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20 Reasons Dating Gets Better after College

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Yeah, ok, maybe you found your one-true-love in college. But the rest of us found college dating a little… less than fairytale-perfect. Unless your fairytale involves booty calls at 2am. If you’ve been drowning in internet think pieces on how romance is dead and modern dating is a snake pit of uncertainty and despair, you can rest assured that it gets better:

  1. You can go on actual dates. Not like, let’s study together! Or, hey, want to go to Chipotle with me and my five roommates? You can go on dates at restaurants with tablecloths.
  2. College is full of boys. Outside of college you can occasionally find men.
  3. Look, I mean boys are great. Boys are learning the guitar. Boys want to road trip to music festivals and just live life. But men have, like, jobs. And you’re not embarrassed to bring them home to your parents.
  4. There are so many people in the real world. Even if you’re on the biggest of campuses, the dating options tend to thin with each year.
  5. And by senior year it gets hard to find dudes in your immediate social circle who you don’t have… uh… history with.
  6. Not being constantly surrounded by flames that have already burnt out makes it way easier to just date around. Without any exes giving you dirty looks from across the bar.
  7. Nothing kills the mood like falling out of your narrow dorm bed.
  8. Also, real world buildings usually have thicker walls than dorms. You don’t need your neighbors to know that much about your love life.
  9. So, yeah, there are double-standards everywhere, but it gets especially bad at college. Want to just have fun and sleep around? Slut. Want to wait for the right guy and be in a committed relationship? Clingy. And a prude. We just can’t win.
  10. Who told college boys to ignore texts for weeks and then send a drunken booty call in the wee hours of Tuesday morning? Not the most romantic movie.
  11. College relationships tend towards friends with benefits or effectively married. There’s not so much casual dating.
  12. Classes, homework, extracurriculars, campus jobs, more extracurriculars, friends, parties—when are you even supposed to have time to date in college?!
  13. Seeing your ex at the dining hall. Seeing your recent hook-up at the dining hall. Seeing your crush at the dining hall—with his new girlfriend. Oof.
  14. College house parties are fine if you’re just looking for fun, but garbage for actually meeting people and having a conversation. Also, who even wants to hear this house band’s cover of Thrift Shop?
  15. In the real world, if you want to go on a date before hooking up with a dude, you are usually treated like this is a sane request.
  16. In college, if you want to go on a date before hooking up with a dude, you are usually treated like an unreasonable puritan trying to ruin everyone’s chill party vibe.
  17. There is no looming expiration date of graduation in the real world (well ok, this could be a plus or a minus, depending on how much you’re into the guy).
  18. Also no more re-negotiating terms and conditions for every winter break, summer break, and that dreaded relationship killer, the semester abroad.
  19. The real world is more of a quality-over-quantity deal. As in, you might date someone because you actually have things in common, and not, y’know, because you live on the same hall or got drunk at the same time once.
  20. You’re older and wiser. It’s a cliché, but still. Freshman-you might have made Facebook stalking and analyzing boys’ texts a top priority, but it’s likely you’ve gained a little confidence since then. You know yourself better, and you’re making smarter choices (and now you only analyze texts when they’re really vague).

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