I never even knew this term existed, until it actually happened to me. The sad part is that it's been done enough by individuals, that a term had to be created.
Why can't people just be sensitive and aware of how their actions will affect others?
You see I was ghosted for the first time at 25 years old. It wasn't by just some random stranger but rather by boyfriend. A man who told me he was ready to adopt a puppy with me and buy me a ring to signify how serious he was about me.
Yet suddenly, you decide to disappear? No more answers to my texts or calls. I was the one who gave silent treatments to people when I'm angry but never to you. I never gave you one because I was aware of the fact that it would cause you pain and anxiety if I didn’t answer you or explain that I am upset.
But when the tables turned, you didn’t care. I still don’t know what I did to upset you so badly that we didn’t even argue or discuss it. You wanted space, but never expressed it. How was I supposed to know what is going in your mind? I shared the most personal of thoughts with you because you told me to treat you as a friend first, then partner.
The thing that haunts me to this day is, what happened? I still have no idea. You said you don’t want to explain. You wouldn’t even let me hold your hand or kiss you on the cheek.
I lose sleep every night wondering what happened. And when I do manage to sleep, all I do is dream of you. I wonder if I’ll ever get past this. The only advice I have to give to any one reading this is, please don’t “ghost” people. It truly isn’t fun being on the receiving end. It’s painful and mind boggling to say the least.