While any girl knows how to have fun in the sun, the girl who loves autumn can have a good time without even leaving home. But that doesn’t mean she won’t go out on adventures, too.
There are many reasons to fall for girls who love fall:
An autumn person makes the best cuddle buddy on chilly nights.
She’s always comfortable because everyday is sweater weather for her. She’s covered in plaid and flannel…
…But she’ll still bundle up in your coat if you offer it to her.
The girl who loves fall is craftier than the average girl, and the list of chill activities you can do together is endless.
Trust isn’t something that is instantaneously established between two people. Each stage of your connection is built upon the stages that came before it. The order may vary, but each stage is going to happen if you’ve found your better half.
1. The When You First Meet and Don’t Want to Blow It Stage
You don’t know what’s going to happen next, so it’s the most restrained you will ever be with one another.
2. The How Do You EXIST!?! Stage
The more they reveal about themselves, they seem too good to be true. You can’t hold yourself back with each other afterwards.
3. The Would You Like To Go Out To… Stage
You’re still always politely double-checking just to make sure the other person’s happy with dinner plans and going out locations.
4. The We’re Doing This and Staying In Stage
You’re more confident in knowing what you both like now. All you both really want is to just spend with each other, regardless of where.
5. The Total Self-Disclosure Stage
You both tell each other about your past and future plans. From the regrets of your past to the ambitions of your future, they know the shape of your life story.
6. The Text Each Other Even When You’re In the Same Room Stage
So maybe you’re in a movie theater or a party where you can’t say certain things out loud, so instead you text each other what you can’t say in front of every one…
7. The Finally Official Stage
You’ve had “the talk??? about your relationship status so you know you’re both really in it together now.
You cannot convince someone to fall in love. It’s not a choice. It’s a feeling. It’s not that he doesn’t want to want you. He’s just not capable.
1. He says he doesn’t believe in relationships or love.
If he says this to your face, he’s doesn’t believe in the possibility of love or a relationship with you.
2. He says something along the lines of I guess I’ll see you whenever I see you when you’re saying goodbye to him after hanging out.
If he’s not eager to see you again, sometime soon, he’s got other things on his mind, and you’re probably not one of them.
3. You keep going over the little things in your head.
That one time he said how cute you looked when he picked you up. But then didn’t text you all weekend. And it seemed odd he didn’t get in touch when he supposedly stayed at home, bored the whole time…something just doesn’t add up.
4. He encourages you to pursue other guys.
He’s basically hinting that he wants to keep seeing other people freely. He’s trying to gently tell you that the two of you are not exclusive. He’s not worried about losing you to someone else.
Just because someone loves their alone time doesn’t mean they don’t also love spending time with their partner. It can be confusing at first, but those of us who enjoy solitude will connect with you on a deeper level than anyone else, if you can understand us fully.
1. Alone time does not equal loneliness.
For us, alone time means relaxation and recharging, a moment to be free from all the noise of the day. It doesn’t mean we don’t want to spend time with you. It’s actually a way to clear our heads so we’ll be in the best mood when we’re with you.
2. We can’t stand being bored.
We are not the type to sit around and do nothing all day. We seek out the stuff that makes us excited to jump out of bed in the morning. This is why you should pay attention if we’re spending time with you: we value our time greatly, so we only give it to you if we care about you.
Many couples start out smooth and steady sailing in the early honeymoon phases. Everything seems to be going fine, but then something changes and, suddenly, you’re in total confusion.
Difficult situations come up, and you can’t ignore them. We face the choice of fight or flight: to distance and self-protect OR to connect with each other. But it’s completely normal to run into road bumps when you’re a couple.
What matters is that you’re in for the ride together. The following events might just bring you two closer:
1. Cooking for each other and epic failing at it…
So your partner wanted to impress you, or you wanted to make a meal for them. And let’s just say it didn’t turn out as planned, even if you’ve cooked it perfectly for yourself a million times. Maybe you were just nervous…
But then the two of you end up laughing it off because it’s NBD. Even though the dinner doesn’t look like a masterpiece, it still tastes pretty good. And it’s who you’re eating with that really matters.
2. Going out to a party together…
When you socialize together, you get to see another side of each other. And sometimes it’s a different side that you’re used to seeing. You or your partner might reveal a crazy sad-drunk angry side. Or act unusually obnoxious with friends.
A party is also the time you’d be flirting with new people if you were single. Plus, at a party a random ex can come up in conversation. Or in person.
But when you get to happily introduce each other to everyone you know, you realize everything’s all good. You show how much you like each other when you stand by each other in public. You came together, and you get to go home together.
3. A tiny little health scare…
As long as it isn’t anything serious, a temporary panic or a weekend with a cold can have an unexpected result. Instead of walking away, the other person is taking you to the doctor or bringing you soup when you’re stuck in bed.
When you help each other when the other is down and it shows you’re not just in it for a good time. You’re willing to stick around, and the two of you are in this thing for real.
4. A job change…
A transition like this can often put a strain on your relationship, whether it’s a total change of work, or a promotion, or just a huge project. One of you needs more time and energy to themselves as you adjust to a different routine and demands at work.
But when the other person is totally cool and understanding, you are each other’s lighthouses in the storm. Some couples can’t stay the same together. If you guys can stick it out through a change together, you’ve found something really special.
