Author: Thea

My mother would always tell me this quote growing up. At first I didn’t understand, but once I got into some more serious relationships with men, I came to realize that it is SOOO TRUE!

My very first relationship I was obviously in Awee so I would want to see him every day if I could.

Now, if I see my boyfriend every day I kind of get sick of him (in a good way though). It’s not that I don’t want to spend time with him; it’s just there’s nothing new to talk about.

So by letting a little time pass, eventually I’ll miss him dearly

This Idiom basically means that distancing yourself from those we love will just make you more appreciative of the time you do spend together, and eventually you will miss it.

It’s a proven fact that couples with limited face-to-face contact will engage in deeper conversations, and have more meaningful interactions than those who see each other on a daily basis.

So take a mini break from your loved ones, and learn how to love with distance. Spend more time worrying about yourself and not the relationship. 

~Absence is to love as wind is to fire; it extinguishes the small and kindles the great~

The Twins Have A Curious Duality Of Character. Castor and Pollux are the heads of the twins.

I am not a Gemini but I am in the same realm of their AIR symbol. Gemini and I (Aquarius) are actually the most compatible together. 

Most of my best friends are Gemini’s. College surely was not the same without the memories we made together. 

Here's what I discovered: 

1. They can party hard

2. They have a big heart

3. They are very adaptable/flexible

4. They are dualistic (“the twins” as their symbol)

5. They are very independent souls

6. They are great at communicating with others

7. They are adventurous

8. They are very impulsive and flirtatious

9. They are optimistic

10. They live in their minds

With such a large variety of traits these twins have, it can be quite tricky to truly love them. 

Coming from me, as an air sign also, we tend to be very aloof. Our feelings are with our mind not our head.

To Win This One’s heart: 

1. Be witting, charming, and funny

2. Don’t crowd her air space on commitment

3. Change the scenery often to prevent boredom

4. Worship their mind with conversations

5. Have a positive zest for life

6. Know how to debate (not argue)

7. Be patient when they’re indecisive

8. Embrace their inner child with them

9. Don’t be shy or anti-social

10. Don’t lie or break their trust

11. Be ready to jump at any moment

Simple & to the point… My relationships with these signs are still growing. They know how to maintain a friendship for those they truly care for and care back. 

Loving a Gemini might be tricky, but once you learn their personality and their mental capacity of life you can surely get a great kick out of them! 

Hopefully by now, whoever’s reading this has gotten in & out of relationships. Breaking up is hard to do, especially when you deeply loved that person. I know from experience that losing someone truly hurts the heart. It’s a form of depression basically. You go through shock, pain, anger, and loneliness. In order to move on, you have to go through those stages of grief. It’s a part of life.

After the initial aftershock try to focus on these next steps: 

1. Don’t question the decision you made

2. Don’t start unnecessary drama

3. Stay out of the ex’s friend group

4. Focus on your own needs/wants

5. Cry it out, and don’t be afraid to do so

6. Block all sorts of social communication

7. Partake in new activities to replace the free time you now have

8. Talk it out with your friends or a therapist

9. Try to refrain from “bumping” into them

10. Baby steps, aka take one day at a time

    After my breakups, I would cry during the oddest times of the day. Sitting in class, taking notes, then all of a sudden you pop into my head for a milla-second, and I start to tear up. As embarrassing as it was, I realized it's going to happen regardless.

   Sadness may feel like your living in s l o w m o t I o n, but it’s important to know that you can’t rush this process. It’s kind of like digestion: there is nothing you can do to hurry it up! The only thing you can do is fight it out. Like everything else, it will eventually pass.

   Keep in mind that there is nothing wrong with you, and that what you're going through is 100% normal! You have every right to find true happiness but know that it comes deep within yourself. Treat yourself with kindness & try to find one thing every day that pleases you.

You knew it was coming friends! For those of you that know me, I have a slight obsession with zodiac signs. Its my hobby in a sense. It keeps me on my toes. 

I'm the type of person who WILL ask you what your sign is the first time I meet you (compared to Meghan Trainor who says NO). Helps me get a sense of who you are, plus it's an easy ice breaker! 

Being the crazy person I am…I figured I would tell you more about how awesome Aquarians are…

To being with, we're AIR (not water). Our symbol is the water bearer, which represent someone pouring knowledge down upon others via the bearer they hold. 

Air signs also include Libra and Gemini. Air is the element that you cannot touch nor see, but it can be mysteriously contained. Air is the most necessary element to ignite fire, earth and water. We're also a fixed sign; which means we are grounded and practical. 

Don't expect an Aquarian to follow the crowd. We are individuals who like to do their own thing and enjoy being different. We take pride in our intellectual/progressive independence. 

