Sometimes you need to take a step back from those who have been adding more dark clouds to your life than sunlight. You know the ones I’m talking about. They are the ones who aren’t always looking out for your best interest, who believe that their way is the only way, who have made you feel more lost than found.
These are the ones you keep around because you feel some sort of commitment to them. You know their secrets and they know yours. You’ve been through heart crushing breakups and every piece of drama you’ve both been dragged through.
But now you feel like something is off. Something they are doing or how they are acting is starting to rub you the wrong way. And while you feel like you shouldn’t walk away because maybe it’s just a phase, it’s starting to affect your mood. It’s beginning to change how they treat you and those around you.
Just know, you are not obligated to keep a friendship or relationship because you feel like you’re not allowed to walk away. Whether temporary or permanent, you need to do what feels right in your gut.
You are not in control of how someone reacts to what you choose to do. You are not responsible for someone else’s emotions. Do what you need to do to protect and preserve yourself. Letting people walk all over you will not do that.
Find yourself again. Be that boss ass bitch we all know you can be. Stand up, be proud and be loud. You were born with fire in your eyes. Don’t let someone else put that out. Do not give them that power.
Do not let anyone make you ashamed of who you are and what you’ve been through.
Do not allow anyone in your life who makes you question your self-worth and the morals you wholeheartedly believe in. You should never have to prove yourself to someone.
This world was not made by people being afraid of hurting another’s feelings. It was created on respecting those feelings but doing what they believed to be right for them.
That doesn’t mean you need to isolate yourself from everyone and become a total asshole who no one wants to be around. No, it means not being afraid to cut ties because of how they may feel and continuing being your lovely self.
It means making sure every relationship, whether friendship or more, is benefiting you more than hurting you. As a shoulder to cry on, a hand when you need help or just as someone with an always open and nonjudgmental ear.
Be kind. Be humble. Be true to yourself.
You can be compassionate and still stand up for yourself. You can let go of those who no longer fit where your life is at. It’s okay. You are growing and learning and changing. It’s what everyone is doing. And sometimes ideas and morals and reactions don’t line up anymore. They start rubbing the wrong way and feelings change.
Just like any story, not everyone is going to fit the narrative of your life for the rest of your days.
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