Surrogacy is one of the best options for those couples who can’t have a child on their own. However, as with adoption, there are some pretty big myths about this way of having a child. The truth is that surrogacy is a perfectly acceptable way to have a baby, but many people still believe some pretty hurtful myths. Many are concerned about its legality and are afraid to deal with emotions involved in the process. Keep reading down below to learn more about these myths and get rid of them if you’ve bought into them.
1. The Surrogate Is Only Doing This for The Money
First of all, this myth just doesn’t make sense when you look at the actual compensation that surrogate mothers receive. They are not doing it for the money because the compensation comes up to about an average salary when you look at the time involved. Surrogate mothers come into the process knowing the medical risks involved, the time needed to bring this baby into the world, and what they are going through this for – to give a loving couple the baby they want and deserve. This myth that surrogates are just in it for the money just doesn’t hold up to scrutiny.
2. Surrogacy Isn’t Legal Where I Live, So That’s Just Not an Option for Me
Many people think that just because surrogacy is illegal where they live, that means that this is completely out of the options for them. However, that’s not true at all. There are plenty of places in the world and in the United States where surrogacy is protected under the law and you could work with surrogates there. True, this is something that you’re going to have to do some research on to see which countries will allow you to do this. However, the legality of surrogacy is no reason that you should completely throw it out the window.
3. The Surrogate Will Keep the Baby
Some couples are under the assumption that the surrogate mother is going to keep the baby after the entire pregnancy process. However, that myth is completely unbounded in truth. For years, surrogate agencies, couples, and legal experts have come up with agreements that ensured the baby will end up in the hands of the couple, you just have to go for the right agency to help you through it! Once the baby is born, that baby becomes the baby of the couple and not the surrogate mother. Sure, the mother can still have a relationship with the baby, but that is completely up to the couple to decide.
4. It’s Pretty Difficult for The Surrogate to Give Up the Baby
Now, this myth is going to depend on the couple having the baby and the surrogate mother. This is going to be an emotional time for everyone, but in a majority of cases, the surrogate mother has no problem giving up the baby to the couple. She is going to be brought into this agreement with the understanding that this baby is not her and will be the couple’s baby after he or she is born.
5. Surrogacy Is Just Unethical and Shouldn’t Be Done Because Of That
There is nothing unethical about surrogacy. This is a myth that has no grounding in reality. Sometimes it’s very tough for couples to have a baby on their own and surrogacy gives them the chance to have the baby of their dreams. Surrogacy has been undergone for decades, so there is no reason to think that it’s an unethical process.
And there you have it! If you had bought into these myths about surrogacy, then it’s time to get them out of your head. There is nothing wrong with surrogacy as an option for infertile couples.