I know how scary it can be to start dating a guy and realize he spends 50% of his time with another girl. In this case, that girl is me. People have this idea that a guy and girl cannot be just friends, well there wrong and my best friend and I are proof of that. I want to start out by saying, I am not a threat.
However, with that said, I may be a girl, but I will protect him with my whole being. If anything were to happen to him, my best friend mode will instantly kick in and I will put him before myself in any situation. Saying I would take a bullet for him is an understatement.
I want to like you. I would even like us to be friends but in order for that to happen you need to see me as one of his boys and not your competition; I need you to promise to never tell him he cannot hangout with me. Trust me, I will give you two plenty of time together, fore I want time with my own boyfriend as well. However,I need a little best friend time every now and then.
Honestly, I just want him happy. I want that more that for him more than anything else in this world. I remember the day he called me about you. Asking my advice on what he should do. Should he give it a chance? Did I think you were pretty? Were you too young for him? I could hear the excitement in his voice and could picture the grin that went across his face when I told him you seemed great and to go for it.
He is my best friend, but I will have your back on many things. When you get mad at him when he keeps wearing that shirt from his ex, guess whose job it will be to explain why? I will help him plan surprises or the perfect date or how to say he is sorry. I will scope out that new coworker of his and warn him not to get drunk around her. I will help him pick out gifts and avoid getting that horrendous sweater he picks out. Trust me; I have been his accomplice in everything from trying to beat the same level on a video game for a week straight to preparing for his big job interview. Of course, I am going to be his accomplice in this too.
I need you to understand that yes, I do love him. Sometimes more than myself.
I love him as a brother. I care about him more than most, because he is a brotherly figure in my life. I smile and laugh when he does something stupid, I get emotional and swell up with pride when he accomplishes things, and I cry when something bad could or has happened to him. I worry when he does dangerous things. I get an overwhelming sense of joy when I am around him, because girl and guy best friend relationships are genuine and hard to find. I was there when he graduated from college and got his first real job. I was the one he called crying when his grandpa passed away. I was there through his last breakup and every horrible tinder date in between that and now. So do not panic when you see texts from me saying things like “Happy Birthday, I love you” or “Have a great day at work, love ya!” It is a sister brother type of love that is irreplaceable.
You should never let him go. I would never look at him in a romantic way, but his qualities are ones you should never let go. He has a tender side, as every guy should. He hugs me when I need it, or calls me when he senses something is wrong. He can make you laugh, without being insulting. He knows the perfect advice to give in situations. He is always the first to sniff out a bad guy when he sees one, but also gives people a chance when needed. He can set you straight and get you back on track, and be harsh when he has to. He does not sugar coat things and he knows how to hangout drama free and just have a goodtime.
There may be many you’s, but there always be a me. Who knows, you two may last forever. However, the one thing I do know is I will always be a part of his life. If you to ever break up, I am the one who’ll have to pick up the pieces. I will have to listen to him get weepy over every song that makes him think of you. When he tries to send you one of those pathetic I hate you-I miss you texts late at night, I am the one who will have to grab the phone out of his hands before he hits send. Throughout your relationship, I will automatically treat you like a sister, but he will always come before you to me, and I will always be in his life. I will love you like a fellow best friend, but just like those instincts, you hurt him, I hurt you. I am not in his life to be a threat to his love life, because I could not be happier when he is happy. As long as you make my best friend happy, you have made me happy.
With that being said, I will always accept you with open arms. My best friend has been my best friend, for many years. I only wish that no girl tries to take that away from me. I am not the type of girl, who gets jealous or tries to ruin relationships, I love when he finally gets a girl! I could be either your fave girl or your worst nightmare. I wish to have a relationship with you also, like doing girly things I cannot drag him to do with me. I hope you equally accept me, and understand I will always be here for you. If you ever needed advice on how to handle him, (it can be hard sometimes) or to just talk something out about what is going on, who better to know or understand than me. Because every girlfriend knows, when you date him, you also date his best friend. It is just a package deal.
I wish you two the best, because I love seeing him happy when he talks about you.