We're "out-of-the-box" thinkers, always dreaming up visions, but we might not put them into action.

We are the sign of the future, that's why our minds always wander into space. If you haven't noticed yet, next time you talk to an Aquarius, you may catch their eyes deviate off your face and into their own mind. We're not ignoring you I promise, its just a natural habit to start wandering.

On the down side, were very stubborn, opinionated, temperamental, extreme, and aloof/cold with emotions. 

You gotta take the good with the bad I guess. 

So embrace our eccentric and unpredictable ideas since Aquarius is a powerful force that makes the world go around, like a jet stream.

Negative Nancy, Debbie Downer, and Pessimistic Patty are unfortunately at the bar. Their bad mojo’s are just too overpowering for this happy place. 

A random man screams out to the bartender: “Can someone send over a couple shots of self-esteem to these fun suckers in order to boost their slumped ego?”

Debbie ruins the entire atmosphere, sucking the life out of all good things. She expresses her opinion even when people don’t care to hear it. Debbie thrives on bringing everyone around her down. I think Debbie has some insecurity issues.

Patty finds ways to discourage your bright ideas, and proceeds to tell everyone you’re a failure at life. There is no hope for Patty, since she will always remind you that everything goes downhill. Clearly her glass is half empty and she needs another drink. Waiter!

Lastly, Nancy just doesn’t seem to have any words of encouragement in her vocab, instead she points out all your flaws and jumps to conclusions. Even if you think you did something right, Nancy will just say it is wrong. Nancy doesn’t want to be at the bar. She just wants to complain the whole time instead. WAA WAAA WAA

People who spout out negative opinions without valid basis are trying to basically tell everyone "hey look at me look at me!!" 

And although these negative people should get the least of our time and energy, we often give them the most attention. I don’t understand how wallowing in other peoples misery makes people feel more confident?

Strategies to deal with downers:

• Resist the urge to assume that they were born an a**hole

• Maintain positivity since they can’t seem to do it themselves

• Temper your emotional responses to their snide remarks

• Don’t take it personally since they are the insecure ones

• Act instead of reacting. Help them learn to be more optimistic

Now is the time to decide that you’re not going to allow negative people to determine how you think, feel, and behave. Take back your power and focus your time and energy on becoming your best self. Careful though, negativity is contagious and spreads like wildfire.

~Pay close attention to people who don’t clap when you win~

   I’m the type of person who speaks their mind regardless of how well I know you. It’s a bad quality to have at times but I am learning to literally put a coffee filter in my mind to prevent me from saying dumb things. The blunt things I say are not supposed to be taken offensively, just accept it and don’t question it. Having no filter is like ADHD brain farts, and words just spill out.

   It’s an ongoing struggle I have. People know I’m working on it so stop telling me something I already know, thanks. For those people out there who are just like me, don’t worry you’re not alone, I feel your pain. Learning how to think before you speak is not a trait that comes naturally for some including myself. It doesn’t just change overnight, it’s a growing transformation. Being unpredictable is just my natural habit and I love that about myself. Gives me a quirky personality some say.

Embrace the inner mind of yourself because if you’re confident with that then no one can stop you.

Some things I’ve noticed: 

-Either people find your blunt blurting funny, or some may get offended. All I would say to those who are offended is “Bye Felicia.” (is it too late now to say sorry?)

– Dating is tricky too only because your mind is in a battle with your mouth to not say the wrong thing to a potential partner.

– You occasionally weird people out with how openly you talk about your life/experiences. Yes, the stuff I have done is real, why would I say it if it wasn’t factual. Don’t be jealous.

-People come to you for honest advice because they know you will tell it to them straight up. They say the truth hurts, but I would rather know the truth than a lie.

How to filter you ask? 

• Ask yourself if it’s the right time/place for your unnecessary comment

• Age and experience help you learn the right things to say

• If you’re going to respond in haste, I recommend waiting a day to grasp all the anger

• Know who your audience is (don’t swear in church, it’s a sin)

• Bite your tongue around people you know are sensitive

• Most importantly, think before you speak

  Next time you encounter a blunt person like myself, just accept the random thoughts they have/say, and don’t question if there might be a secret meaning behind it because most likely they have no idea what they just said!

The word boyfriend can mean two things: either a legit guy/man-friend, or a labeled relationship. 

Every year at the family parties, my aunts/uncles are always asking me if the guys in my pictures are my new boyfriend. Not sure if it is my young age, or they like to butt into my life, but just because I post a picture of some friends and I hanging out doesn’t always conclude I am dating them (all).

Compared to most, the amount of guy friends I have is higher than girls. Not that I hate girls or anything, but I just seem to get along better with men. They are chiller and less drama is involved.

