Dating can be a pretty nerve wracking experience. Sometimes we can convince ourselves that people we normally wouldn’t date if someone better were around, are very acceptable to date.
And sometimes we’re so nervous and worried that our first date will suck, that we make it seem a lot better than it is.
Here are 11 warning signs to take with you on your first date, so that you can judge if a second date would be a good idea or not.
- You have nothing in common – If you have nothing in common, most likely, you’re not going to last. If they take you to see a band that you’re totally not feeling, talk about all the movies that you just don’t understand, are a vegan when you love scarfing hot dogs by the pound…etc..etc..It’s probably not meant to be.
Even if the physical chemistry is great, it’s harder to manage a relationship where there’s no common ground. The last thing you want to do is wind up in silly arguments over which t.v. show to watch, or even worse, trying to convert each-others beliefs.
Even if your dates a looker, move on if you’re looking for something serious.
- They love themselves WAY too much – One time I went on a date with a guy who was on his phone the whole time we were together. In between texts and calls, he insisted that I take pictures of him (by himself) next to various buildings and signs…. I gave him the benefit of the doubt, claiming he was ‘artsy’ and ‘social’… and we started dating.
Long story short, we didn’t last very long because of his deep love for himself. DO NOT make the same mistake my friend.
If your date is hitting up other people on their cellphone while you’re hanging out, insisting that you go everywhere they want, and making you snap selfies of them, there is probably a good chance that they’re not going to be able to love you in the long run.
Cut it off while you can before it’s too late!
- They’re not over their ex– If they cant stop talking about how horrendous their ex was and how “they were so horrible”, know that there are two sides to every story.
They might have driven their ex to that state, and might not be as squeaky clean as they make themselves out to be. You don’t want to be the next “crazy ex” if you decide to date this baggage nightmare, nor would you want their emotional baggage to interfere with your relationship.
Let them take time to heal and move forward. Check this one off of your partner candidates list. stat!
- They want too much too soon – Oh the dreaded date that winds up making you feel like they’re expecting fairy tale true love tonight, and wedding plans on date two.
All you wanted to do was have some coffee and a nice chat, maybe go check out some cool museum. This ones a tricky one, because the obsessive types can be quiet at first. If they’re already talking about where to go on date two…or 6, bring up the thought of kids or marriage, start talking about how it seemed so “meant to be” that they met you, or just straight up ask you out…this could be a fair warning that this person is way too clingy or obsessive.
You don’t want to jump into a relationship before you don’t even know someone, especially with someone who expects so much from you.
- They’re insecure – So much gel in that guys hair that its completely solidified? Shorts that are so short they could be confused for a thong? Yep. They could be insecure. A little insecurity never hurt anyone, but keep an eye out for a lot of excuses, a lot of apologies, or asking for you not to judge them over something simple, like the way they eat their soup.
Dating an insecure person can lead to jealousy issues, co-dependency, and a very drained you! Let them go gain confidence elsewhere. Ain’t nobody got time for that.
- They’re just a jerk – If they’re talking about that “ugly guy” from across the room, or gripe about your waiter over something small, eventually they’re going to be an ass to you.
Then the endless fights will consume your life and have you wondering why you were ever “interested in that terd of a human being.” If they make some snarky comments, drop em.
- They’re not ambitious – Hey. If you’re not ambitious and you want someone to lay around with, by all means, go for it.
But I feel that most could agree that they don’t want to date 28 year-old Sam or Samantha, the person who lives in their moms basement, doesn’t have a car, goes to high-school parties, and lives off of cheese whiz because they don’t have a job.
If they’re not going anywhere, they’re surely going to hold you back, so watch out for that no-good Cheesewhiz Sam.
- They’re players – If they’re gawking at other candidates too much to look at you, flirting with the waiter, are on the phones consistently, or they’re openly talking about their crazy life as a sex-crazed heart-breaker, DITCH EM!
- They’re psychos – ” I knew my shrink was right when they told me I should take a chance with you.” Uuuuhh. No! Let’s not get into that one.
- They’re overly-agreeable – They’ve admitted to loving the same movies as you but can’t manage to talk about their favorite scenes.
They ordered the same food as you, and if you disagree with an opinion of theirs, they give you the upper-hand and switch it to your favor. If someone is so unsure of themselves that they have to agree with everything you say, you may not be very happy when you find out that they’re a completely different person!
- You can’t laugh about anything they think is funny – Having a similar sense of humor is such an important component to having a good relationship so that you can lighten the bad days. If you’re not feeling their love of Jeff Dunham stand up and their corny list of one-liners, you may not have met your match.
