired Of Hearing:

Here are 25 Things All Bartenders Are Tired Of Hearing.

1. “I want something fruity, but like, I want it to be strong,

but I don’t wanna taste the alcohol.”

Ohhhh, you must be freshly 21. A couple more Sex on the Beaches and you won’t taste, see, or feel anything anyway, except maybe the cold ceramic toilet later.

2. “Keep the change!”

*Opens checkbook to find .66 cents on a $45 dollar tab*

Thanks buddy, but I couldn’t even buy a Polar Pop with that. You keep it, you need it more than me apparently.

3. “You’re seriously, like the best bartender I have ever met!”

*Opens another checkbook to find a $0 dollar tip…*

Gee thanks… your compliment is totallyyyyy gonna keep my electricity on and buy groceries this week.

4. “I’ll get… *proceeds to shout out 15 drink orders*.”

Yeah, remembering all 15 DIFFERENT drinks is not the highlight of my night, and neither is when you want to pay for them all separately.

5. “You’re gonna get a HUGE tip!”

That’s a damn lie and we both know it. The ones who brag about tipping generously are generally the worst tippers.

6. “How much is… *insert expensive liquor*

Bro, I am already in the weeds. There are 8 people waiting at the bar, and you’ve asked the price of almost every bottle in my entire bar. I don’t have everything memorized, like I fucking know off top of my head??

7. “Can I still get happy hour price, I swear I showed up before it ended.”

No, you didn’t, you lying ass. You can’t show up an hour after happy hour ends, and still get $4 KJ chardonnays, this isn’t Applebees Barbra.

8. “I’ll be ready for another one in probably 4 or 5 minutes, can you come back then?”

Of course, why not? It’s not like I’m doing a million things as it is, you’re clearly more important, so I’ll be sure to cue my internal alarm clock to remember you’ll be ready in 4 minutes. Sike, you’ll get it when I’m able to get it to you.

9. “Are you sure there is alcohol in this? It doesn’t taste like it.”

Are you sure you’re not blind? Because I just poured your drink IN FRONT of you, and you know that there is alcohol in it. So fuck off, you’re just trying to get more liquor for free.

10. “You should try *insert condescending advice*”

I know what I am doing. I’ve been doing this for a long time. I don’t come into the gym and tell you how to workout do I? Stop telling me how to do my job, I got this Brad.

11. “You’d be prettier if you smiled more.”

Listen sir, thanks for the backassward compliment, but I’m already a 12 on a scale 1 to 10 bitch, I don’t need to be prettier, so how about you stop telling me what to do, and mind your business.

12. “I can get it myself.”

Just stop! Stop reaching over my bar to refill your water, grab a beverage napkin, or a straw. I can handle getting those things for you from MY side of the bar. Now I have to clean up the water YOU spilled, the 30 straws you slung everywhere for ONE straw, and now I have no napkins because you clearly needed 900 napkins to sit your water on.

13. “What’s on draft?”

The draft list is LITERALLY in front of you dumbass…Pick it up, and read the damn thing.

14. “Can you turn up the music/change the song?”

Yeah sure, it’s not a busy Friday night, it’s clearly not louder than an ACDC concert in here, and I’m clearly not in the middle of making drinks. I’ll drop everything and get right on that. Not.

15. “Can I just have a little taste of *insert expensive bourbon* to see if I like it?”

Sure. You’ve already asked to taste 10 different ones, and then settled on a Budlight…

16. “I’m so drunk/had a lot before I got here.”

Yeah, cool story bro, you’re bragging about being so ‘LIT’ and you’re on my nerves, so you’re cut off. You’re welcome.

17. “Make it good and strong.”

Listen, Imma give you the standard pour amount as everyone else gets, unless you wanna order a double, which your cheap ass won’t.

18. “The drinks are soooo expensive, give me a tall since I’ll get more liquor.”

Sorry to crush your dreams my guy, but a tall doesn’t equal more liquor, it just means more soda or juice.

19. “Barkeep/ Sweetie/ Babe/ Doll!”

Oh, are you talking to me? Were you trying to summon me? I have a name…which I have told you every time you’ve asked, which has been 97 times already.

20. “Yoooooo, hey, hello?”

