Since I’ve become newly single, I’ve met a lot of guys.
Though I make it clear from the beginning I’m not into the hookup culture, guys never fail to try to pull a fast one on me.
I will admit, sometimes they succeed. But I’m a fast learner and damn it, I’m catching on!
Through my dating escapades, I’ve begun to figure out what can determine a good guy with good intentions from a “good??? guy with bad intentions.
Disclaimer: The following list is no indication that your guy is using you for sex.
There are some guys that just don’t understand how dating works and they have no idea how to navigate it because let’s be honest, some men are just clueless.
But then there are also guys that know exactly how to steer the boat in the right direction – that’s who you need to watch out for.
So here they are my findings in the dating world for signs you might be on your way to being used.
1. He makes sure to tell you he’s a nice guy.
He’ll tell you how “different??? he is from every other douche bag you’ve dated. But if he’s a genuinely nice guy, he wouldn’t have to convince you of it.
2. He constantly talks about your body.
A compliment here and there is nice. But if it’s all he can talk about it – he’s not in it for anything other than sex.
You want a guy that compliments you on your personality as much as your damn fine physical appearance.
3. He doesn’t open up about his life at all.
If you’re doing all the talking and he still doesn’t open up when it’s his turn, there’s a good chance he’s hiding something or just doesn’t want to get too close.
4. He wastes no time making the moves.
It’s less taboo to have sex on the first date now and I’m all for it if you’re feeling it (Feminism! Do what you want with your own body!).
However, if he’s making the moves that quickly he’s in it for the sex.
And he doesn’t want to take the time to earn it.
5. He doesn’t wine and dine you.
Instead, he takes you out to drinks and meets up with you at a bar, or just gets takeout.
He’s wasting no time or money on someone he knows he won’t have stick around.
6. He doesn’t show you off.
Instead of showing the world what a beautiful couple you are, he’s hiding you away in his tiny apartment and never takes you out.
7. He makes empty promises and cancels plans.
There are some occasions where promises have to be broken and plans have to be changed but it’s when it becomes a pattern that you need to worry about it.
8. He doesn’t reply to your texts for hours.
If he’s posting Snapchat stories, watching yours, or liking your latest selfies without replying, you’re not on his priority list.
If they’re busy, they’re busy.
But if they wanted to, they’d find the time to send back a quick “I’m thinking about you??? text.
Again, only worry about it if it’s a pattern of behavior.
These warning signs are entirely from my own experiences with douche bags that claim, “I’ll never hurt you??? and “I’m different than those guys.???
Next thing you know, they use you and lose you.
I know we could all benefit from some help out there in the dating scene of our generation, so take my shitty experiences and use them wisely.
