4. Never abandon your needs.
It’s very normal to abandon your needs in a toxic relationship in the effort to keep it. But when that happens, we hand over our whole self-worth and significance to another person, and before we know it our mood and happiness becomes entirely dependent on them.
This is also when we start to fall out of love with ourselves, and then our lives. The truth is you’re going to be more than okay – there is so much light and happiness ahead if you chose to let go and walk away from people who are not appreciating you.
5. Don’t play the victim.
People sometimes suck and life gets kind of complicated. And no matter what anyone says – we’re all kinda lost in this whole life ordeal, we’ve all been through some shit. But we’re not victims. We’re in total control of how we react to a situation.
When things got tough, just roll up your sleeves and get tougher. People will be shitty – and you have to understand that people’s shittiness is almost always much more about them than it is about you. You can’t let other people’s thoughts and actions affect you so much; you are only responsible for yourself.
If you don’t feel happy around a person, if this person doesn’t support you or lift you up, don’t spend time with them. It really is that simple.
6. Stop dwelling on the past.
You cannot move forward with your life with one foot on the brakes. Refuse to entertain your old pain. We all do the best we can; life happens and certain painful experiences will shape you and teach you much more than a happily ever after ever could.
Understand that some love is meant to change your life rather than give you someone to grow old with – when your heart is broken open, new light gets in. Embrace it. The energy it takes to hang on to the past can hold you back from falling in love with your life right now.