Uh yeah, I see you dude. I AM BUSY. You’re not the only one in the bar, and aggressively banging your empty glass on the bar is only going to piss me off. Keep doing it, and Imma go full 50 Shades of Petty, and you’ll get your drink last.

21. “I have been waiting forever for a drink.”

And so has everyone else. There is only one of me and there are 50 of you self entitled assholes. Yeah, I saw you wildly waving your $20 dollar bill, how could I miss it? And if you snap your fingers at me one more time, I pinky promise, I WILL shove that $20 down your throat.

22. “Can you put *insert sports channel*/change the channel?”

Sure, it’s dinner rush, the bar is packed, the server drink tickets at the well are longer than the Nile River, but you want me to immediately stop the 20 million things I have going on, and your impatient ass doesn’t even know what the channel is!

23. “I’m a regular, hook me up.”

You ain’t shit, and you don’t get free shit because you’re a “regular” bro. And you tipping me extra doesn’t change the fact that me giving you free shit is like me stealing from the company, and putting me at the risk of being fired.

24. “Surprise me.”

Cool, ‘cause I’m a mind reader and I know exactly what you like and usually drink.

25. “I know the owner.”

Yeah, what a coincidence, so do I….do you want a fucking gold star?

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Top 10 Things To Never To Say To Somone With Anxiety

1.“You’re faking it.”

No, no I am not “faking it”, do you really think I like to have my chest tighten up, my breathing to become irregular, and my heart to feel like it is about explode? No, no I do not. I’m not faking it, so kindly fuck off, k? K. Byeeeee.

2. “You just want attention.”

Yeah, cause I totally want to have all eyes on me, pity and fear from anyone around me, watching me struggle to catch my breath and my thoughts, not being able to form words, sweat beading my forehead, and my entire being freaking out. Yeah I loveeeeee the attention, NOT. Go on with your judging ass self.

3. “Calm down.”

Haven’t you learned by now, telling anyone to calm down is just going to piss that person off more. Like I can control my freak outs? Like I want to freak out? Yeah, I’ll just “calm down” ‘cause you told me to…Bye Felicia.

4. “It’s going to be okay.”

Is it? How do you know? Why would you say that when I, deep down, know I am going to be okay, but in my current state, I can’t breath, I can’t talk, and I can barely process what is going on around me because everything seems like I’m in a long tunnel, and all noises sound like I’m under water, so don’t tell me it’s going to be okay.

5. “Why are you freaking out?”

Do you think if I truly knew why I was freaking out, I would have already tried to find a solution to fix that problem? Sometimes anxiety hits without warning, out of the blue, no triggers, it just happens. Panic attacks can come on, full force, and I haven’t a single clue to why. So stop asking okay?

6. “Anxiety isn’t real”

The fuck it aint. It is 1000% real. It sucks, it makes no sense at times, and it drains you, not only mentally, but physically and emotionally too. You literally feel like you’ve ran a marathon, and your mind becomes so cloudy and foggy afterwards.

7. “It’s all in your head.”

Maybe it is all in my head, but regardless, at that given moment, when I am profusely sweating, my body seizing up and becoming overheating hot, to numbingly cold, I’m not telling myself, “it’s all in your head”, I’m just trying to ride the panic wave out, until I can finally feel like my normal self again.

8. “Just breath.”

Yeah, duh Captain Obvious, I’m fucking trying to. I happen to like breathing like a normal human and not like a wheezing cat that just can’t hack up that hairball.

9. “Mental health is stupid.”

Oh is it? Is mental health stupid, or is it just you, because you don’t understand it, and can’t be bothered with being empathic and sympathetic? Mental health is real and it isn’t funny. It’s not a game, and it sure in the hell isn’t a fun little game to feel like you’re crazy because you’re different from someone else. Stop trying to make others feel bad about something they struggle everyday with to control and manage, just because you don’t have the issues or been through the shit they have.

10. “You’re crazy.”

Being called crazy is the quickest way for someone to get throat punched. Having panic attacks or anxiety attacks doesn’t deem you crazy, it just means your mind works differently. Don’t dog on a person just because they are different. It doesn’t make them crazy because they have triggers that send them into panic attack mode. They already feel crazy because everyone is watching them, and they can’t focus, talk, or think, don’t make it worse by being ‘that asshole’ who calls someone crazy when they already feel a certain type of way.

