It can be difficult to know what to say to a NICU Mom, since it’s hard to even imagine what she is going through. Here’s a list of 9 things a NICU mom wants (or needs) to hear.
- He/she is so cute! Everyone likes to hear this. And hey, they are cute!
- You are a great mom. She may doubt this, so let her know that you think she is a great mom.
- You are a strong woman. We often don’t know our strength until it is tested. Let her know you think she’s strong.
- You are super mom. She is likely juggling 8,674 things other than her child in the NICU. That’s a super power!
- Everything you are feeling is perfectly normal. Validate her feelings. She may be questioning herself.
- You are not alone. The NICU feels pretty lonely. Remind her of her support group.
- It can help to talk to someone. Here are some people to try: NICU nurse, NICU social worker, outside therapist, your doctor, your child’s doctor, Priest/Pastor/Minister.
- Offer help with other chores – Can I bring you dinner? Can I take your other child(ren) for an afternoon? I am going to the store, can I get you anything? Life goes on and chores need to get done. Take the burden off of her whenever possible.
- Do you want to meet for a drink/meal/coffee/ice cream? Get her out of the NICU if she is willing.
Not all of these will apply to your situation. Use your relationship with the NICU Mom and your gut instincts to choose the best thing to say. But say something! She will always remember it.
