Social media has become the scapegoat as to why love and relationships fail so frequently today. The excuses are countless, the arguments are senseless and the heartache is unbearable as those who have been scorn try to prove it’s all Instagram and Facebook’s fault. How “DMs” and private messages are the real issue, and whores posting their pictures on the internet for everyone to see is the downfall of faithfulness.
It’s a sad time to have a heart. We give in to foolishness and ignorance each time we blame the world for our partner’s mistakes.
For all those crying, “if social media didn’t exist, my relationship would have been fine”, I’m sorry, but you have never been so wrong.
True, temptation is found much easier today than it was twenty years ago. Back then your partner could look at videos or magazines that tempted their erotic fantasies, but there was no actual way to contact that temptation without leaving the comfort of your own home. Today, it can be anytime, anywhere. In a matter of seconds someone could be speaking to the scarcely dressed desire that they just scrolled passed. Cheating has become effortless.
With that, getting caught has become even more effortless. Text messages, call records, check-ins and likes are giveaways to betrayal. Because posting has become second nature, it is so easy to slip up and reveal unfaithfulness for everyone to see. So is social media really the problem?
No. Your partner is the problem.
See, there are millions of people who have pages across social media platforms and don’t cheat on their partner. People who don’t follow inappropriate things and who tell those that attempt to contact in comprising ways to go away. Chances are, if a picture led your lover to an inappropriate conversation or to cheat, then they would have eventually done it anyway.
You don’t f*ck up that badly when you’re really in love with someone. You don’t let whores or assh*les influence your decision to hurt the person you claim to love. You don’t let followers or success lure you away from someone you’ve made a commitment to; if you do then you’re wrong.
We can’t make excuses to give those who hurt us a way out. What’s wrong is wrong. If you can’t control your lust on Instagram, then don’t have one. If you get rude pictures on Snapchat, delete it. If someone is trying to get in between your relationship or is being unfaithful in theirs, block them. I know it’s hard to believe, but there was a life before comments and sharing.
If you have found yourself picking of the pieces after your partner left you broken, do not make excuses. If you were able to be faithful, why weren’t they? If you didn’t give in to temptation, why should they be able to use temptation or weakness as an excuse?
Protect your heart, open your eyes. If you can’t trust the one you’re with then you need to walk away. And believe me when I tell you, if they did it once, it’s ineveitable that they will do it again.
Social media is not the problem. The one who broke you is.
