Some girls' goals in life are to find the love of their life, settle down, and get married.
You spend your time tumbling out of one relationship into another, without a break in between.
If there happens to be a moment of singledom, you start to panic. You begin constantly throwing yourself at the first available person you see, compromising your standards and values just to keep from being alone.
You find yourself putting up with things that you said you never would, in the hopes that this might be your person.
You try to change yourself to fit into a mold that you're not, saying things like "well if I act like this, they'll love me".
But then you wake up and find that you don't know who you are anymore.
No more can you tell someone what you like to do, what your favorite things are, or anything significant about your life without referencing another person.
If your person leaves for the weekend, you're left floundering without a clue about how to spend your time.
All of your time you used to spend on things you enjoyed haven't happened in so long that you forget what they even were to begin with.
Maybe your SO breaks up with you, and then you're even more lost.
Now you're single and you have no idea how to survive. Your days are no longer spent living for someone else. You don't have anyone to text or snap and fill your feed with.
What are you going to do…?
You try to fill that void with people.
As humans, we all feel empty at some point in our lives. So we spend time trying to fill our hearts with stuff, hoping to feel complete.
For the girl that doesn't know who she is, this void is filled with loving someone else. But when they're gone, the hole feels larger than ever before.
To fill this hole, you might find yourself in an unworthy relationship.
Your new significant other is out late, drinking and partying with others, and sometimes doesn't come home. You hear rumors of cheating but pass it off as gossip.
They say mean things that hurt your feelings but when you try to stand up for yourself, they immediately say sorry to which you forgive, even if you know they're going to do it again.
This degrading cycle tears at your soul. It causes you to see less and less of who and what you can be in life.
You start to believe that you deserve this treatment. Or that no one decent is left so this will have to do.
You settle.
If you had taken time between relationships to grow and hang out with yourself alone, you would know everything that makes you special.
The things that are so amazing about you, anyone should feel lucky enough to be in your circle. You would know your self-worth and know what you will and won't stand for.
That way when you go off into the dating world you're looking for another person that complements you. Not someone that completes you.
We aren't half a person searching for someone to make us a complete person.
Rather, we should be a complete person that brings things to the relationship. Interests, personality, activities.
Because a relationship, like everything else in life, shouldn't be all that you live for. It should be a part of your life that you love along with every other thing.
