First dates are always heart-pumping and preparation for it can get a little nerve-wracking. There are a lot of what-ifs and unending questions that will suddenly pop out of mind. Getting worried can ruin a perfect night. Though there is no perfect template or rule to follow in dating. A casual flirting with another man is not in the books for everyone to read.
Dating with another man has no guidance, no structure, and no rules. However, even if dating gay men have no standards, but still, the positive thing about it is the spontaneity, individuality, and creativity of both individual. It can also create some stress and anxiety especially when at least one of them is a first timer.
In this article, it will help gay men survive the first date blues with the help of their confidence and preparations. And hopefully, the tips can ease some anxiety and boost some confidence to gay men going on their first date.
Boost Confidence and be Well-Groomed
Before jumping to the style and clothes to wear on the first day, gay men must not forget to put their attention on some parts of the body.
Be sure that before going to the date, the teeth are pearl white and properly brushed. Make sure the fingernails are neat, and the hair facial is neat or shaved away. There are times that some gays think that facial hair is not neat.
Take a bath and scrub some dead skin away, wash the hair properly and rub the pits properly to avoid any awkward situation after sweating. Body odor is a big turnoff to most of the people.
Keep in mind to spray some scent but do not overuse it. A little spray in the neck, chest, and wrist are enough to smell fresh. Sometimes too much perfume can cause a headache to other people.
Just make sure that the small details of the body are squeaky clean.
Be attentive to the one in front
During the first dates, the first impression usually is the make or break off the relationship. Always show respect and maintain an eye contact. If possible, do not let the eyes roam around the venue to stare at other attractive men.
Always let the non-verbal communication, body language and open posture work for the casual flirting. Keep the mind in straight thoughts and shut off any disturbing thoughts, and listen to his words.
Be attentive enough to listen and be active to share things. If possible, ask open-ended questions to gain more points and to elaborate any discussion. It will also help in stretching out the conversation. Just attract the other men with confidence and sense of humor.
Dress Properly and Appropriately
Never compromise the comfort of the first date just to have a fashionable look. Instead, stick to the fashion that is appropriate to the occasion and place. Even wearing a woman’s clothing is acceptable. Being underdressed or overdressed is the common problem that everyone faces during first dates.
Avoid clothes that will offer an uneasy feeling that will distract the other man while talking. Comfortable jeans or trousers plus a button down shirt and clean white sneakers can be a perfect go-to outfit for the first date.
Create a vibe that will highlight good features of the body. Try flaunting about the parts that are visually good and pleasing.
Even gay men like to pay attention to little details, and they also get a little discouraged on a worn look.
Wear a comfy and clean pair of underwear. Wearing good underwear is a woman instinct to put special lingerie on special days. It isn’t just because someone will see it but because it gives a sexy feeling. Be comfortable with the clothes you choose for under or outer.
Takeaway
Dating is indeed a daunting and nerve-wracking task especially that the education for dating lacks especially to gay men. There are no traditions or distinct roles to follow. The key to having a successful first date is to have fun and take everything light. Showing self-confidence can attract other men giving a higher success rate for the first date.
Remember that first dates also leave first impressions, and bad impressions can’t pursue a successful dating life.
Author Bio
Jenny Park is a writer and a fashion designer-blogger that lives in Chicago. Jenny is always passionate about her high interest in photography, fashion, and writing. She often writes and shares fashion ideas, hacks, and tips that are beneficial to the LGBT Community. Jenny is an active advocate for the LGBT rights.