This article is for all the girls who have been in a situation where a guy with a significant other expects you to be his “side chick”. I’m writing this to tell you to never settle to becoming this girl and that you do deserve better.
1. It only feels good for a second
It only feels good when he’s with you or talking to you. But when he’s not, then what? I know it can feel better half-way being with him than being alone but is it really worth the Friday nights when you’re out with your friends and you see them together? Or the 6 month anniversary Instagram she posts that makes you feel like absolute shit? Or the moment when you’re together and she calls and he leaves because he chooses her? He will continue to choose her over you every time because in some way, he still is committed to her. The small moments of happiness and pleasure don’t amount to the times that make you feel terrible, about yourself or the other girl in the situation.
2. You are only tearing yourself apart
When you’re out with your friends and they start talking about guys they’ve been dating and hooking up with, then what do you say? You have to lie and say you haven’t been seeing anyone because they all know his girlfriend or you just don’t want your friends to know what you’ve been doing. In your head you know that you are not doing the right thing by being this other girl. You’re letting your heart make these decisions for you that are tearing you apart. Its tearing apart your integrity. You are a good person; you’re honest, caring, loving, a good friend etc. But your heart can make you do things that contradict all of the good aspects of yourself. Slowly but surely you’ll start to feel this tearing apart of your heart, and it won’t feel good. The battle won’t stop and eventually a decision will have to be made.
3. He doesn’t deserve you
He doesn’t deserve you, he doesn’t deserve you, he doesn’t deserve you. He doesn’t deserve her either, honestly. He’s lying to her consistently, he doesn’t really care about her or he wouldn’t be with you at the same time. Is this someone that you actually want to be with? Probably not. Who’s to say he wouldn’t do the same thing to you if you two were to date? As much as he could tell you you’re special and the one, he is telling her right now.
4. You deserve better
You deserve so much better. You deserve to have someone that will choose you and only you every single day. You deserve someone that will take you out on weekends, show you off to his friends; not someone who keeps you hidden so no one finds out he’s talking to you. That someone is out there, and eventually you will find them. No matter how much you want to meet your person now, it will happen if you’re just patient. You are an amazing person and deserve much better than the guy who’s asking you to be the other girl.
So girls, keep your head held high and never settle to be the other girl. It’s not worth it, no matter how he makes you feel or what he says to you. You are a strong, independent girl who deserves the world. Keep your focus on you and the right things will fall into place. Demand the best and you will get it. Never settle, ladies.
