A lot of people have trouble telling apart a wedding tradition from a pop culture wedding trend. The worst of it all is the idea of an ultimate wedding checklist. This includes a list of events, items, customs, and events that every wedding needs to have.
In reality, there’s no reason why this would be the case. Sure, the majority of weddings have music (a DJ or a band), but is it possible to make a wedding without any music whatsoever? Of course, it is, it’s your wedding, and you can do as you please. Will your guests be bothered by this? Probably, yeah! In other words, when customizing your wedding, you need to find a middle ground between what is common and what it is that you really want.
Now, in order to make the wedding feel like your own, you need to find a way to personalize it. One of the best ways to do so is to pick a suitable theme. Here are a couple of tips to help you out.
Indoor or Outdoor?
The first question you need to figure out is whether you want an indoor or an outdoor wedding. You see, some themes will be available only indoors, while some won’t make sense in this kind of setting. Keep in mind that booking a venue is one of the first things you need to do, and until you have an answer to this question, you can’t even start.
Just remember that choosing an outdoor venue requires you to make a couple of extra considerations. For instance, this option is not a good idea all year round, which is why you will have to be careful when setting a date. It is also important that you watch out for the weather forecast and have a contingency plan. Some sort of cover can give you a chance to hold a decent event even if things go south. While this is not the mindset that you want to bring into the wedding planning process, it is still something you can’t afford to overlook.
Borrow Some Ideas
While some have the details of their wedding all worked out since they were kids, others have no idea what they want. Chances are that you fall under the latter category (otherwise, you probably wouldn’t be looking at these guides to begin with). The best way to get an idea of what you want is to look at some classic wedding themes and see if there’s anything here that you find to your liking. We’re talking about themes like glam, rustic, fairytale, Disney, beach, etc.
Keep in mind that this is not a data-based decision, and there are no objectively better or worse ideas. This is where you’ll have to trust your intuition. The first time you see something, you will either like or dislike it. If you’re in a dilemma and can’t make up your mind between two themes, try flipping a coin. While it’s in the air, you’ll know exactly what you want.
Remember that while you are looking to make your wedding unique, there’s nothing wrong with borrowing an idea from strangers online. After all, it’s not like you’re copying your best friend’s wedding that you attended last year.
One of the biggest factors when making a wedding theme is composing a guest list. The number of guests will determine the size of the venue, the cost of the wedding, and more. You see, the demographic of the wedding may also determine some parameters. For instance, the average age of the attendants may choose the ideal music for the wedding. This music can serve as a basis for the theme of the wedding. For instance, Disco is a great theme both for the soundtrack and the decoration of the venue.
Mind Your Budget
The biggest issue you need to look out for is the budget. Luckily, virtually any idea that you have in mind has a luxurious, as well as a frugal variant. However, some themes in this frugal variant don’t look as good and might require too much DIY work. Do you really have the time and energy for this in weeks just before the wedding? In other words, there’s nothing wrong with being budget-minded and using a budget as one of the determining factors when choosing a wedding theme. Sure, this is the most important day of your life, but it’s not the last one. Budgeting decisions regarding this day will potentially make a difference in your quality of life.
Make It a Part of Your Vows
Actions speak louder than words. Many people feel that they lack the words to properly express what their partner means to them (even though they’re just getting married), which is why you could go for a nice gesture. Sure, telling your partner that they’re definitely the one is always a great idea, but why not show them through the ceremony?
Instead of making your own ideal wedding, why not focus heavily on making one of their dreams come true. They must have an obsession of their own, an item on their bucket list, someone they would like to attend, even though they believe it’s impossible.
When it comes to the wedding theme, you don’t have to choose one thing and stick to it no matter what. Instead, you can diversify a bit and find a compromise with your partner. After all, any relationship is supposed to be a compromise, so why not.
To make the long story short, the decision-making process when it comes to choosing the perfect wedding theme comes down to doing an elaborate personality test. What kind of wedding do you want? What is your favorite form of entertainment? Do you have a lifelong obsession that you want to introduce into the wedding (thematically)?
Once you know the answers to all of these questions, you will have the outline you need. It all comes down to working out the details and making your plan come to life from that point on. Sure, this is the most challenging part of the task, but it is impossible to execute until you know exactly what you want.
About The Author
Stacey is a freelance writer living in Minnesota with her cat, and she’s passionate about yoga, languages, home improvement, and drinking strong coffee. Find her on Twitter @StaceyShann0n