Here are the requirements for guy friend’s vs. actual boyfriends:

1. Guy friends will tell it like it is. Does this shirt make me look fat?, Yes it does, change it now!

2. He doesn’t play mind games. He actually just wants to be your friend, sorry.

3. He still love you regardless the status of your relationship. One day it's a "complicated" status, the next day your "widowed." 

4. No intimacy is needed (air kisses and hugs are allowed).

5. He respects your own boundaries/space and won't cling to you. 

6. They are your “hulk” when it comes to beating up people you hate.

7. You can always crash at their place, since spooning won't be involved (maybe foot massages).

8. Funny joke flirting is acceptable since no ones feelings will get hurt. Oh baby baby.

9. You can talk, stare, and drool at all the other men you want, since he wont get jealous. 

10. He can be a great wingman since his friends are usually single too! 

11. The manly side of you can come out, aka burping/farting is tolerable without judgments.

12. He probably won’t pay for anything unless you owe him in debt.

13. There is no term like "on a date," its just you're bored and have nothing else to do. #nolife

14. Your chemistry has no sparks, its just a mutual generous friendship.

    There you have it, the hulks in our life may not play the full role of a perfect boyfriend, but that doesn’t mean they are not allowed to love you just the same. Next time your are with them, don’t forget to express how much they truly mean to you. <3

If you haven’t already figured it out yet, college is one large bubble of unrealistic expectations. The bubble keeps us entrapped in this crazy fun drunk world. In the four years of college (or more) you meet hundreds to thousands of different people if you actually try to branch out and expand your horizons. By senior year you will most likely have a tight knit group of friends. The friends you go drink with on a daily basis even before class sometimes, the friends who snuggle with you and you don’t mind being the big spoon for, the friends who pick us up when we fall down (usually drunkenly), the friends who know the ins/outs of your personal life, or the friends who will rush to your side in a freak accident (which is usually much larger in your mind). By the last and final year you can claim someone or somebodies as your college BFF/s.

Flash forward to graduation day, walking across the stage, shaking the President’s hand, while all the memories you made flash right before your eyes as you exit the stage. Time to leave this bubble now.

Two days later you’re back at home in the old gross crumby room that’s probably been turned into a dance room. A couple weeks go by and you find your first big girl job! Couple months later, your BFF from school -who thought loved you and you loved back- never contacts you. Confused, dazed, and sad, you can’t figure out why? The college realm you thought was real life no longer exists. Reality sinks in a little and your mind just cannot fathom the after effects.

There are two types of people in this world, givers & takers. The loyal and true friends are the givers. The people who don’t reach back out to you are the takers.

After college, I stayed in touch with as many friends as possible, even the ones in different states. I would consider myself a giver due to the fact that I always would make the first move. This personality trait of mine can be either good or bad. It’s good to take initiative in life but it’s also bad since people like to use that sort of energy up if they don’t have it themselves. I was the bigger person in this case, I reached out to you, I wanted to do things with you, I tried, and you didn’t. So why am I being punished for doing the right thing?

Just like two types of people, there are two paths taken: one that leads into happiness (more travelled) and one that leads into disaster (less travelled). My ex-friend certainly took the unwanted path by leaving me behind.

So, to the friend who broke up with me. I don’t understand why, and I probably never will. My life was not what you wanted it to be which to me seems unfair. However, being the bigger person I am, I will always savor the memories we shared in school since they were all life learning lessons.

After college, and after your awful reality has kicked in, I hope you look back and realize the mistake you made by leaving me behind. . It was your choice to end our friendship, and your choice to leave me stranded. After the cord was cut, my life didn’t change too much -in fact- it helped me search for real friends. Your true colors were shown and became darker when you stopped being my friend, while my true colors actually got brighter once I moved on. Now what? Your friend no longer wants anything to do with you. You need to find the “givers” in this world, who will stick with you thick & thin, since the ones who leave us are not worthy of our love /friendship.

Two is the magic number here. My friend wanted to just be a lame ass 1 (independent) whereas I wanted to be a pair. I wanted to accomplish a lot more with you; I had plans in my mind of what our future would hold together!

From my personal experience, after my friend left me for being friends with someone she didn’t like, I was mind blown.. What type person would let OTHERS (3rd party) ruin OUR (internal) friendship? Clearly, she didn’t care.

To reiterate, college is one giant fake world that involves partying, drinking, and a little studying. Maintaining friends in that drunken atmosphere comes easy for some, but once they leave that bubble all hell strikes loose.

If you can’t handle relationships in the real world then someone needs to crack a bottle on your head. Don’t take friendship like a light feather; it’s a precious Gem that needs TLC!