Peacekeepers are great to have as friends. We won't judge you for your mistakes, we'll console you when you are down, and we will be open to trying new things with little to no complaint. We love to have fun and keep the peace!
But although we're strong and loyal people, we're not perfect and we definitely aren't not non-emotional superheroes.
We are certainly loving, loyal, forgiving, and comforting, and we will make some of the greatest friends you could ever ask for, but we have struggles like everyone else. And so here are some things peace keepers wish others would know about us in order to make our lives easier from time to time!
1. We don't always complain when we should.
Peace-keepers understand that everyone has stress, and so in order to maintain positivity for the masses, we often don't like to express our own stresses.
This can mean that we get a lot of crap bottled up inside. On bad days, instead of expressing our feelings, we wish that people would read our body language, ask us how we are doing, or just give us a hug.
Try to be aware of our feelings, and understand that we have stresses too even though we're always trying to play the positive peacemaker.
2. When we vent to you, it's a pretty big deal.
Since we don't vent a lot, when we do, it means that we REALLY need to, and if we're venting to you, it means that we REALLY trust you.
And so if we come to you asking for advice, please take it seriously, because it means that we care about you, and we've specifically picked you out of the crowd because we consider you a great person to seek advice from.
When we vent, we don’t vent to just anyone. We pick people who we trust with know-how over the topic of the situation because we want good results.
3. We should get paid for how much advice we give.
We won't judge most people for their rash decision because we like to believe that people can overcome their hardships and their past hurts.
We're also awfully great at consoling others. While we truly enjoy helping others, sometimes we get A LOT of people venting to us about their traumas (or petty issues). And so, we can get burnt out on being the therapist friend even though we love to be there for the people we care about.
It can really get overwhelming sometimes because we care so much, and so before you come to us vent, consider that we may have already consoled three other broke hearts that day (it happens), that we may need a break from being the therapist friend for a little while, or that we may have stresses that need to be tended to.
4. Sometimes we have a hard time saying no.
We really love to do favors for people, and enjoy doing things that make others happy. But sometimes we have a hard time saying no, and so we can wind up feeling overextended, or find ourselves in some really awkward/weird situations as a result.
Although we try and balance the people-pleaser in us, sometimes we will give in and consider your feelings over ours when we shouldn't.
This means that if we cringe when you ask us to do something, try and consider our feelings before taking our "suuuure..", as a bonafide "yes!" We will love you're ability to pick up on our discomfort and the fact that you're considering our feelings while we try to push through our indecision.
5. We will know it if you're trying to overstep your boundaries.
Peace-keepers know that they have to protect themselves, because most likely, we've dealt with a lot of people who have attempted to take advantage of us. So don't dare think that we're naive and try to take us for granted.
We have been around the block a time or two, and we actually have really good bullsh*t radars since we're sensitive people.
This means that if we come across someone who seems like they'd try to take advantage of us or take us for granted, they are instantly going to be kicked to the curb (in the most classy way possible of course.)
6. If we don’t like you, you may not know it!.
We aren't cool with being cruel, and so if we don’t like you, we're not going to tell you off or be an ass to you.
Most likely, we will play nice and/or avoid you as much as possible. And since we don’t like drama, we're also not going to post our feelings on Facebook or tell other people about it unless it's someone we can trust not to say anything.
If you're not great at picking up on social queues, then you may not know that we secretly hate your guts! If you feel that we don’t like you, don’t push us because most likely you'll just feel worse for being outrageous while we remained cool, calm and collected.
7. We always end up having boisterous friends.
A lot of people complain about how they wish they could "just find that nice guy/girl"…Want to find one of us? Well, my friend, it doesn’t take a treasure map.
We're almost always quietly giggling next to the dude/chick who's laughing like a donkey and starting the conga line. Loud/honest people appreciate us because we openly allow them to be themselves, and we appreciate them because they know how to break us out of our shells and liberate us from our sensitive sides.
We just work like that, you know?
8. Our friends won't let you walk on us.
We always seem to have this secret mafia of loud boisterous friends (mentioned above.) Since they know that we're easy targets for insecure bullies, they're fiercely protective, and will occasionally ask if they need to beat anyone up for us.
Most likely we wont allow it, but these friends always make it known when we need to stand up for ourselves, and are great at helping us through the process.
9. Just because we're all about peace, it doesn't mean we're weak.
Just because we're mild-mannered, it certainly doesn't mean that we're weak. If anything, it's quite the opposite. It only means we're strong, intelligent, controlled people who can see through petty irritations.
We pride ourselves on having integrity, we're good at seeing all sides of the equation, and we'd rather use our hearts and intellect to work through problems than raise hell about it. It also means that we have such great hearts that we don't mind to take take a punch over someone elses irrational mistake.
We believe that everyone should be treated fairly and we are in tune with the emotions of others. We don't like rash caveman-like displays of emotion or drama, and we know that there are logical ways to reason through anger and stress.
We also love to pep everyone up with compliments and cheerleading instead of drag them down with negativity. Because of our strength and positivity, the worlds happier, and so we are happier and proud of who we are.
