30 Ways to Make Someone’s Day in November

We are starting the season of giving.  What better way to give than a Random Act of Kindness?  Below are 30 acts of kindnesses you can do throughout the month of November.

1. Leave change in your vending machine at work.

2. Pay for the person’s lunch behind you in the drive through.

3. Leave popcorn at a Redbox.

4. Leave a Starbuck’s gift card on a teacher’s car.

5. Leave a sticky note with a positive message on your co-worker’s desk.

6. Leave a positive note in a library book when you return it.

7. Leave a used book at a bus station or train station for someone else to find.

8. Send flowers to someone who is having a bad day.

9. Leave a coupon behind at the grocery store for someone else to use.

10. Let someone go ahead of you in line.

11. Do a family member’s chore.

12. Donate to a food drive.

13. Visit a nursing home.

14. Pick up trash at the park.

15. Donate blood.

16. Write and mail a letter to a friend.

17. Take your parents out to dinner.

18. Help someone with yard work.

19. Make an elderly neighbor dinner.

20. Hold the door/elevator open for someone.

21. Read to a child.

22. Donate books to a local Little Free Library.

23. Volunteer to be the designated driver one weekend.

24. Tell someone you appreciate them.

25. Donate old clothes.

26. Leave a generous tip.

27. Say “Good Morning” to someone who looks like they may be having a bad day.

28. Drop what you are doing to help a friend.

29. Offer to babysit for free for a stressed out parent.

30. Leave quarters at a laundry mat.

Do one of these random acts of kindness every day in November (or make up your own) and you will be starting the holiday season off with a heart full of love and gratitude.  The more kindness you give out, the more that gets returned to you.

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15 Quotes for the Girl With Hyper-Empathy

When Empathy Has No Boundaries

We feel deeply and wholeheartedly and there’s nothing you can do to stop us. It’s in our blood,  embedded in our DNA to care for just about every human being just as much as ourselves.

“Never apologize for being sensitive or emotional. Let this be a sign that you’ve got a big heart and aren’t afraid to let others see it. Showing your emotions is a sign of strength.” Bridgette Nicole

Read This if You Feel Like You’re the Unappreciated Friend

That Friend

This is for the friend that is always the one trying to make plans… but her friends never have the time to get together.

And this is for the friend that plans birthday parties and mails birthday cards… but only gets “Happy Birthdays” on Facebook.

This is for the friend that takes time out of her life for a friend in need… but no one realizes when she needs someone to be there for them.

And this is for the friend that goes to her friend’s benefits, buys from their fundraisers, attends their events… yet no one supports the causes and projects that are important to her.

 

To that friend: 

You are important. And you do matter. Because there is nothing wrong with you.

You may feel unappreciated and truth be told, you are. But that doesn’t mean your presence doesn’t matter or that your absence would go unnoticed.

Yes, some people are taking advantage of your friendship; those are the people you need to weed out of your life. But not everyone is taking you for granted.

There are some people that are just so self-focused on their life, they don’t realize how they make you feel.

You are a special kind of friend. And you are the friend that everyone can rely on. You are the friend that is so caring, and so strong, people forget that you may be struggling too.

 

Let your friends know how you feel. 

Once they realize that their actions are hurting you, they will change. If they love you, if they really want you to be a part of their life, they will let you know.

But please, dear friend, do not change who are. Do not change the kind of friend you are.

 

A Single Mom has a Heart of Gold, Don’t Take Advantage of It

Single moms are some of the most empathetic and giving women around. They know the struggle and are willing to help out whenever possible. Please stop taking advantage of a single mom’s heart of gold.

 

If you are short on a bill, she will help you out, because she knows how hard it is to make ends meet.

 

If you need a babysitter, she will say yes, because she knows how hard it is to find someone at the last minute.

Letting Go of Your Deadbeat Baby Daddy

You can go weeks without talking to your kids.  My whole day is off if they are away from me.

You prefer to spend your weekends drinking and clubbing.  I prefer family fun nights.

You show your status by brand name clothes, fancy electronics, and expensive cars.  I show my status by working hard and trying to be a good mom.

You think money is power.  I think education is power.

We both think we are successful.  We are both happy with our different lives.

I’m wasting time being sad for you and what you are missing out on.  You aren’t sad.  You are experiencing the things you want to experience.

I’m wasting my time hating you because you want different things in life.  Hating you isn’t keeping you from doing what you enjoy doing.

