I constantly am the person who believes the future is everything. I always want to know and figure out what will happen. I plan for everything. I love to discuss the future with everyone. I think about itconstantly. Yet, I know…deep down.. I am TERRIFIED for it. Aren’t we all??? But yet, so much emphasis is put on succeeding and making it to the top. So much pressure to have the perfect family, life, job, house, etc. yet not so much pressure to live the perfect moment? I always wonder why is it that we live each day to succeed for the future, but never to succeed for the moment. I know there are some people out there who are big “LIVE IN THE PRESENT MOMENT” believers, but I wonder how many of those people actually do. We all say things we believe in, but somehow deep down I feel like we all struggleto keep up with our beliefs. I am not talking about the big beliefs where you believe in God and heaven. I am talking about the tiny ones. Ex. I believe we should all treat each other with kindness and respect,yet, we turn around and start talking about a person, not even thinking about what we just said. Those tiny beliefs, are the most important ones we try to guide our lives with and they make up who we are, but we contradict it every day. We all had that one love whom we believed we will marry one day,promised one another we would never leave, but then poof one day it is over, and then you think what in the world?! We swore we would never get over that person and then the next person comes by and the cycle happens again.
Life’s big moments are the scariest ones and the most remembered ones… Falling in love, getting married, graduating from high school and college, having kids, buying a house, buying your first car, getting that first big job, etc…. But we anxiously are waiting for each big moment, instead of living each day and enjoying this exact moment. I’m guilty of all of this, my whole life has been to succeed for the future. Go to class, do not fail that test, do not make mistakes, save your money, go to work, hold back those tears, fake that smile, hold back those words.. all because I feel like if I decide to do the opposite of all those things, I will not succeed and my future will not exist. I am sure I am not the only one out there that feels this way. That is why I want to reach out and share this with everyone, do not get caught up in the future, it will come one day. Do not think for one moment you can’t succeed or will never be successful because of what or who you are in this moment. Perhaps, you are going through a rough time in your life; you lost your job, going through a break up, overcoming an obstacle, living for someone else’s beliefs, or just plainly went down the wrong path and trying to get back on your feet.. Whatever it is, whoever is making you feel the way you feel, and you feel like nothing will ever get better.
Remember this: The future success you are aiming for is not defined by your terrible moments and/or the struggle you are going through. It is defined by the way you handle each moment..and how life is still going to be there for you.. you are going to be there for you... You have many shots at life… if you fall or stumble, pick yourself back up and remember, life is not defined by the future’s success, but by every moment you can remember that you were truly happy and living in that moment.