Ever since I was little, I would always hear people say "try something different."
That however isn't always the case, even though it has taken years for me to understand that.
This previous relationship I was in crushed me when it was over. He was so unlike anybody else I have ever been with, he wasn't someone I would have typically been with before. But I like everyone always says, tried something different.
For a while, it was really good. When we were in what I would refer to as the "honeymoon" stage where our relationship was fresh and new. As we began to get to know one another more, we realized we weren't much alike. It seemed to be okay though.
Time went on and months went by, and I began to realized that no we didn't have similar background and that was totally fine. It wasn't about where we came from it was about where we were going and what our plans for the future was, that's where problems arose.
We could tell that we didn't want the same things, as far as relationships went, or even as far as the future went. It did have somethings to do with our backgrounds, but mostly who we are as individuals.
When we first started out and even when we ended, I was still in love with him. I was so in love with him I tried to changed who I was in order to be what he really wanted. That was the worst thing I ever could have done. I left the person I was and wanted to be and tried to sacrifice for love. No love can ever last doing that.
It took me awhile to realize that we were just too different to ever work out. I couldn't move on because I was still just so in love, and I couldn't think of a valid enough reason for why we weren't right for each other.
Now, I know that being too different is validation enough. I am so much happier now that I realized that.