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What Its Like to Be the Outgoing Girl Battling Her Anxious Heart

Outgoing Girl, Anxious Heart

You always see that one girl who seems to know everyone. She’s the one who stands out in a crowded bar and is chatting up everyone up at a party. She always looks so carefree, and so sure of everything, including herself.

But you’d never know she’s secretly wondering if everyone’s staring at her, why they’re whispering, and frozen at times from this paranoia.

You’d never guess her mind is a roller coaster of anxious thoughts and insecurities.

What was I thinking? What did I say? Do they think I’m annoying? My voice is so annoying.

She doesn’t mean to get wrapped up and consumed in her own mind, she actually wishes she could break free from it. She doesn’t want to overthink and over-analyzing literally everything, she doesn’t want to feel this pit in her stomach the morning after a night out and hate herself.

You wouldn’t guess that she secretly worries if she’s embarrassing herself, or if she’s embarrassing her friends. You’d never guess that she fears looking foolish or that people won’t like what they see when they look at her.

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Stop Popping Up in My Life Again, You Heartless Douche

The truth is, you never loved me, so why are you popping back into my life pretending you did? You have no right to come back and try an open a bad chapter in my life I have long closed. This isn’t a walk down memory lane, buddy, and I have no time for your lies or your bullshit anymore. 

Do you really have the nerve to try to get more from me? I literally gave you everything, including my heart. I fell for your stupid lies because unlike you, I have a good heart. I believed you because I loved you and there was no place in my heart for doubt.  Little did I know, I should have doubted everything you said. You are the one to blame for all the bad shit that happened between us, not me. I was loving and patient, but that’s not enough when you deal with a manipulative douche like you. 

You literally tore my heart from my chest and broke me down until I was nothing more than just a crying, confused, and hurting ball of a mess. I’d sit for hours thinking, a million questions running through my head, asking what went wrong, wondering how you can hurt someone so bad, after claiming you loved them so much. I tortured myself by rereading old texts, looking at pictures of us, and thinking about all the good times – all the sweet things you had said to me. 

You walked away so quickly and effortlessly. You acted like I never mattered to you, like I was never a huge part of your life, like we were never happy at one point. You literally threw me away like I was trash and then went on with your life, carefree, while I was an emotional wreck. I had so many things I wanted to say to you, and ask, and I never could because you just ghosted me.  

All the unanswered questions drove me mad.  It hurt that I lost not only a relationship, and a lover, but also my best friend. Because that is what you were. You were so special to me. It was a blow to my heart knowing that everything you ever said to me was a lie, that you never meant the things you said. That you never loved me. Obviously, I was just someone to pass the time until you got bored, and someone you could manipulate and make fall for you.

Or maybe it was your fucked up way of feeling in control. Was it a power trip all along? 

How can someone feel okay with treating another human being like that? How can someone live with knowing they shattered someone’s heart, played with their emotions, feelings, and mind? Hell, why am I even asking? Your answer would be another lie, excuse, or line to try and explain your shitty behavior and shitty personality. 

You are so damn shady that on top of it all, you think you can just waltz right back in and try to fill my head with fake apologies. Telling me how much you fucked up, and how you didn’t deserve me. Yeah, okay. No, you didn’t deserve me, and yes, I was too good for you. 

So am I eager to make amends? To reminisce and talk about “the good times” like nothing happened? No. Not really. What good will it do either of us? None. It’ll be the same old shit. The same repeated cycle. The same hurt. And quite frankly, I’m not sure my heart can handle that again. 

Now, don’t get me wrong, I don’t hate you, I just can’t bear the same hurt you put me through. Hell, it gives me anxiety just thinking about our complicated and toxic past.  

You were selfish and impulsive, not stepping back to think how this all could affect me, and us, even. And while it hurt me beyond anything I’d experienced thus far, I don’t have to repeat history again. I can stand up for myself and be happy without you.

But, cut the crap!  stop being an egotistical douchebag assuming we can pick back up where YOU left us, and expect me to be all happy and shit. Cause I’m not dealing with it, or your bullshit ever again.

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