Ever since you’ve become single, you’ve been jumping from guy to guy.
You haven’t allowed yourself a chance to breathe between relationships.
No time to adjust to being on your own, learning to enjoy your own company, or getting to know yourself.
You call yourself boy crazy, and you joke about it too but it’s time you’re honest with yourself… You’re lonely.
You can’t stand the fact of being alone. And I don’t mean watching a movie or spending a Sunday afternoon by yourself on the couch.
You can handle that.
You can’t handle the fear of not finding someone to spend your life with. You’re constantly on the hunt for “the one.”
Too scared to delete the three dating apps on your phone for fear that you might not swipe right on your future husband.
Too nervous to go out in public without makeup on because today might be the day you meet someone.
Too afraid to dance alone on the dance floor on Saturday nights, constantly looking for a dance partner.
It’s not like you haven’t been told the dating advice of the century: “Wait it out,” “Give it time,” and “It’ll happen when you least expect it to.”
It’s just that you haven’t had the nerve to actually listen to it yet. You can’t go a day without having a boy to text about what you’re up to and you can’t go a weekend without a date.
You’ve met countless guys but nothing seems to have made a good enough impression on you.
You know these relationships will go nowhere yet you continue to try to force them for the sake of curing your loneliness.
But until you’re ready, and I mean really ready, then none of these relationships will stick. You know that as well as I do.
As cliche as it is, you have to learn to love yourself before you can love someone else again. I know, did I really have to go there? But yes, yes I did.
It’s time to stop denying the fact that you’re lonely and you’re just not ready for love.
You know you’ve been through some tough shit when it comes to love.
You can’t heal over night. It takes time to learn about yourself again – you’ve changed since your last relationship and that’s going to take some getting used to.
So quit playing the games, texting the boys, and swiping right. Give dating a rest and spend some time with yourself until you’re truly ready to get back out there.
Remember, the loneliness isn’t going to last forever. So enjoy spending time with yourself until you meet your forever.
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