Today’s dating world is full of booty calls and being ghosted. Everyone is searching for ways to find the perfect man. We swipe right and left with no real idea how to even begin the journey of finding that mythical ‘one’. I spent most my dating life approaching it the wrong way. Two years ago, I put down the dating apps and took a new route down the dating road and found that unicorn everyone always talks about. Here are five simple tweaks you can make to finally take the bull by the horns and steer yourself in the right direction.
Spend some time just doing your own thing.
Get the hair cut you’ve always wanted. Go from brunette to blonde. Get your nails done. Buy that new outfit. You need to do something just for you. Get to know what you like and get a style that is all your own. Once you’re truly happy with yourself you’re ready to get out there. Let’s face it ladies, if you aren’t happy with yourself how can you expect a man to be?
For the love of God, put down the phone.
Do not call, text, message, snap, or Instagram him first. If he is interested he will communicate with you, I promise. You don’t need someone in your life who just feels obligated to respond to the message you sent them. You deserve someone who wants to talk to you all day every day for as long as you let them. Be in control without being first.
Do not accept a same day invitation.
Sure, he messaged you first but asking ‘Netflix and chill later?’ isn’t as romantic as you make it out to be in your mind. Avoid being the booty call. All of you ladies deserve a man who wants to plan on seeing you two or three days from now. The same day invite probably means you were a last resort or he just wants to get some and get gone. You are better than that.
You cannot change a man.
Beautiful on the outside but wounded on the inside always seems like a good idea. The vision of being able to heal those wounds and create a better man is the worst pair of glasses to put on. You can’t change anyone, not even your friends, your family, or a man. Change comes from within and is something that shell of man can only do for himself. Don’t become the mat outside his broken home because there are men out there who are already renovated and ready for something promising.
Do not slide into home plate right away.
You got the guy of your dreams (yay) and now you want to ‘lock him down’. Put on the breaks friend. Wait to do the deed. I always say three months is the way to go but do what feels right. You don’t want to rush into the firework show while the barbeque is still going on because he might call it an early night after that. A real man will be open to waiting however long you want and be there after he hits that home run.
