Author: Meagan

Settling is what people do when they are content with the way things are going with someone.  Settling is boring. No one should settle for another person because somewhere out there in this big world of ours is another person patiently waiting to meet you.  Being in crazy, can’t think straight, day-dreamy kind of love with someone is easily one of the best things that you will ever experience.  Yes I know, how very cliche` of me… but seriously.  Settling for a woman, or a man, who doesn’t make your heart dance is a big fat waste of your time. It’s like choosing to drink Folgers Instant coffee when you can have freshly brewed Starbucks instead. It’s like drinking Popov when you can have Grey Goose.  It’s like waiting in line for all the rides at Disney Land when you have a fast pass to the front in your pocket.  It’s like driving a Ford Focus instead of a Ferrari.  Etc. You get the point.

You shouldn’t settle for anyone who doesn’t make your insides do backflips at the sound of their name.

You deserve someone who knows you so well that they can order your drink for you when the waitress comes up to take your order while you’re in the bathroom.  

You deserve someone who not only wants to, but volunteers to give you back rubs until you fall asleep. 

You deserve a person who brags about how great you are whenever you’re not around.

You deserve a significant other who knows things about you that you don’t even know. 

You deserve a co-pilot on road trips who plays your favorite song– even if they hate it.

You deserve someone who makes social events like family holidays, and weddings, fun and no longer awkward.

You deserve to be so in love that the thought of them not present in your life physically pains you.  

You deserve butterflies, fairy tales, good morning texts, flowers, bear hugs, constant use of the heart eye emoji, and someone to binge watch American Horror Story with.

You deserve it.

So it may take a little bit longer for you, and it may suck to watch other people who are euphorically in love with their partners, but it’s worth the wait. Eventually, you will meet someone who makes your days brighter.  Usually, they appear when you least expect them to, so be available, and be patient. Most importantly, never settle.

It takes a special kind of person to pull you from the depths of overwhelming grief.

Recovering from the unexpected death of a parent means dealing with what seems to be a never-ending whirlwind of constantly raging emotions. Grief controls your every thought and action and is something I wouldn’t wish on even my worse enemy.

 One day everything is normal, all is right and good in the world, until suddenly you receive that call that changes your life.  Your mom/dad is dead. And no matter the circumstances, this is devastating.  

So this is your appreciation post best friend. You fucking rock. Seriously.

I cherish our friendship.  You may never fully understand how much you helped me, and the kind of hope you provided me on a daily basis.  You were, and still are, the first person I call when things just don’t make sense.  

Even though you can’t answer every question, you’re there to talk me through any and all situations. You’re there for me at 2am when I call you beyond hysterical, and you’re there for my mid-day breakdowns. You have dealt with all the stages of my grief like a goddamn champion and I just can’t imagine how I would’ve gotten through this without you. 

Thank you for loving me when I hated everything.  Thank you for loving me when I was angry at the world. Thank you for loving me when I was sad.  Thank you for never giving up on me. Thank you for showing me what true friendship is.

Thank you for staying, and sticking out the storm. Thank you for texting me every morning to brighten my day with a stupid meme or to just straight up tell me you love me. Thank you for being my light through the darkness. Thank you for understanding that 6 months and 25 days later that I’m still struggling. I could go on all day saying thank you, and it still wouldn’t express just how thankful I am for you.

Love you always.

By Meagan Nelson