I hope one day soon, you realize how damaging it is for her to hear ‘no’ from you all the time.
What you don’t seem to realize is that when you try and control every aspect of her life, every decision she makes, you’re teaching her that she doesn’t have a voice. You’re making her think her thoughts and opinions are useless and she shouldn’t trust her gut. And you know what happens when you steal someone’s right to make their own decisions?
They lose their sense of self and fuck up, big time. She doesn’t understand the power of her actions, she doesn’t know how impactful one minor decision can be. And when she does learn that, it’s going to be the hard way because you wouldn’t allow her to learn the easy way, the way every other little girl got to.
Without even realizing it, you’ve raised your daughter to hate herself. She can’t trust her gut or other people for that matter. Every day she wakes up overwhelmed by self-doubt, unsure how she is going to be able to handle everything life throws at her.