There’s nothing like the feeling when you press that reset button on yourself and everything you know. Too often, though, we fall back into old habits because we never really escaped our old demons. Let go the parts of yourself holding you back. Don’t repeat when you can refresh.
Loosen your grip on all the things in your life that no longer serve their purpose anymore. Hold on tighter to all the things that have a future.
Let go of your tendency to compare yourself to other people. Their lives wouldn’t fit you anyway.The only one you’re racing against is yourself.
Let go of the pessimist in you that says your dreams are unrealistic.They might be, but you’ll never know unless you try.
Let go of the boredom that has slowed you down.Let yourself be drawn closer to that which makes you feel alive and driven.
Let go of the people who brought out the worst in you.Let go of the part of yourself that they tainted. Hold on to the part of yourself that knows you’re better off without them around.
Let go of the lies you tell yourself when something just isn’t adding up.Let your mind bravely confront the worst case scenario and the best case scenario. Embrace the truth that your intuition is telling you.
Let go of the phone in your hand that you check every twenty seconds. Place it with the screen face down. Let go of all the minutes in the past year you wasted checking for updates when there weren’t any. Get up and seek something exciting beyond that little screen, instead of waiting for news from the outside.
Let go of the critic inside you that prevents you from celebrating yourself.Everytime you take a step forward, you need to pat yourself on the back to push yourself farther ahead.
Let go of the thoughts you have about where everything went wrong. Hold on to the memories of those moments where everything fell into place.
Let go of the guilt for mistakes you can no longer fix. Don’t let your old demons make your new life toxic. Find a way to dance with your demons and make some magic out of your darkness instead.
Let go of your petty hang-ups with the people that mean the most to you. Hold on tight to these people. Don’t let go even if they try to push you away, because they need you just as much as you need them.
Let go of the self you’re not proud of.That person doesn’t have to be your future. The real you is what’s left after all the bad luck and mistakes. Embrace what you are in the present, and everything you will become into the new year and beyond.
You know who you are if you’re a bad dancer. You’ve come to accept your condition; the problem is other people just won’t have it when you say you “don’t dance.” Weddings and clubs are like minefields where you have to find a way to avoid disaster (that is, getting dragged on to the dance floor again). The results are never pretty.
When someone says they’d like to dance with you, they don’t realize what they’re getting themselves into.
You just don’t do “the Macarena.”
In the past you’ve attempted to keep it cool with slight head-bobs and a little body swaying, like when you’re at a concert.
But that’s your utmost limit.
At weddings, people are always questioning why you won’t get up and get on the floor.
They don’t wonder after they witness your dance for themselves.
You just don’t have the moves, and you don’t want to pretend as if you do.
You don’t care if it makes you seem like you’re no fun.
It’s actually much more amusing to watch everyone else make fools of themselves twerking than to let yourself loose.
The only times you really have danced are times you don’t actually remember.
It may be because those times never really happened or because shots. You’ll never really be certain.
And so you feel like you’re either Chandler on Friends or Elaine on Seinfeld.
The worst thing is when you get dragged in (literally) to dancing with someone against your will when you have no idea what you’re doing.
And who’s to say you should be forced to dance anyway if you’re not in the mood for it?
Dancing when you don’t feel like it is like trying to make yourself laugh when something isn’t funny.
The only dancing you’ll do now, maybe, is when completely alone (if that), and only when you get very, very good news.
Whenever you’re at a party, you always find your people in those who stand on the sidelines of the dancing.
You’ll only agree to dance, maybe, with someone who wants an easy, slow dance with you, but even that’s a rarity.
Usually, you’ll choose to avoid dancing as much as you can…
Everyone should apologize every once in awhile, but there’s a chance that you may overdo it sometimes. There’s no need to feel guilty when you didn’t do anything wrong. If you're an overly-apologetic person, it just means you're always empathizing with others, and that's not something you should feel sorry for.
You have a natural reflex to say sorry for everything.
People say the weather was bad on the way to work and you say I’m sorry.
You do it even when you know it wasn’t really your fault.
When you’re really upset about a break-up, you constantly apologize to all your friends about venting all about your ex so much.
But there’s no need to be sorry for having feelings.
The absolute worst thing is if you can’t make it to someone’s birthday party—you feel absolutely terrible for a long time after.
You always try to stop yourself from laughing at other people, because you’re afraid it might hurt their feelings.
Sometimes you feel too guilty to tell your friends you can’t go out, even when you’re super tired.
Taking a nap in the middle of the day makes you feel like a lazy person, even though you really needed to catch up on sleep.
If you disagree with someone really strongly about something, you often feel bad that the two of you can’t see eye to eye on it.
You also feel bad if you totally shift your stance on something after previously being stubborn about it, even though it’s absolutely okay change your mind sometimes.
You often apologize for being really hungry when someone else doesn’t want to go get dinner.
When you have a major success at school or work, you’re too self-conscious to brag about it.
You often preface things with the phrase, I’m sorry to bother you but…
Or I’m sorry for asking so many questions.
Your friends know there’s not too much you should actually feel too guilty for.
They know better than anyone that you always do everything with the best intentions.
People tell you, No need to apologize and you respond, Oh, okay; I’m sorry.
But that's alright too…
The last thing you need is to feel bad about saying sorry too much, on top of everything else.