You’ve got that old-school way of thinking when it comes to dating. You believe in one person at a time and that chivalry isn’t dead. You want marriage and children and a happy home.
You want the one person on your mind to be the only person you want to cuddle with and take care of you when you are feeling down and out. But being single today and trying to find someone who’s thinking aligns with yours, is nearly impossible.
Which can bring along a lot of loneliness and heartbreak.
You want to believe that he is only talking to you. That you have his full attention. That while trying to figure out if this relationship is going to advance any further, there isn’t another girl trying to figure out the same thing.
And because of that thinking, you are still shocked when all of a sudden he has a girlfriend. Normally without telling you.
This may lead to over thinking everything that went on between you two; “was I too nervous on that date?”, “did I not open up quick enough?”, “what made him pick her over me?”
You wonder if you should text them, but it’s not like you’d know what to say anyways. Or maybe if you just wait they will text you. But that never happens.
Then things get a little uncomfortable whenever you are out and bump into them. He tries to act like nothing happened or nothing is wrong when all you need is a little space.
In the end, your friends convince you he wasn’t right for you, you find a way to move on and sometimes you find a way to be their friend.
After a situation like this, you may think about changing your ways. Trying the multiple-guys-at-one-time way of dating and talking. But let’s be real, that sounds like an awful lot of work.
Texting one guy has you questioning what to say, and the thought of going on multiple dates with different people sounds like too much for you to handle.
And for anything beyond that, you don’t even understand the appeal of one night stands and those apps that tend to promote such actions.
You appreciate them for people who just want that type of relationship right now and you can see why they could be fun, but most likely you will not be found on one; unless “monogamy” works well as a bio.
You’ll stick with fate and hope that it brings someone to you. Or trust your family and friends, again, to set you up with that guy they know. Even though you’ve told them a million times to knock it off with the matchmaking.
Honestly, you’ve already succumbed to the idea of becoming a cat lady. You’ve even started picking out names for your future furbabies.
And while some may have a backup potential marriage candidate for when they are 35, you’ve come to an agreement with your best friend that instead you two would just buy a house together, adopt a lot of cats and drink a glass (or two) of wine every night without judgment.
Maybe then you will join one of those hookup apps to fulfill other desires. Which would practically be the only thing missing from this arrangement.
Maybe then you’d stop feeling like Charlie from that movie Good Luck Chuck. “One date with me and two weeks later you’ll have a girlfriend!” Is essentially the slogan about your dating life. Not exactly what you would like it to be.
Despite it all, you know deep down you will find the one who you are meant to be with.
Changing what you believe in and what you want will not make you happier or help you find that special someone quicker. It takes time, but it will most definitely pay off in the end.
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