Some of us are wired to stay and fight for everything when things get tough or uncomfortable. Then there are others that run from everything. These girls run from commitment, careers, people, responsibilities, etc.
But sometimes things come into their life that makes them want to stick around. Here are some things to expect when you're dating the girl who has the urge to flee:
When it comes to communication…
Trained never to text first, this girl won't be the first to put in the effort to talk to you. But after a few weeks, she will start to get comfortable with your relationship. Believing that you might be safe.
But be careful if you stop putting forth the effort you did in the beginning. The minute she believes she's putting in more effort, that's when she will start to pull back.
When it comes to relationships…
It's easier to be single because people only get as close as you let them. Now that she's met you, she's decided she wants to explore a relationship. She trusts you enough to let you in.
But be careful not to break her trust. Or she will revert back to her comfort zone quicker than you can blink.
When it comes to feelings…
Most of the time she suppresses her feelings deep within her to protect herself. Now that she's met you, she has all of these feelings that are new to her. Some of them she loves and others she's still trying to figure out.
But this is scary for her. If she suspects that the feelings aren't mutual, she will create a Plan B ASAP. Most of the time her plan will involve fleeing town or even the country.
When it comes to social settings…
Because she's scared of all of these feelings and being in a relationship, she's always watching you. She notices how you act with your friends, her friends. When you're alone together and when apart for long periods of time.
Be mindful of how you're treating her. Because she is.
When it comes to conflict…
She's not a fighter so any form of conflict will make her run. If she senses that the two of you are going to have a disagreement, she will change the subject or leave. If she can't do either, she will clam up and not talk to you.
Always be leery when your normally talkative girl gets suddenly quiet. She's probably suppressing her feelings.
When it comes to mind games…
Don't try to test your girl with mind games. She won't play back. If you text her something cryptic in hopes she'll ask, she won't play. She will just start talking to someone else. If you try to trick her into coming to a spot, she'll just run in the opposite direction.
Instead, be straight forward with her. She will appreciate this.
Relationships are challenging when you're meshing two lives. When you're dating the girl who runs from everything, always remember honesty and transparency are key. The effort is worth it because once you're in, you have entered a world of love and adventure.
