We have all been there at one point or another. As girls we give so much of ourselves to those we love and often we give more chances that necessary to prove that people can change. After he breaks our heart and shatters our world finding peace is hard. It can sometimes look impossible. When we often think of peace we think of the absence of conflict. Everything in our life becomes calm and stable. Its peace of the heart and soul. So here are a few things that could be stopping you from finding peace after heartbreak.
Unexpressed Gratitude. Be thankful for the things that have happened in your life. You have learned a lesson from your heart break. You have learned more about yourself and have found out just a smidge more who you really are. As hard as it is be thankful that you are learning from your mistakes. Be thankful that it happened now and not later. Be thankful for friends, family, jobs, pets, ect. What if your breakup was actually a gift?
You will find yourself becoming a little happier a day at a time because you are now seeing the goodness of the world again.
Unrealistic expectations of yourself. You have spent your time thinking about how you could be better. Smarter, funnier, prettier, whatever and maybe he would have stayed. Maybe then you would have been enough for him. You would have that relationship because you think you could be someone different.
You expect so much out of yourself and then adding the pressure of what someone else needs in their life is even more difficult. When you find yourself not living up to your unrealistic expectations you find yourself hurt, depressed, shamed, and frantic because these things only exist in your mind.
If you said those things out loud you would realize that they are just plain crazy. Say your expectations of yourself to your best friend or family and I bet they will tell you that you are being way to hard on yourself. It comes with good intentions but often it will carry unrealistic expectations. Do not resent yourself! You can not find peace in life if you are not at peace with yourself.
What if you loved yourself as much as you loved the person who broke your heart? What if you did those things for yourself?
You are wonderful! Change how you talk about yourself! So they reflect who you really are.
Unhealthy Motivation. He broke you and now your trying to prove that if you can just be the girl he wanted then everything will be okay. He will see how wonderful you are and how you made those changes and will come back to love you forever. Do not change yourself for the wrong reasons.
Sometimes when you start doing things for the wrong reasons they can turn into the right ones. This isn't always the case. He isn't guaranteed to see the change and come back to you. Do it for you! Make those changes because you want to better yourself not because you think it will get him to come back.
You can not find peace if you are selfish and what is in it for you.
I know you will find peace after the pain and time passes. When the peace comes over your life it is the most beautiful and wonderful feelings. It is like being set free from a cage! When you are at peace with your break up you are free to move forward with your life.
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