Going through a long distance relationship can be painful and frustrating, but often times rewarding and insightful. People who make it through these relationships are far more likely to start a family together down the lines than people who stick close by.
This is because long distance relationships revolve around mutual trust and understanding, not so much around constant dates and hangouts. How can you survive a relationship such as this and still make it through your college years with your significant other by your side?
Constant communication
First and foremost, relationships are built on communication. Talking to someone will let them know how you feel and what your plans are. This is especially important when you are in a long distance relationship and your significant other is far away.
Make sure that you always talk at the end of the day, at least for a couple of minutes. Texting and tagging each other on social media is also a wonderful way to fill in the gaps between seeing each other. Make sure that you talk to one another about anything that’s bothering you. It’s one of the most important aspects of keeping a relationship healthy and going.
Creating a schedule
Chances are that you won’t be able to see your significant other for extended periods of time. This is both good and bad news since both of you will be preoccupied with college obligations. It’s important to create a schedule that works for both of you.
It’s not true that it’s impossible to find a compromise and keep seeing each other even when you are hundreds of miles apart – but it’s easy to make excuses. Find a time every month that works for both of you and spend some time close to each other, if nothing else than for a weekend. Skyping and socializing over the internet also works and should be included in your mutual schedule.
Small gifts
You can easily send small tokens of love and appreciation to your significant other via mail or the internet. There are a lot of digital services out there that can serve as an adequate gift wherever you are. Buying your boyfriend or girlfriend Spotify or Netflix access for a couple of months will make them as happy as they can be because it’s a sign of caring. Think about what works for your SO and try to think of ways in which you can surprise them by giving them small gifts every now and then.
Surprise visits
While surprise visits work well on TV, it can be a hit or miss in real life. Your significant other might be super busy and unable to spend an hour with you even if you came from the other side of the country. This is why you should always communicate these things and find out when you are both free, even for a day.
Talking to your mutual friends might give you some hint of when you can visit unexpectedly, but make sure that your timing is good. You don’t want to mess up your significant other’s college plans or working obligations just because you missed them.
Writing letters
Letters are a lost art form and they can be extremely helpful in long distance relationship. Letters bring a sense of intimacy and humanity to your communication, and they can be wonderful additions to your relationship.
Try writing a letter every once in a while, even though you don’t feel confident in your writing abilities or handwriting – your significant other will surely appreciate it. You can always cheat a little bit by visiting Myessayslab and asking for some professional help, but letters are always best when they come from the heart.
Holidays together
Once the semester is over, you should definitely get back with your significant other and spend some quality time together. You will realize that all the work and effort you put into your relationship seems like a far distant past once you are together again. Holidays are a great way to create new memories and grow closer with one another. Travel to other countries or simply spend time at your parent’s place during the summer – it doesn’t matter as long as you are together.
Conclusions and future
Long distance couples are far more likely to talk about the future than regular couples. You two constantly want to be together and to simply sit there and laugh, doing nothing in particular. This is what separates long distance couples from the rest, and they are definitely worth your time and patience if you have found the right person for you. No amount of distance or time can break you apart as long as you are sure that you want to spend your life with that person.
Additional references credit
https://bedbible.com/long-distance-relationship-statistics/