My bad feelings toward you affect my heart, not yours.

I don’t like the choices you’ve made or the person you’ve become.  I especially don’t like the pain you have caused.

With a smile on my face and tears in my eyes, I’m letting my hatred go.

I’m done.  Done hoping and praying.  Done believing things will change.  I’m letting my feelings go and accepting you for exactly who you are.  I won’t expect any more from you than what you have been willing to give.

Do what makes you happy.  Be with who makes you smile.  Live the life that you love.

I hope as the years go by and your kids grow up that you have no regrets.

My only regret is that I didn’t let you go sooner.

 

61 Cute and Sweet Things to Say to Your Girlfriend

Sometimes, saying “I love you,” to your girlfriend can be overused. Those three words can’t always describe the array of emotions you truly feel. There are moments when those words just don’t seem like enough. When that happens you can choose other cute and sweet things to say to your girlfriend and make your girlfriend’s heart smile.

There is nothing better than falling in love and being the reason your super sweet and cute girlfriend is happy. You know you’re the perfect match, she’s the person you can lean on no matter what, so she deserves to know how you truly feel. If your face lights up when you see your girlfriend’s name on your phone or if your girlfriend still gives you butterflies when she walks into the room, just let your girlfriend know how much you love her. She’ll love you for expressing your feelings in a cute and sweet way even if it’s just by a cute text message. Just let your girlfriend know you care.

1. The story of me and you is my favorite love story.

2. I appreciate you and everything you do.

3. I love how passionate you are about everything in life.

4. My life hasn’t been the same since the day I met you.

5. Every day that I wake up next to you is a dream come true.

6. I will never have the words to explain how wonderful you are.

7. Every time you walk into a room you take my breath away.

8. We are in this together.

9. Being with you has made me a better person, you’ve changed me.

10. You make me feel like I matter.

11. If I could do it all over again, I would choose you every single time.

12. When I think about my future, I see you in it, for the rest of my life.

13. The thought of you makes me feel alive.

14. What makes me happy? Seeing you smile.

15. When I’m with you, I feel like I can do anything.

16. Even though we aren’t perfect, we are perfect together.

17. Your presence puts me in a better mood.

18. Your beauty never ceases to amaze me.

19. I wish I could hold you in my arms forever.

20. You’re my dream girl and I’m nothing without you.

21. I’m so excited to spend the rest of my life creating memories with you.

22. The best day of my life was the day we met.

23. I love you just the way you are, don’t ever change.

24. You are my best friend.

25. You are the total package.

26. Your laugh is my favorite sound.

27. No matter what happens, I will always love you.

28. I’ll love you through your bad days.

29. I wish I could cuddle with you all day long.

30. Everything fell into place after I met you. Being with you feels so right.

31. I love having adventures with you.

32. Thank you for loving me for everything I am.

33. I am so lucky to have found you; you are my lucky charm.

34. I don’t know what I did to deserve you.

35. I love the way you smell.

36. I can feel it in my bones that you’re the one for me.

37. You understand me better than anyone else.

38. I’d be lost without you. You’re the star that lights my path.

39. You’ve made my dreams come true.

40. I can’t wait to start a family with you. You will be a great mom.

41. I hate seeing you upset and I will do whatever I can to help you.

42. You are what I am most thankful for.

43. The day you take my last name will be the best day of my life.

44. When I hold your hands, I never want to let go.

45. You are the most beautiful girl in the world.

46. I have never loved anyone as much as I love you.

47. I didn’t believe in soulmates until I met you.

48. You are one of the best people I know. I look up to you.

49. You are such a good influence on me, I think you saved my life.

50. When I close my eyes, I always think of you.

51. We have a love that will last forever.

52. I want to grow old with you.

53. My family likes you better than they like me.

54. Falling in love with you is the best thing to ever happen to me.

55. You give me strength to face the most difficult days.

56. I would do anything to make you happy.

57. Your happiness is the most important thing to me.

58. No matter what life throws at me, you will always be my go-to person.

59. You make my bad days better, and my good days great.

60. I adore you for opening my eyes to true love.

61. Thank you for putting up with me.

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It Takes a Big-hearted Man to Win the Heart of a Single Mom

The idea of dating a single mom can be frightening. Here she is raising little humans, day in and day out, and you can’t even keep a plan alive. As intimidating as dating a single mom might seem, it is worth it.

If you are willing to put in the effort.

