You see her amidst the masses, and regardless of what she looks like, you can’t help but to notice that this girl stands out from the crowd. There’s just something different about her. “But what is it that makes her stand out?”, you wonder, as her eyes catch your gaze..
She’s that girl that’s always doing something on her own terms, in her own special way, regardless what anyone thinks. And she’s perfectly happy with that. She marches to the beat of her own drum, not for attention. But simply because she wants to.
Here are eleven things you should know before pursuing this totally awesome independent lady…
- She doesn’t play around with her relationships – She doesn’t really give a flip if she fits in or not, and so she doesn’t seek out just any kind of relationship. When she makes a special connection with someone, its really special to her. So when she makes an effort to put in time to talk to you, or keeps tabs on how you are, she really truly appreciates you and admires you.
- She’s independent – Since she’s so set on forming her own personal relationship with the world and trying to understand how she fits into it, she’s quite a busy lady. Because of this, she won’t cling to you relentlessly if you make it official. She actually loves to have her space, and so you’ll have to give her plenty of it. She’s determined to be her own woman, and wants you to support the fact that she has separate goals AND a separate life from you. Don’t expect couch cuddles every day and date nights six days a week. She will start to feel anxious or confused if her partner doesn’t give her enough space to plan her goals, do her own thing, and continue discovering herself.
- She’s open-minded – Because she listens to her own intuitions, she can be quite the risk taker, which means that this lady has been through many ups and downs. She knows what its like to lose HARD, and also what its like to have that ‘3am epiphany’ that sends her running in the right direction. She is oh so passionate, and she knows that in order for her to make it in this world, she has to be open to different perspectives. She wants to hear your views and let them sink in to see if they resonate with her personal outlook and philosophies, as well as help her on her travels through life. 🙂
- Blending in is a huge turn off – This girl is turned on by people who do what they want, simply because it makes them happy, and is extremely turned off when someone seems too eager to blend in for the sake of approval. That doesn’t mean she’s going to fall for every blue haired person with tattoos, nor does it mean that she won’t fall for the guy who wears a white tee and blue jeans every day. The “different” kind of person she desires doesn’t seek attention by adorning themselves in decoration or rebelling for the sake of shaking things up a bit. She wants someone who genuinely accidentally stands out from the crowd, and feels comfortable with that. They don’t brag about their eccentricities, but they’re just cool with doing their own thing on their own terms, and not allowing anyone to get in the way of that.
- She’s not gullible – Quite the contrary, she’s actually as sharp as a tack. Although she soaks up the philosophies and stories of those around her quite carefully and sympathetically, she has a special filtering system that won’t allow B.S. to seep through to her heart. She chooses to be socially detached so that she can protect her own values and follow her individual path. And since she values her short time spent on this earth, she only lets certain people close to her heart, and she doesn’t mind having a small squad of totally awesome genuine people over a large amount of acquaintances. Don’t try to play this lady, because as soon as she senses foul play, she won’t mind going off into the sunset on her own. (after all, shes used to it)
- She appreciates your eccentricities – She knows that she’s not perfect, but since she appreciates the importance of embracing individuality, she won’t be surprised nor disgusted when you tell her your dirty secrets and bad habits..She will actually appreciate them, and praise you for your uniqueness and willingness to share that part of yourself with her. So don’t be afraid to talk about things that you feel could make you look stupid. Its attractive to her when someone isn’t afraid of being vulnerable. Brave, in fact..and that’s pretty hot.
- Just because she supports your differences, it doesn’t mean that she lives the same way you do – It can be confusing to know just exactly what this girl is up to in her free time because she is so accepting of everyone. She is a firm believer in motivating people to do what makes them happy and she can also empathize with people to a significant degree. And so even if you binge drink and party every Saturday, and she’d rather stay in with a few close friends, or you’re a hot-dog lover and she likes sushi, she can still empathize with you and wont judge you for doing whatever makes you happy. Just don’t start to think that she has a similar way of life or try to pin a certain label on this girl. She desires to express her individuality in anyway she wants, and since she loves to experience, she’s likely to break any stereotype that you may try to set on her. She’s experienced a lot and has tried a lot of things, and will always aim to do just that. And so just because she went mountain climbing last weekend, it doesn’t mean she does it every weekend. She’s just living life in each moment, with her heart and by the seat of her pants. Labels don’t make sense in her world.
- She’s a dreamer AND a do’er – She doesn’t play around with small talk. This girl has goals, and lots of em. When she sets her mind on something, its hard to get this girl to stop reaching for it…no matter how long it takes or how many times she fails. She knows when something feels right, and she will strive with all of her might to get what she wants until she has it.
- She has high expectations – This girl wants to do EVERYTHING. She loves to experience life for herself, rather than for the masses, which is beautiful. But since she wants to learn and experience all there is to know, she can put A LOT on her plate at once. If she does this, remind her that she can’t always be superwoman, and remind her that she should focus on one thing at a time. Don’t allow her to persuade you into thinking she can do it all, (because with her enthusiasm, she’s pretty good at it.) Tell her to finish the semester before she writes her novel series, and remind her that she has plenty of time to do everything she wants, and to set one goal at a time. She will appreciate you for helping her realize when she deserves a break, as well as keeping her focused on one goal at a time.
- She’ll help you succeed on your own terms – If you have a dream or a personal ambition, this girl will be your personal cheerleader! She knows that anything is possible, and will go out of her way to motivate you to do exactly what makes you happy. She hates to see anyone feel tied down or stuck doing something they hate, and truly believes that willpower and perseverance can help one achieve anything their heart desires. Leave it to this lovely lady to lift your spirits when you’re feeling the need for personal motivation.
- She learns from her failures – She dreams of betterment and looks at the world as a place of great opportunity, and so this wise girl knows that she can’t repeat patterns that have put her in a bad place before. She values her time in the world, and wants to be all she can be. So you best believe that this lady will always be surprising you with her strength and dedication!
