11.
If you genuinely apologize to me, ever, we’re going to be buds.
Another one is if they show trust with me that shows me that they hold values that are trustworthy. For instance:
If you’re eating together, and they get up and leave their delicious food unguarded and say “It’s OK, I know you’re not going to steal any of my fries.”
Something to that effect shows that they’re conscious about trust and trusting somebody else shows that they believe a general state for people is being trustworthy, which is a reflection of themselves.
12.
Being polite with restaurant employees.
13.
When they listen, without waiting for their turn to speak.
If they defend someone, in their absence.
Someone who appreciates your company and reaches out to you, without an agenda.
14.
When they take the effort to remember your name the first time.
15.
When they keep eye contact when talking to you.
Trust me, I used to not look at people’s eyes when talking to them, I glanced over, then looked at their mouth, looked around, then back at their eyes… Basically breaking eye contact constantly. Then I read about it and started putting constant conscious effort to look directly at their eyes, and honestly, it isn’t that bad after you’ve done it enough.
It might be coincidence or something else, but I feel people get more engaged in conversations with me now rather than before.
16.
Self deprecating humor. People that can laugh at themselves are usually honest.
17.
When they remember what you say, shows that they were listening.
18.
When they’re honest with me even though it’s hard.
19.
When they always pay back on time.