In a world full of fuckboys, men scared of commitment, and serious douche canoes…. it's hard to know who's just playing a game, and who is actually here to bat.
It can get hard finding that diamond in the rough in a world full of dating apps. Plus, there's the constant fight to be more than friends with benefits. But there are still plenty of good guys buried in all these crap excuses for men. And when you find him, you'll know for sure.
1. He actually texts you on a regular basis, not just when he wants something.
You heard that right! There are actually men out there who know how to use a cell phone for something other than swiping left or right! It doesn't bother him to have a running conversation with you, or even check in and ask how your day is going.
2. He makes plans with you and, shockingly enough, he follows through with them.
I know, I know, I must be yanking your chain right? Again NO I'm really not! There are actually men out there who will make the plans themselves and consider your interests too.
He's not gonna take you to that douchey sports bar for those wings he loves because he knows you can't stand hanging out in bro central. He'll make plans that the both of you can enjoy, and make sure there's always something a little extra to surprise you.
3. He won't play games, he'll straight up communicate his issues and needs with you.
Even if he absolutely hates talking about his feelings, confrontation, or probably just verbalizing anything other than sports…he'll do it.
He know's it for the best and it's what you both deserve so you can keep moving forward. He would never want to put you in a position where you're in pain because of him.
4. When you're happy, he's happy.
Whatever he can do to put a smile on your face is all that seems to matter to him. Even if it's running to the store to grab that cliche combo of tampons, ice cream, and chocolate at midnight because aunt flow came to visit.
5. He's an actual gentleman.
Not just holding the doors and pushing your chair in kind…He's the one who doesn't immediately try to get into your pants. He actually wants to get to know the real you.
He wants to hear about your dreams, goals, and thoughts about anything and everything. He loves you for you, the physical stuff is secondary.
6. He never hides things from you.
He tells things to you without you having to ask. Whether he's kicking it with the guys or he's talking about his family and his past…he's completely open about it.
He wants you to know about him as much as he wants to know all about you. The connection between you two means the world to him, and he would never ruin it with lies or shady behavior.
7. He appreciates you — and he makes sure you know it too.
He doesn't take your presence for granted and is man enough to let you know it. Even if it's as simple as an "I miss you," or a daily "Good morning" and "Goodnight" text…he wants you to know he care's and he's there for you.
8. He comes back to you…even after you've been a crazy psycho lady.
This one is pretty self-explanatory. You're a real pain in the ass sometimes…but he's okay with it because you're his pain in the ass.
"I want someone who won't care that I'm incapable of sitting still. That I can't grasp the concept of cleaning and I refuse to be ladylike. Someone who realizes that half the decisions I make are usually ones I regret, and I have the right to overreact at any given moment. I want someone who knows how completely insane I am and he wouldn't want me any other way."
