As stressful as long distance relationships may be, there’s actually plenty of good that can come from them, if you look at things the right way.
1. You learn to communicate.
In relationships where you see each other everyday, you can pick and choose when you want to talk, because there are other ways of spending time together. You can go on dates, watch movies, simply cuddle up and go to sleep…. In a LDR, none of those are options. Your only source of “spending time together??? are your conversations. You become comfortable enough to talk to each other about any and everything, and there are no secrets. You learn to communicate with one another, because you have no other choice if you want your relationship to last.
2. You establish an unbreakable trust.
Believe it or not, having a ridiculous amount of miles between you and your significant other helps you develop a great amount of trust for them. You don’t “wonder???. You know in the back of your mind at all times that this person is willing to be with you through the distance, when they could easily be with someone they could see and spend time with everyday. Instead, they chose you, and there’s obviously a reason why.
3. Arguing is rare.
When you have so many miles between you, theres not much to argue about. There will be the occasional spat, but that’s about it. It will usually be over something like one of you seeming grumpy over the phone, or being too busy to actually sit down and talk for what the other considers an adequate amount of time, but it’s rarely anything serious. The times that you get to speak to one another are precious to you, and neither of you want to waste them on something silly like arguing. Which leads me to number four….
4. Your presence is never taken for granted.
In a LDR, time spent together is obviously rare. When you do see each other after a few long months, there is nothing in the world like it. Finally feeling their arms wrapped around you after missing them for so long is quite literally the best feeling in the world. Because you don’t have much time together, it is never taken for granted. Sleep is even rare, because you don’t want to waste a second that you have with them. They are your sole focus, and you are theirs. There is nothing and no one that is more important within your time spent together.
5. You can do absolutely nothing together and enjoy it.
During visits, you don’t have to do a thing. You don’t have to go out, you don’t have to spend money, no adventure is necessary. Your adventure is right there next to you. It’s incredible how wonderful it is to just lie next to your significant other in bed, cuddle, have your hair played with, and do absolutely nothing. These really are the most meaningful moments of all. Just getting to be a “normal couple??? for a little while.
6. You plan your future together, whether you realize it or not.
Trips aren’t planned overnight. Everything has to be put together months in advance. Planning a trip and paying for things 5-6 months in advance is the two of you mutually agreeing that you’re confident that you will still be together and perfectly happy when that time comes. That’s something a lot of relationships lack these days. Also, if either of you has set a goal to relocate to where the other is, that is definitely planning your future together. That is one of you changing your life around, to be able to spend it with the other. That means a lot.
7. You learn that it’s okay not to be together all the time.
This one is definitely a perk. We’ve all had that friend that is in a relationship, and has had their head lodged permanently into their significant others ass since day one. You won’t ever be that couple. You know that you both need your space and that it will not hurt your relationship one bit to have it. You have enough trust and comfortability established that being attached at the hip just isn’t necessary, or even wanted. You don’t have to post mushy crap on social media about each other every day to make sure others know that you’re together and happy, because you know, and that’s all that matters.
8. You can make it through anything together.
If your relationship can survive solely on phone calls, text messages and video chats, you can pretty much make it through anything. A “bad argument??? won’t be anything compared to the months at a time you’ve spent by yourself wishing you could be next to them. You will always make the extra effort to work through things because, as I said above, you won’t take each other for granted. Once you’re finally together, you will be practically invincible.
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