She won’t always respond to your texts right away. If you are insecure, then dating a single mom might not be right for you. She is too busy with her children to be at your beck and call. But she is also too busy raising her kids to be up your ass all the time.

She is not clingy. She won’t care if you want a night out with the guys. That just means she doesn’t have to pay for a babysitter.

Her kids will always come first. It might be difficult to learn how to be second string in your girl’s life, but it is something you have to get used to.

But trust me, if you hang around, she will make it up to you. She knows how crazy and hectic her life is, and she has no problem rewarding the guy who is okay with coming in second.

Her ex will always be in her life. That is just part of her baggage that she should never have to apologize for. But rest easy, because it is a reminder that being a parent is not your job. Being her partner is.

Don’t get too hung up on the idea that she still talks to her ex regularly. If she wanted him to be her partner, he would still be.

There won’t be much spontaneity. If you want a weekend away, it needs to be planned weeks in advanced. And then there is always the chance that she will cancel. She will choose spending a weekend with a sick kid any day.

That just shows how big her heart is. And that maybe one day, she will help take care of you when you are sick.

There a lot of hurdles to jump over when it comes to dating a single mom. We know how intimidating it is when you see a woman that is a force to be reckoned with. Someone who might come across as uninterested at first, but that is just because she has a jam packed schedule.

She knows how to love. She loves fiercely and unconditionally. She won’t have time to play games, because she’s too busy attending her children’s games. She won’t depend on you, but she wouldn’t mind having you around, supporting her.

If you are lucky, she will eventually introduce you to the loves of her life. And you will understand. The sacrifices that are made to be a part of her life, and her children’s lives are totally worth it.

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It's Time to Say "Fuck it" to These 20 Things and Just Do You

You might feel a little tired and irritable. You feel “heavy" and that’s because you are holding onto things that are weighing you down. There are so many things you can let go of to make room for a happier you.

  1. The constant need for approval.  Not everyone is going to like you. Get over it.

  2. Excuses, excuses, excuses. Start taking action for the things you want. If you desire them you have what it takes to make shit happen. Go for it. 

  3. Kick jealousy in the butt. It doesn’t look good on anyone. And when you remember that everyone has some sort of struggle, you realize there is nothing to be jealous of.

  4. Trying to control everything. That just feeds your anxieties and can drive you insane. Go with the flow and see where it takes you. 

  5. Trying to please everyone. You simply can’t, so stop trying.

  6. Toxic people in general. Let go of all of them. The ones who disappear when times are tough, the one upper's, and the ones that come around when it is convenient….let them go.

  7. The idea of a perfect partner. It's just that, and idea. So learn to surrender to love as it comes. Appreciate the one you have and keep your heart open to receive the love that will eventually last forever.

  8. Grudges suck. Forgiveness is a beautiful thing. Holding onto grudges just holds you back from enjoying life.

  9. Your need to meet unrealistic expectations. Whether it’s from your boss, your parents, your partner, accept that what they are asking is 1. Unrealistic and 2. Never going to happen.

  10. Gossiping and spreading negativity. It’s just ugly. The more time you spend concentrating on the positive things, the more positive your life will become.

  11. Unnecessary small talk. Be real and be honest. No one cares about the weather. If you have to force small talk with someone, then there is no reason to be talking to them.

  12. Embrace your flaws and don't give insecurities that much weight. Everyone has them. Just keep reminding yourself how bad ass you are.

  13. Overindulging in food and alcohol. Your body and your bank account will thank you for it.

  14. A packed schedule. Take some time to be alone and enjoy it.

  15. Letting someone else define you. You know who you are more than anyone else in the world. It is up to you to define yourself and be who you want to be.

  16. The idea that you know everything. You don’t. And you should never stop learning.

  17. Putting others down who don’t share your beliefs. A healthy disagreement is not a bad thing. And different belief systems are definitely not bad….just different. Agree to disagree.

  18. Clutter is not sexy so make space in your life for what you truly need. Spending 15 minutes a day working on clutter can make a huge difference.

  19. Unhealthy relationships. Don’t let anyone control you, belittle you or hurt you. No matter whom they are, no matter how much you love them. Love yourself more.

  20. Self-criticism. You are doing the best you can. Believe it and let the negative thoughts go.

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13 Classic Christmas Movie Quotes That Will Make Your Heart Smile

Christmas is right around the corner and sometimes it is hard to get out of our winter funk and truly enjoy the holiday. When we’re feelin’ a little extra Scroogy, what we really just need is a christmas movie and a tall mug of hot chocolate to put us in the spirit. So if you need a reminder of the meaning of Christmas, these classic Christmas movie quotes are guaranteed to make your heart smile. 

