This year has taught me Alot of lessons through bad situations. From friends, to now ex friends. From being married to now separated.
It’s true that when you go through the hardest parts of your life you learn Alot about yourself, and the people around you.
People you thought were going to be by your side left, and people you push away thinking they would give up too Are the ones who stayed.
Life is curious and strange.
One day it feels like you just can’t take anymore heartache or pain, but still the next day you wake up and push through it all.
I learned that you can’t trust everyone. You have the people who hear you and gossip being your back, and then you have the people that listen to you, and give you advice to help you up after you have fallen.
I learned to pay better attention to my surroundings. You would be surprised how much you can learn by listening to people talk. It’s in that moment that you can tell what type of person they are.
I learned that when you see red flags, they don’t lie. And neither do your gut feelings. If you pay good enough attention people show you exactly who they are even if just for a moment.
I learned that I am worth more than someone else’s broken view of me like looking at my reflection through a broken mirror. I’m not broken, the mirror is.
Pay attention to who you let intrude into your deepest emotions. If you’re vulnerable to a narcissist, they pretend to care but instead feed on your emotions and use it later to make you feel less than whole.
You are worth more than that.
If you are in an abusive relationship whether it be emotional or otherwise I encourage you to get out. They will never change. They will never care. They will never stop chasing what they want and won’t stop until they get it, even if that means destroying you in the process. I’ll say it again.
YOU ARE WORTH MORE THAN THAT!
So go out there be independent and learn to love who you are regardless of what they think of you. Happiness and beauty depends on the person viewing it. You can be the judge of your life. Stop and smell the roses. Take the longer drive through town to finish your favorite song. Dance under the stars with the person you love, and appreciate the ones who are truly there for you.
Lastly , Love yourself.
You are not replaceable. Xoxo