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To the Girls Who’re Strong for Everyone Else, It’s Okay to Feel Vulnerable

 

I’m putting in a lot of effort to reach what I deserve. 

Maybe I am smarter. Maybe I’m not. Perhaps, I have better time management. None of this means I don’t get overwhelmed with school work. I sit at my desk for HOURS working on homework, knowing that if I don’t get it all done that night, I won’t have time.

Me being “smarter” isn’t the reason I get things done. It’s because I know I have to fit in all this homework into working two part time jobs, a decent night’s rest, spending hours at my internship, AND trying to be on a campus sport or activities so I can get the “full college experience”.

If one more person, who doesn’t even have a job says “Yeah, well it’s because you’re smarter”, I really hope we get to switch lives. I hope you can live in my life for just a day and see how much effort I put in to get all this homework done.

These phrases are meant to be a compliment, I know. It doesn’t eliminate the hurt and mine in my life, though. It doesn’t eliminate the stress or the thoughts of doubt.

Please remember this the next time you think about saying one of these. Instead, say something like “I’m here for you!” or “How can I help?”