There are moments in time when the yin and yang in life is clearly seen. Moments when you can see why everything unfolded exactly the way it did.
I am marrying a man that the map of this life we live has lead me too. The map laid out in such a way that there is no denying he's the man for me.
My love life has been less than picture perfect to say the least. Every relationship I have ever been in has lasted for at least a year, if not longer, and I thought I would be married by 21.
I had two wonderful relationships before I found the one- one a puppy love high school romance, the second a serious, intense relationship where love ended up not being enough.
After that second relationship I started dating another guy. He wasn't my type. He wasn't anything I wanted, but he was there, and I was lonely.
He was controlling to say the least. One day he moved himself into my apartment without me really wanting him to. I knew I wasn't ready but I couldn't stop him, I was at my nephew's first birthday party.
I walked into my to my home and it was completely rearranged, and I felt like I just had to say okay, after all I didn't want to lose another guy.
And just like he moved in without my knowledge, or my consent for that matter, he moved himself out.
After a year of living together he moved himself out while I was at work, and proceeded to give me the key back and tell me if he had left anything to just throw it away.
While he and I were dating we associated with a group of people who I didn't particularly care for them, I did meet one person who would change everything for me.
That person was Lauren, a girl my age dealing with MS. I had just found out that I had fibromyalgia and that lead to us talking about anything and everything.
I thought maybe out of all of these people in the group. I found someone I actually liked. Turns out I did.
She and I started hanging out outside of the group. We would go to dinner and hang out and vent and talk and it was exactly what we both needed.
She knew how unhappy I was in my relationship and she kept telling me that I needed to meet her friend, Ray. She thought I would get along so well with him and she told me what an amazing friend and person he was.
Well one day I decide to just go and visit Lauren at work. We're sitting there gossiping back and forth and who walks in but Ray.
I thought it was a set-up. I thought she had texted him or something because it was to perfect to be an accident, but that's all it was. It was by happenstance that I met my husband.
My abusive ex, his group of friends I never liked, lead me to one person that changed everything for me. That person is best friends with both my husband to be and me.
That person is going to be standing along side me as we say our vows in 2 months. That person changed everything and because of her and a random stroke of luck, I found the man that's my best friend and soon to be husband.
On our wedding day, when we have our first child, on our 25th anniversary, I will look at Lauren and remind her that "I have you to thank for that."