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For the Girl Who Blames Me for Her Breakup, It's Time to Open Your Eyes

Go ahead and keep calling me every dirty name you can think of “bitch,” “slut,” “whore,” just for being “the other girl.” I know it coming from a place of hurt and I need you to know I never had the intention of hurting you. 

I didn’t do it so you would get your heart broken, but I have a feeling you don’t believe that.

You think you know the whole story, but there are somethings you will never understand. I never wanted to be a “homewrecker.” 

I have tried to look at things from your point of view. And believe me, I fully understand every reason why you hate me. He was yours, I crossed a major line. If I could take it all back, replying to his texts and answering his calls I would. I should have respected you more. You marked your territory, and I was a trespasser.

But I can bet, you never once tried to see things from my point of view. 

I got a random message from a cute guy, apologies that my first thought wasn’t wondering if he was single or not. That’s not usually a question that has to be called in to consideration when a guy approaches a girl. I was more concerned with why he was messaging me and what his intentions were.

The bottom line is if he wasn’t single, he shouldn’t have messaged me. It was his job to not approach someone else, he is the one in the relationship. He played us both. He didn’t tell you about me, but he didn’t tell me about you either. I had to find out on my own, too. It wasn’t just a surprise to you, you know.

Truth be told, I replied to that first message because I thought he was cute. I thought he was single. I didn’t message back to ruin you and him, I didn’t even know there was a ‘you and him’ at first. Imagine my surprise when I finally take a look at the social media of the cute guy that has been hitting on me and I realize that he isn’t even single.

The worst part of being the “other girl” is knowing that you are judging my character and my intentions. I am not a bad person. I would never in a million years be with a guy who was taken. I know how it feels to get your heart broken, I would never wish that on another girl. I would never knowingly do that to you or anyone else.

When he approached me, I was open to the idea of finding love so I took a chance on him. You were just the collateral damage because he doesn’t know how to treat a woman. 

We both made a mistake picking him. He had me thinking he was single and had you believing he was loyal.

If anyone here is to blame, it is the guy who hid both of us from each other. We were both victims of his little games. Both hurt by his lack of loyalty.

I am not saying I am completely innocent in the situation, but I need you to realize that I am not solely at blame. Even after I walked away from him, you have been on a mission to make my life a living hell. Realize that I am human, I hurt too.

I thought I could trust him, I thought he would never lie to me either then I found out about you. This whole situation caused me pain, too. You are not alone in this, we have felt the same pain and cried the same tears. Yet, you are acting self-absorbed and can’t see past the pain it caused you.

You will never understand all the guilt I have laying so heavily on my shoulders. I never meant for you to get hurt in this. I never meant to be “the other woman.” So next time you feel the need to say something nasty about me, take a step back. We are on the same playing field girl. We were both played.