We’ve all been in that place where life becomes stale and hard, sprinkled with a solid serving of boring. Whether it be from a breakup or just lack of investing time into yourself, it doesn’t matter, it sucks either way.
Trying to keep up with social media suddenly feels like a burden, even the things you used to enjoy doing have become chores and you wake up everyday with no motivation because your mind is just plain exhausted of well, everything. You’ve pretty much fallen out of love with your life. But falling back in love with your life doesn’t have to be a huge journey. In fact, it’s simpler than you think.
Spend some extra more time with yourself, just hanging out.
Going to the movies or having dinner by yourself isn’t as lonely or sad as it seems. It’s actually a fun opportunity to get to know yourself by reflecting who you were and who you are now. Healthy alone time is spending time gathering your thoughts and knowing who you are in an intimate way.
Do the things you never have time to do.
For every time you say I’ll do that when I have the time, just do it. Whether it’s reading a highly recommended book or going to the city to see a play, make time to actually do it. Especially if you know in the back of your mind that you won’t have time to. The more you make excuses the sadder you are that you didn’t do it.
Compliment random people throughout your day.
Most of us have had that awkward moment of wanting to compliment someone’s outfit but not doing it because we don’t wanna seem weird or creepy. But complimenting someone’s style when you pass them on your way to work, will not only make their day but yours too. Spreading positivity in someone’s life, especially someone you don’t know, will help spread some in yours because positivity is contagious.
Do the things that scare you shitless.
It could be something as small as asking a cute person that you see in a cafe out on a date or as big as bungee jumping. Either way, gathering that small seed of courage to take the plunge will not only make great memories but boost your confidence. And if it goes bad… well, it’s like what Marilyn Monroe said, “I’d rather regret the things I did than the things I didn’t do.”
Catch up with old friends and clean out the negative.
Discussing the ratchetness that was high school with an old friend will remind you of the good times you can always fall back on. It also helps to reconnect with friends you drifted away from. Sometimes it’s scary putting yourself out there, but after cleaning out your negative friends you can make room for new positive ones.
Go out of your way to make a new friend.
Ever felt the urge to talk to that one person at work who keeps to themselves? Go for it. Asking them to have lunch or coffee might be the key to breaking their shell or letting them know that they’re in good company. You might just meet your work wifey.
Challenge yourself to befriend people you don’t care for.
A toughie, I know. But there’s always a story behind a story and that story could be the reason why the person you can’t stand has such a stick up their ass. Getting to know them a little can bring a truce between you guys and take away the unnecessary drama in your life. And who knows? Maybe they’ll change from it.
Tell someone to shut the fuck up.
It can be nerve-racking to tell a catcaller to stop with the yelling or defending someone being harassed at work. But once you become that rare person, it not only creates change, you also get this boldness you never thought you had. The more you stand up for things and people the more you have to live for and stand for.
Find a reason to get dressed up classy AF and post a pic on Insta.
Don’t be afraid to go to that house party or club pretty on fleek. Allow yourself to show off your beauty no matter how conceited it may seem. It’ll help you be more comfortable in your own skin. Feel like your work out is paying off? Show it off on Insta. You will be surprised how many people will stand behind you.
Continue to build those relationships that faded.
Most of us have been in that kind of relationship when you meet a new friend and try to make time to grow with them, but because things get so busy, you both fall off the grid with each other. Returning to that relationship will help them to know they’re not forgotten and also make things less awkward when you bump into them. A quick text or call once a week is a God send. You never know how much they might need you.
And close the loves that were “almost.”
Almost relationships are not a walk in the park, which is why the best way to deal with them is to find closure. Don’t be afraid to silence the question of what the hell are we? Just ask and seal the deal. If the past tries to walk back in… shut the door. Most times there are reasons it didn’t work–– things don’t magically change.
Write a letter to your past and burn that bitch.
Because that way, letting it go becomes final. Writing away those past experiences that held you back in life, closes the door on them. You no longer have to go back because you’re now moving forward. Burn that paper and let it go for good.
Listen to your favorite song on loud and dance in your living room.
Turn the music up and set yourself free to clear your head and rock your body. No one will be watching unless you leave the curtains open. Hello, annoying Christmas music.
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