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Falling In Love Is Easy. Choosing To Stay In Love Is The Real Deal

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Over the course of time, you begin to realize that the person you fell in love with is not so perfect, and the true act of love, the true definition of loving someone, is loving those nuances as wholly and completely as you love their good traits.

We believe that we are separate from the rest of the animal kingdom because of our intelligence. We like to believe that we’re simply smarter than other animals.

The special thing about intelligence is that the more of it you have, the more you can cultivate it. 

Intelligence draws more intelligence. We also try to be intelligent with our idea of love. 

The primary reason you want to fall in love is because the idea of love makes you feel all nice and fuzzy. 

Even though it sounds unromantic, no love is entirely unselfish. 

Think about it. How can you know if you truly love someone when you barely know that person? You may think you know this person — that’s what love does to us — but you don’t. 

People think they fall in love all the time, but they’re not truly in love.

That last statement isn’t as contradictory as it sounds. 

You should think of falling in love as simply the beginning of something that could potentially shape your life. It’s just the starting point to what might be a beautiful love story.

But a starting point is all it is. Falling in love can lead to actually being in love, and being in love can lead to actual loving. 

And in order for you to love, you need to choose to love. You need to choose to be loving every passing day. You need to look at the person you’re with and choose to love that person all over again.

Falling in love may feel like it just happens. To an extent, it does “just happen.??

 But choosing to loving is voluntary. You must choose to do it. It won’t be easy. It’s easier when the person you’re with is right for you, but it isn’t always going to be smooth sailing.

How many couples split up because they “fall out of love??? How many of those couples could have made it work if they better understood love?

The truth is, you can’t fall out of love. You can only stop being in love.

Being in love is a passive state. It’s the bridge you have to cross to keep loving.

 You can’t love unless you’re in love first, but you can stop being in love before you make it all the way to actually loving. That’s really all there is to it.

When you choose to love — when you wake up next to this person for the umpteenth time — and for the umpteenth time you thank you universe as that person is still a part of your life, that’s love. 

You only love one day at a time.

With each new day, you restart the process — if you’re lucky enough. And if you’re smart, you’ll do this for as long as you possibly can.


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