Speaking out on important issues like this one is absolutely pivotal to not only affecting change, but in showing others they are supported at a time when they feel most isolated.
But this is NOT an opportunity to shame one another. Anyone brave enough to speak out should be commended and uplifted; however, it is not a chance to berate those who choose silence.
Sexual assault is one of the most violating acts a person can experience; and it takes away a sense of privacy that cannot be replaced by a hashtag movement.
Different people deal with emotional issues in a variety of ways, and labeling their coping mechanisms as wrong or selfish is not in line with the claim that this movement is supportive.
So respect the decisions of the silent. Support their right to maintain the privacy that has already once been taken from them.
Support those who are comfortable speaking out to be a beacon for those who are still voiceless. Be a refuge for anyone who isn’t where you are yet.
Silence is not weakness and it is not antifeminist and it is not the problem, because victims are never the source matters like these. Don't let this movement force you to misconstrue the real issue.
Bold, silent, or anywhere in between, we are called to love and to uplift. So release the shackles of shame however you see fit—speak out to raise awareness and remember that there is no cookie cutter way to deal with a life-altering experience.
Just be kind.
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