1. “And there were in the same country shepherds abiding in the field, keeping watch over their flock by night. And lo, the angel of the Lord came upon them, and the glory of the Lord shone around about them: and they were sore afraid.” A Charlie Brown Christmas 

2. “Strange, isn’t it? Each man’s life touches so many other lives. When he isn’t around he leaves an awful hole, doesn’t he?” It’s A Wonderful Life 

3. “Maybe Christmas, he thought, doesn’t come from a store. Maybe Christmas, perhaps, means a little bit more.” How the Grinch Stole Christmas

4. “And the angel said unto them, ‘Fear not: for behold, I bring unto you good tidings of great joy, which shall be to all people. For unto you is born this day in the City of David a Savior, which is Christ the Lord. And this shall be a sign unto you; Ye shall find the babe wrapped in swaddling clothes, lying in a manger.’” A Charlie Brown Christmas  

5. “Will you please tell the real Santa that instead of presents this year, I just want my family back.” Home Alone 

6. “Some people are worth melting for.” Frozen 

7. “There is no greater gift than friendship.” Polar Express 

8. “Christmas isn’t just a day. It’s a frame of mind.” Miracle on 34th Street 

9. “The best way to spread Christmas cheer, is singing along for all to hear.” Elf 

10. “You see it was a special kind of snow. A snow that made the happy happier and the giddy even giddier. A snow that makes a homecoming homier, and natural enemies, friends, natural. For it was the first snow of the season. And as any child can tell you, there’s a certain magic that comes with the very first snow, especially when it falls on the day before Christmas." Frosty the Snowman

11. “Seeing isn’t believing. Believing is seeing.” The Santa Clause 

12. “And suddenly there was with the angel a multitude of heavenly host, praising God, and saying, ‘Glory to God in the highest, and on earth peace, good will toward men. That’s what Christmas is all about, Charlie Brown.”A Charlie Brown Christmas

13. "For when the first snow is also a Christmas snow…Well, something wonderful is bound to happen.” Frosty the Snowman

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This is How I Can Have an Almost Relationship Without Getting too Attached

Everyone thinks almost relationships are the worst. The not knowing, the over-thinking and lack of commitment. But they don’t have to be, they can fit your life’s journey like a glove without leaving any heartache behind. If you don’t think it’s possible, just find out how I can have an almost relationship without getting too attached, and you’ll see how it might work for you too. 

I focus on the awesome things I already have in my busy life. I have great friends, a wonderful family, and a packed schedule. I really don’t think anything else should be my top priority right now. Trying to fit someone in my life full time sounds like a lot of work. Extra work I'm just not willing to put in especially if whatever little time off I have I rather spend it by myself, simply because…

I just looove my alone time. There are times that I don't want to go out.  I just want to curl up on my couch and read my favorite book or watch my favorite tv shows. I’m perfectly ok enjoying time alone without anyone else there distracting me. I don’t really have any voids in my heart I need to fill in with a significant other. 

At this point in my life, I'm perfectly ok having someone there when it is convenient. It may sound a bit brash and selfish but it’s not. I’m just being fair. The truth is, if you're not in love, you might just find someone for when it's convenient and that's ok. To have someone to spend time with a few times a month is what is right for me. I can have fun, get to know an awesome guy, and then go back to my busy life.  And he can do the same. 

There is no obligatory small talk about each other’s days. There is no getting into a boring routine. Things are always fun and interesting so…

Commitment is not needed or necessary. I'm already committed to myself and all the things that are important to me in my life; My job, friends, my gym, my committees. I don't spend my time worrying about what he is doing or who he is doing it with.  

I'm confident enough to know that if he cares about me, then what I have to offer is enough.  And if it's not enough then I can wish him well and continue on with my life. At the end of the day…

If it's meant to be, it will be. I'm a firm believer in that If things go well, eventually I can start to mix him into other parts of my life.  But who am I to push, control or manipulate the natural course of things? I’m not into living my life in fear, worried about the future if I honestly have no control over it. If seeing him only once a week, will stop working for me. I'm just that we will adjust accordingly.

But for now, my almost relationship is fun and exciting. It fits my schedule and my life perfectly.  It is what is right for me.

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